Jiang Mumu is a junior. In the summer vacation when he is about to enter his senior year, he went to Shanghai for an internship with the big troops in his class, found a good unit, and shared a house with a classmate Xiao Ke who is not very familiar with him. Jiang Mumu has several friends in Shanghai, so his first weekend in Shanghai was packed with people. On Friday night, when going home with Xiaoke, Jiang Mumu excitedly asked Xiaoke what his plans were for the weekend, and told Xiaoke to go surfing with friends when he was not at home at the weekend. During this period, Jiang Mumu asked Xiaoke why he didn't find friends to play with. Xiaoke replied coldly: "I have no friends in Shanghai!" " Jiang Mumu was embarrassed and said nothing. At home, Xiaoke plunged into the quilt to sleep, and even when Jiang Mumu woke up with a runny nose, he said impatiently to Jiang Mumu, "You are so noisy." .
Jiang Mumu felt very wronged and came to talk to me. She doesn't understand why she just shares her happy things with Xiaoke, but Xiaoke's attitude is really like this, as if showing off many friends. In fact, nobody is right or wrong about it, but Jiang Mumu shared it with the wrong people. If Jiang Mumu tells her parents that she is not around, maybe her parents will be happy for her and have friends around to take care of her, but this person is small, which is different. She has no friends in Shanghai, but Jiang Mumu has been talking about her dating with friends. Xiaoke will inevitably feel sad and think that Jiang Mumu is showing off.
Before sharing your things with others, you should first see if the other person will feel happy or sad for you because of this. Sharing happy things with the right person is double happiness, and sharing sad things with the right person is half sorrow.
No one can explain the subtle relationship between people. That doesn't mean you have to live by yourself. It's like you divorced a parent and kept saying how happy your family is, but you complained to a man with a broken leg that you accidentally grazed your leg and couldn't play basketball for the time being. This is beside the point. People who are not right, of course, have a bad result. Personally, I think this is also a part of one's cultivation in the process of growing up.