China is an ancient civilization with thousands of years, and it is a big country of etiquette. In the process of historical evolution, China has played a role in educating millions of people. Today, we can still see that the customs, habits, etiquette and costumes of some neighboring countries still retain our ancient traditions, which shows that our civilization and etiquette have a far-reaching impact on other countries.
It can be said that civilized etiquette is a fortune left by our ancestors, and how to inherit and carry forward it is a problem we should consider.
What is etiquette?
"Etiquette is education" refers to learning etiquette, using etiquette and showing one's good self-cultivation. Good manners can leave a good impression on others, which is conducive to communication and exchange, and is conducive to showing one's temperament.
Etiquette should abide by the following principles:
The first is the principle of respecting people. Respect for others is an important guarantee for the success of interpersonal communication and the core of etiquette. The principle of respecting people means that when using etiquette, we must give priority to respecting and paying attention to the people we associate with, and never hurt each other's self-esteem. The second is the principle of self-discipline. Self-discipline means self-restraint and prudence; It is to take the initiative, voluntariness, self-reference, self-reflection, self-requirement, self-restraint and self-restraint when using etiquette, and it is not allowed to be arrogant and arrogant; People can't be different after their predecessors or before strangers and acquaintances. The third is the principle of moderation. Using etiquette, like doing other things, pays attention to concrete analysis of specific problems, and it is too late to remember. The so-called moderation means that when using etiquette, we should not only master the universal law, but also aim at the specific situation, be serious and decent, and master the sense of proportion, and we should not overdo it or do it inappropriately. The fourth is the principle of sincerity. When applying etiquette, you must be sincere and treat others sincerely. Doing so, being friendly and respectful to others, will be easily accepted by others. The use of etiquette is not allowed to take part in accidental amusement, words and deeds are inconsistent, duplicity, opportunism and deception are the meanings of the principle of good faith.
While we strongly advocate learning civilized manners, let's think about a question, why do our excellent things use well by others, but our own people don't use them or use them well? This reminds me of a little story: once upon a time, there was a family with a lot of money and many treasures at home. People around them, including relatives and friends, often visit. The children in this family have lived in luxury since childhood, treating wealth like dirt and throwing away their good things at will. Discarded treasures are preserved by others, and they are brought home to worship and passed down from generation to generation. Why? Because they don't, they need it. Once they have it, they will treat it reverently. Day after day, the more children in that family lose, the more others gain. I think everyone will understand that the people around us refer to Japan, North Korea and other countries, and that rich boy refers to China people from generation to generation. And when we realize that we have lost too much and want to make up for it, people in other countries have already used our wealth and carried it forward. Therefore, as a member of the Chinese nation, we have to reflect deeply.
And think about the current society, backwardness is on the one hand, and how many people are seriously doing research, researching and protecting their own things? From the proportion of patents in various countries, it can be seen that the patents created by the United States and Japan account for 90% of the world each year, and only Japanese patents account for 30% of the world. This can't help but make people think that our country has lost its creative function while retaining its own treasures, or has its creative function failed? And the mentality of China people now is to sit here and eat empty mountains, or wait for others to do something for their own use and imitate the people around them?
Civilized etiquette is a fine tradition of our Chinese nation. In daily life, the behaviors embodied in etiquette can be seen everywhere. How can we learn manners well? It takes time and energy to learn a thick etiquette manual completely and comprehensively. Of course you have to learn, and more importantly, how to use it. Not learning means not learning, and the consequences are more serious. This is just like breaking the law. It is more serious to know the law than not to know it. Therefore, we should not only learn civilized manners, but also apply what we have learned. Therefore, our slogan is "be polite, start from me, start from now"