Think about it. You have a fixed half-day working time every week. Do you want to yell and blame each other in front of groups of crying hysterical couples, brothers and sisters, parents and children in court? Perhaps many people's first impression of marriage lawyers is only awe.
Family quarrels are sometimes more inhuman than enemies in the market place. Not to mention respecting the order of speech, even the judge's striking table to stop it is invalid. There are worse situations. Occasionally, I have seen lawyers who walk out of court sweating profusely, and their faces are covered with sweat or tears. Yes, this is what happened to us in court.
What is more troublesome is that lawyers have to sort out the arguments and evidence of both sides (sometimes there is no evidence at all, just something to turn over old accounts with each other), and then try to get the judge to make a judgment or ruling. The number of open cases in the hands of lawyers may easily exceed 200.
What if there is often no evidence in family disputes? See reason. At this time, the judge can only make good use of his understanding of human nature accidents and his ability to interpret human nature.
In my experience as a marriage and family lawyer, most cases in which people fight with nature are related to children. For example, a couple divorced and gave birth to two twin boys, one with their father and the other with their mother. For a long time, this person who was with her mother always couldn't bear to end the happy time with her brother every time she went to live with her father, so I expressed my wish to live with my brother, but my mother couldn't bear to be separated from her brother and couldn't agree with her father's request to let her children live together.
At this time, it is not the difference between mother and son on the value of companionship. It is not the point how the judge finally sentenced, but after the verdict, neither side raised any dissatisfaction. We know that this is not a good judgment accepted by both sides calmly, just because no one wants such a cruel trial to torture the twin brothers again.
In addition to the above, there are many other clients in our weekly work, who are lying in hospital beds and at home, waiting for us to evaluate them in person. So lawyers travel a lot every week.
Because the work is too heavy, the effort is unimaginable. But many times, after lawyers enter the family marriage law firm, they find that this is a place that can reverse the passive and cold impression of the court. In many cases, we can use our enthusiasm to actively intervene in the investigation, persuade both parties to make concessions, and inject a glimmer of hope into the lives of the parties. Personal experience, in the family court, we get the gratitude of the parties, which is more direct and profound than the civil court and the criminal court.
I dare not say that the happiness of the parties must come from the efforts of every marriage and family lawyer. In the current allocation of judicial resources and manpower, there are only a few more examples of karoshi; I just hope that bad money will not drive out good money in the future. If you have the ability and enthusiasm of a marriage and family lawyer, please take care of yourself.