Married man: I will not marry the woman I fell in love with for the first time!
Do you still remember the feeling of your heart beating faster when you held hands with her for the first time? Can you still remember how intensely you felt when you missed her? Have you not forgotten the uneasy yet unspeakable happiness you felt when you first dated her? Maybe you can’t remember what she looks like, but one day when you’re buying milk tea, you’ll suddenly remember that you once ran across several streets just to buy the flavor she likes, and then you smile, with the same trace of emotion that was scattered many years ago on your face. smile. Maybe there is another her beside you, but when you look through old photos many years later, your eyes will always stay on her position for a few more seconds, then close the photo album, close your eyes and remember, and try to search for her in your mind. shadow, hoping to retrieve some memory fragments, about innocence or sadness. We call our memories of her "first love" with a beautiful name.
First love is beautiful. No matter how naive or innocent it was at the time, we can never forget our first love. First love is like a cup of tea, overflowing with fragrance and extremely charming, yet steaming and unapproachable. We need to wait patiently with a calm heart and experience it calmly. And our first love is similar to drinking tea. When we are thirsty, we drink it in one gulp. We only focus on quenching our thirst but ignore the deep charm hidden in the tea. When we are anxious, we pick up the hot tea and drink it, but only end up hurting the tea. turn. Only by calming down, savoring it slowly and looking at it carefully can you understand its charm. The same is true for first love. Only when you treat it with your heart can you appreciate the happiness in it. Years later when we recall our first love, we can still feel the fragrance.
First love seems to be the paradise of vows. At that time, we thought that only oaths could express our loyalty, and we simply thought that oaths were forever and everything. So we not only bet on this life, but also on meeting in the next life, and even on being together for eternity, eternity. Therefore, we naturally think that she is your constant partner in this life, and you will stay together for life. You will say to her: "You are the first and the last person I love in this life." Then you will be very responsible and think that you want to marry her. This does seem to be perfect and very logical and moral. Moreover, the famous writer Ishikawa Tatsuzo also said this: "For a woman, a man who can give her happiness Maybe there is only the first one, and the subsequent men are the medium that prompts her to recall the first man. "But married men tell you, don't marry the woman you fell in love with for the first time!"
Why do you say that? What's not right about a woman who falls in love with you for the rest of your life? So let us first analyze and understand the first love woman.
First of all, women who fall in love for the first time do not understand true love. What is love? The first love woman's answer is: "They like each other." This answer is so simple but it can't help but be ridiculous. For women who are in love for the first time, they cannot distinguish the distance between good feelings and love, and cannot control their fantasies about beautiful things. Today, the two of you fell in love at first sight and liked each other. You thought this was the so-called love and combined with each other. Then in the future, when you meet someone you like and have a good impression of, will you also think it is love? How to ensure you don't cheat? Some people say that people who have only experienced one relationship do not understand love. For them, love is just as beautiful but illusory as the moon in the mirror and the flowers in the water.
Secondly, women who fall in love for the first time demand perfection, force romance, and are obsessed with some illusory and delicate things. In the dictionary of a woman who is in love for the first time, love seems to equal perfection and romance. Reverie is their special talent, and they will be obsessed with some illusory things. They like to watch boring Taiwanese idol dramas, and like to imagine that the person next to them is Britain's Prince William, and they are the lucky Cinderella. So they like to act coquettishly and like to make you do things you don't like to show your loyalty to her. They hope that each of them will always be fresh, and they hate the triviality of life. Maybe you can accept her various requests when you are in love, but can you guarantee that you will be obedient for countless days and nights in the future?
First love is always unbelievably perfect and pure, and vows are always so beautiful.
And liking the new and hating the old is a unique patent of human beings. Once we hit the emotional reef and the reasons no longer become reasons, such simple and pure feelings will no longer be perfect or without cracks. And once a rift appears, for the first love woman, your love has already gone to the grave, and no matter how you try to restore it, it will be of no use.
There is always an insurmountable gap between love and marriage, that is, life. After all, romance is based on life, and no matter how romantic love is, it can only be an embellishment of ordinary life. Life is about eating three meals a day, going to and from work, day after day. Love is just a momentary impulse. When the passion subsides and the romance is no longer there, what is left is only the affection of each other and the determination to share joys and sorrows. Life is not an idol drama, let alone a love fairy tale. When she discovers that you are not her Prince William and she is not a lucky Cinderella, the huge gap will make her act impulsively, and will you be able to accept her changes? Free?
Do you still remember the song "Forever and Forever" that was once popular all over the country? The true meaning of love is also expressed in the sad and simple melody: "Don't say forever to me. Forever is too expensive a vow. I can't hold it and can't see it. It disappears with the waves in the end." Yes, Although the oath sounds beautiful, it will inevitably run aground when it comes to life. Maybe it's enough for you to have loved her, and being able to keep her in your heart is also the greatest loyalty to her, so why force it for eternity?
People who fall in love for the first time are like standing on two ends of a huge scale. On one side is perfect love, endless romance and sweet vows, while on the other side is real life, the cruel fleeting time, the ordinary. And the days repeat endlessly. One side needs the ever-changing freshness and illusory romance, while the other side needs the loyalty and determination of never giving up. I think you have made up your mind about which way to go. If you are still hesitant and unable to let go, then please listen to the advice of married men: please don’t marry the woman you love for the first time! Because their declaration is: I will not marry the woman I love for the first time!