In the usual marital psychological counseling, marital infidelity, extramarital affairs or the appearance of a third party in marriage are all frequent topics of contact, perhaps due to the influence of social environment or people's tolerance for marriage at present. Whether it is premarital love, flash marriage, love at first sight or embracing each other, it is normal, which can be accepted by many people and can be a topic of chat, but when they really face themselves and let themselves encounter similar things.
When the marriage is derailed or there is a third party, the so-called victim or party thinks that it is difficult for anyone to escape responsibility. How can life become dull after two people's vigorous love step into marriage? After having children, the * * * between two people will slowly fall back. If they can't manage and face their marriage with heart, if they just cope with or can't take responsibility, especially the convenience of today's social environment and online world, it is natural for marriage to have problems, just like many parties. I don't want a divorce myself, I just want to have fun, but marriage is marriage and feelings are selfish. If I joke about marriage and just want to play a game, I will look back at many marriage disputes. Who can stand loneliness when two people are in marriage? When the other party walks out of marriage, it hurts to regret. It hurts not only the parties themselves, but also their closest relatives and children and their parents. Where is the so-called regret? There is another strange phenomenon in marriage. At first, my wife was arrogant to her husband and didn't take him seriously. When one day her husband has a woman outside, she will try her best to save it before she realizes how stupid and helpless she was. I thought that as long as her husband came back and she cherished it, she would cherish this hard-won marriage and choose to forgive her husband. I hope my husband can change his mind and cherish each other's possession. As a wife, she will also re-examine her position in the family and her past mistakes in marriage. When her husband comes back, she will try her best to cater to him and hope to impress him with her own actions.
Often the more you become a husband, the more you alienate yourself. In the end, you can't understand how much you have paid. My husband will choose to leave himself. If he can't understand and handle the relationship between them in marriage, he can't position himself well, and he can't rethink what he has done and what he is doing. I believe that even if her husband comes back, he will abandon himself one day and have a woman outside her husband. As a wife, will you calm down and think about yourself, what makes her husband go out to find a woman, what attracts her husband, is her husband fond of the new and tired of the old, or is there any problem between them? I suggest: 9 warm details of maintaining marriage 1, straighten his tie before going to work in the morning, and help him smooth his disobedient hair. Small details can also make a man feel warm and soft. When these details become a habit, he will feel more at ease and cannot live without you. Remember every special day and celebrate with him.
You don't have to be a man to do it. The way a woman celebrates will be more intimate and romantic, and it will also make him feel warmer and more loving. 3. Take "Dear Effort" as the mantra.
Don't forget to hug him and say, "Dear, thank you for your hard work" whether you come home from work, or repair appliances or faucets. Don't give him advice when you are sure that he is in trouble.
Don't rush to solve the problem for him unless he formally asks for it. Believe that he can handle it well, otherwise, he will feel deeply hurt, because you obviously expressed your distrust of his ability.
Don't mind letting him pull out your hair. In front of your lover, you don't need any affectation. You will spend your life together. You gave him all your white hair. What else can you hide from him and not trust him? 6. When he misses someone, he walks away quietly.
It is said that all men have a "cave period". When they have problems, they are used to sorting out their thoughts quietly. At this time, don't express your concern and walk away quietly. He will appreciate your thoughtfulness and understanding. 7. Dress yourself and dress him.
Let you always be lovers in the eyes of friends. You are not afraid to make him young and handsome forever, because you have not lost confidence-how can a woman who has no confidence in herself give others a sense of security? 8. Say you love him.
Similarly, regardless of the occasion, regardless of the times. Don't always force him to "love me or not". On the contrary, remember to tell him your love from time to time.
9. Know his favorite dishes and be brave in learning and practicing. The sentence "Grasping a man's stomach is equal to grasping a man's heart" is a bit excessive, but it really works.
Knowing his taste, cooking his favorite dishes, or learning to cook his favorite dishes, even occasionally, will make him feel your love deeply. Give yourself a time and give your husband a time, complain about divorce easily, sit down with each other calmly and listen to each other's voices, and also speak out your inner anguish and entanglement.
What would you do if you got married and had an affair?
Sometimes you should look at things from another angle. Try to look at it from your girlfriend's point of view. This problem will be solved very well. Besides, you have been together for so long, you must have feelings. How else did you get together? ! When you meet for the first time, you must have the same feeling of heartache as that girl now, but this kind of * * * gradually fades with the growth of your time together and gradually evolves into a feeling similar to family, but this is normal. Even if you stay with the girl you are very excited about for n years, your feelings will become dull and calm. Besides, you may be getting married now. Your parents have accepted this girl. If they break up at this time, they will be very sad. You also said that your girlfriend is very kind to you now. Isn't this over? Marriage is not like love. If you want to find a wife, you really need to find someone who is good to you. Trust me, treat your current girlfriend well and you will be very happy!
