On the surface, the bride price is a custom of about 200 thousand. In fact, it is agreed according to the specific situation of the family. The actual gap is very big, and the tricks are all in the dowry.
Situation 1: Marry the daughter of a rich family, the daughter of a Kochi family or the daughter of a city, and return the bride price of 200,000 yuan to the couple's house as a daughter's dowry, and the father-in-law will add a generous dowry, such as a car, and bring it to the couple's house together. Bridal gifts and dowry will generally become the bride's private money.
When wealthy families and highly educated families marry their daughters, the first consideration is the happiness of their daughters and the comfort of the young couple. After marriage, the young couple are very sweet. When money is needed, the daughter-in-law takes it out.
Since the bride price will be retired, women in the city don't care much about the bride price. Sometimes, 30,000 to 50,000 is enough. Of course, the house is still just needed.
Case 2: Marry a wife in a poor place where son preference is serious. The man's 200,000 bride price was withheld by his father-in-law, which may be for your brother-in-law's wife. The dowry may be just a few quilts.
Although the parents of this family keep saying that for the sake of their daughter's face, the first consideration is not her daughter's happiness, but the opportunity to recover the cost of raising and marry her younger brother.
Situation 3: Of course, there is also a bride price of 200,000 yuan. If it is returned, it will be deducted by half.
Situation 4: In a more extreme situation, my mother-in-law may insist that there is a bride price of 200,000 yuan and a dowry in 0 yuan. If I don't scare you, I will break up and change to another one. I have always been willing to fight. Or when talking before marriage, the woman promises that the bride price will go through the motions and be returned after marriage. Don't say you are a rogue after marriage, and your daughter-in-law will cry and beg you not to force her parents.
Therefore, whether to return the bride price after marriage depends on how the families of both parties agreed before marriage.
Obviously, if you marry a daughter-in-law, you will definitely be willing to give priority to the daughters of rich families, Kochi families and urban families, but the competition is fierce, as everyone knows.
There are four situations:
Situation 1: urban men marry urban women, and the bride price is not big.
Case 2: Village men marry village women. Although the bride price is big, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer. As long as the bride doesn't go back on her word, it's no big problem.
But once, the woman was detained by her parents after asking for a huge bride price. The bride married her husband's family empty-handed. When she saw his family's property drained by the bride price, the family was surrounded by walls and there were huge debts. Life is hard, so she often quarrels with the groom. After returning to her mother's house, she refused to go back to her husband's house, and even filed for divorce and went out to work. However, the woman refused to return the bride price, which led to the husband and wife. The two families turned against each other and even led to criminal cases. This is a typical case of tragedy caused by sky-high bride price.
Situation 3: There will be some entanglements when a village man marries a city woman, commonly known as Phoenix Man. But men generally earn money, so the relatives of men should not go too far.
Situation 4: Urban men marry rural women. In this case, girls are the most entangled.
The phenomenon of low marriage and high marriage is widespread in all parts of China. The girls in the village want to marry into the city. Everyone in the town wants to marry into the county seat. People from the county want to marry into the urban provincial capital. The provincial capital wants to marry in Beishangguang.
However, city people don't have the custom of sky-high bride price, and just want to give 1 0,000 red envelopes.
The woman wants to get rich, otherwise she will feel sorry for her parents and lose face.
The man's family makes the woman and the girl very tempted.
The mother-in-law advised her son to find another daughter-in-law in the city, lest the daughter-in-law who came home be a helper for his brother.
While emphasizing the custom, the woman's mother-in-law kept saying that it was good for her daughter, while holding a pesticide bottle, hiding her daughter's household registration book and forcing her daughter to earn bride price money in order to marry her brother in the future.
Boyfriends in the city have a tough attitude. At this time, another young man in the village proposed marriage. He was willing to spend all his money to pay 300,000 bride price instead of dowry.
This is tangled.
Marrying a city man is very happy after marriage, but the parents at home don't have much money for bride price.
Married to a village man, parents get a huge bride price, but their marriage life will be very hard.
Girls' ideas are also two extremes.
Some steal the household registration book to register with their boyfriends, deduct the bride price money themselves and raise their sons after marriage. Her parents accused her of being heartless, and she accused her parents of betraying her daughter. I can't tell who is right and who is wrong.
Some resolutely earn a lot of bride price money for their parents' family, even if they go to their husband's family to suffer and pay their debts after marriage. Earn some money at ordinary times, just like Fan, try very hard to supplement his parents' family, and take care of his younger brother regardless of his son after marriage. Husband accused her of being a helper, and she accused her husband of having no conscience. I wonder if I can live.
Finally, add a little legal knowledge. I hope you don't use it.
The General Principles of Civil Law, which was promulgated and implemented on June+10/October 1 July, 65438, is aimed at the rampant phenomenon of cheating on marriage and betrothal gifts in China, draining the life savings of the parents of the man, leading to difficulties in life and heavy debts, which in turn leads to many serious cases such as disputes, fights, arson and armed killings, causing adverse social impact.
Simply put, if you want to return the bride price, you must get married or divorce. If the marriage continues, the court will not return the bride price.
20 13, a woman in Suqian city, Jiangsu province refused to return the bride price of 20888 yuan because of the dissolution of her marriage, and was sentenced to 9 months in prison.
If the court decides that the woman deliberately cheats the marriage for profit (more than twice the profit from the bride price, avoiding court summons or police pursuit), she will be sentenced for fraud. If the amount is huge (more than 6,543,800+10,000 yuan), he shall be sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment of not less than 3 years but not more than 7 years with reference to precedent.
If you don't want a divorce, can you ask your father-in-law for a bride price? Of course. If the bride wants her parents' money back.
20 13 Lianyungang Donghai people's court concluded a case in which a daughter sued her parents for returning the bride price paid by her husband before marriage. The court found that the bride price was a conditional gift. Give it to whoever the donor says. As long as the man shows that the bride price is for herself, the bride can ask her parents to return the bride price money. According to relevant laws, the court ruled that the two defendants immediately returned their daughters 200,000 yuan.