Modern people are not short of trauma, and often lick blood in loneliness. People who can go out can regain happiness. Those who can't get out can either continue to hurt themselves or continue to hurt people around them.
Self-healing is easy to say, but without the intervention of external forces, it can only rotate in the old ideological circle.
External force is not necessarily a person, but a religion, a book, a word. No matter what form it takes, it is important to break the original inertia and create a new thinking and ideological pattern.
The hero and heroine in this book, under a certain opportunity, met the psychotherapist who changed their lives and started the journey of exploring self-healing. Then, we met unexpectedly, and life was different from then on.
Just like these two protagonists, everyone has to suffer unbearable losses at some stage. Unfortunately, in recent years, I have seen thousands of cases in legal work, but few people are willing to seek psychotherapy. Perhaps the traditional concept regards psychotherapy as the treatment of mental illness, and I always feel that this means that I am sick!
In fact, whether people who need psychotherapy are sick or not, since they will see an otolaryngologist for colds and a physiotherapist for sprains, why are most people unwilling to seek professional treatment for psychological trauma? I think, I don't want to face my vulnerability so bloody!
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My own mother suffered severe mental trauma, and I was in charge of taking care of her. In two years, I carefully studied her etiology and pathogenesis, and accompanied her all the time.
Although I am not a professional psychotherapist, I believe that trauma needs listening, observation and support besides medical treatment. Interestingly, people's wounds often come from people, but no one can't be cured.
We usually fall into psychological confusion because of losing love, because we can feel love again and have a chance to recover. I like to discover my ability to feel caring through writing and writing. In fact, all the love around me is still there, but you have lost your insight.
A cool drink, a delicious meal, a classic famous saying, as long as they appear at the right time, there will be opportunities for us to meet new opportunities, provided that you are willing to try and experience, and then you will find that if you take one more step, you will see more sunshine.
I don't think anyone can fully understand another person's pain, but we can try to understand the help that may be needed in the same situation.
As the book says, injured people need sincere acceptance and high respect. Isn't this an adventure on the meaning of life?
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting the trauma. On the contrary, by examining our own vulnerability, we can find a way not to get hurt next time and bravely accept the challenge again, so that your strength will be improved and your mind will be freed.
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"How have you been recently? Remember to always think about yourself and understand your uniqueness. In life, it is inevitable to feel cold. You have to embrace yourself and realize your current psychological appearance before you have a chance to wash your mind and feel the temperature again. This is a healing journey.
In the end, we still have to be true to be saved.