Blessing! !
3. Is it illegal for a woman to cheat after marriage?
If it is illegal, the marriage law explicitly prohibits spouses from living with others. If the other party is bigamous, it can be regarded as bigamy. If sentenced according to law, the other party can go to court for prosecution. The specific provisions are as follows:
the marriage law of the people's republic of china
Article 3 Arranging, buying and selling marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage are prohibited. It is forbidden to ask for property through marriage.
Bigamy is prohibited. Spouses are prohibited from living together with others. Domestic violence is prohibited. Abuse and abandonment between family members are prohibited.
Article 45 Whoever commits domestic violence or maltreats or abandons family members in bigamy shall be investigated for criminal responsibility according to law. The victim may file a private prosecution with the people's court in accordance with the relevant provisions of the Criminal Procedure Law; The public security organ shall investigate according to law, and the people's procuratorate shall initiate public prosecution according to law.
Article 32 If a man or a woman requests a divorce, the relevant department may mediate or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court.
When trying divorce cases, the people's court shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has really broken down and mediation fails, divorce shall be granted.
In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, divorce shall be granted:
(a) bigamy or a spouse living with others;
(2) committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;
(three) gambling, drug abuse and other bad habits;
(four) separated for two years due to emotional discord;
(5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the marriage relationship.
Criminal law of the people's Republic of China
Article 258 Whoever commits bigamy while having a spouse, or marries while knowing that others have a spouse, shall be sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment of not more than two years or criminal detention.
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If the divorce is due to the other party's bigamy, and you are not at fault, you can apply for compensation, as follows:
Article 46 In case of divorce under any of the following circumstances, the innocent party has the right to claim damages:
(1) Bigamy;
(two) a spouse living with others;
(3) committing domestic violence;
(4) maltreating or abandoning family members.
4. What is the cost of cheating in marriage?
First, how much compensation is generally awarded for derailment?
Divorce damages include material damages and mental damages. Where compensation for mental damage is involved, the relevant provisions of the Interpretation of the Supreme People's Court on Several Issues Concerning Determining the Liability for Compensation for Mental Damage in Civil Tort shall apply.
Compensation for material damage includes: direct material damage caused by collecting evidence of bigamy of the other party, prosecution fees, attorney fees, etc.
(two) the amount of compensation for mental damage is determined according to the following factors:
1, the degree of fault of the infringer, unless otherwise provided by law;
2, the means of infringement, occasions, behavior and other specific circumstances;
3. Consequences of infringement;
4. The profits of the infringer;
5. The economic ability of the infringer to take responsibility;
6. The average living standard in the seat of the Court of Appeal.
In practice, we usually make a comprehensive judgment according to the means, occasions and behaviors of the fault party, the degree of damage caused to the victim, the economic ability of the fault party to take responsibility, and the local average living standard.
Second, how to determine the compensation standard for derailed divorce
Compensation for derailed divorce includes two aspects: material damage compensation and mental damage compensation.
(1) Compensation for material damage includes direct material damage such as the cost of collecting evidence of the other party's bigamy, prosecution fee and lawyer's fee.
(2) Because there is no clear standard of compensation for mental damage in China, there is no clear standard of compensation for mental damage suffered by divorce due to extramarital affairs. In practice, because of the rising probability of extramarital affairs, there are still many people who want to know about the divorce compensation for extramarital affairs. In practice, it needs to be determined according to the following criteria:
1, the degree of mental damage of the innocent party in extramarital affairs. The degree of mental injury and mental pain suffered by the victim can be considered, such as whether there are emotional disorders such as anger, fear, anxiety, depression and sadness; Whether the physical illness is caused by mental and emotional injury; Whether depression and trance affect work and life; Whether there is mental illness and so on. Because the damage results involve people's physical and mental aspects, medical units can be entrusted to make corresponding judgments when necessary.
2. The specific derailment circumstances of the wrong party of extramarital affairs. For example, bigamy is more serious and harmful than adultery, which is a bad plot. Adultery is relatively minor.
3. The fault degree of the fault party of extramarital affairs. For example, does the behavior of one party and the third party seriously affect the life of the innocent party?
4. Other relevant factors. Factors such as the age of marriage, the length of marriage, the feelings of both parties after marriage, and the contribution of the innocent party to marriage life should all be considered as compensation factors.
Based on the above, we can know that if one party has an affair, it does not actually constitute the legal fault of divorce stipulated in the Marriage Law. At this time, it is difficult to get the support of the court by directly asking the derailed party for compensation. Only by providing evidence to prove that the other party's cheating has constituted bigamy or cohabitation with others can divorce compensation be made at the same time. As for how much compensation is generally awarded for derailment, it is calculated according to different factors.