Before finding true love, we enjoy the nourishment of friendship and affection. Relatives and friends are naturally the most important people in life. But after finding true love, our focus will shift.
When we get married and start a family, our life will turn a new page. At this time, we should focus on the small family, and love will become the most important support in the future.
Smart women will cherish love as an honor, while some women who are not sure of their priorities will satisfy their selfishness by overdrawing their lovers. Doing this for a long time is likely to lose happiness.
0 1. After graduating from university, Ding Hao stayed in the big city to develop. After working for several years, he bought a suite in his hometown with his savings and money sponsored by his parents. After that, he found a new job, ready to find true love and start a new life.
Because I hate blind date, I insist on free love. As he often goes shopping in the same snack bar, he knows Xiao Hui who works there. The two are similar in age. After many contacts, they have a good impression on each other and quickly established a love relationship.
Knowing that Xiao Hui's salary is low, Ding Hao often gives her red envelopes. He often takes Xiaohui shopping to buy clothes on weekends. Every date, Xiaohui has a habit, which is to pack an extra delicious dish and bring it to her brother.
By chance, Ding Hao discovered a secret of Xiaohui's mobile phone: every time she received a red envelope, she changed hands to transfer the money to her brother. Xiaohui said, "We are brothers and sisters. I have loved this brother since I was a child."
02. Ding Hao didn't think much. After all, Xiaohui is a sensible and gentle girl. When engaged, Xiaohui indicated that the bride price was only 88,000 yuan, but asked to buy a house near the work unit. Ding Hao happened to have more than 300,000 savings, so he made a down payment.
However, on the night of receiving the license, Ding Hao received a list of expenses listed by Xiaohui. In addition to the 88,000 bride price, he also saw additional expenses such as "28,000 door blocking fee, 654.38+0.000 boarding fare, 654.38+0.000 disembarkation fare and 38,000 ticket change fee".
Ding Hao was very angry and wanted to have a good theory, but the wedding day was approaching, so he had to compromise. What makes him even more angry is that all the molecular money Xiao Hui had left went to her mother-in-law, which was originally used to pay for the hotel.
The accident happened on the first day of marriage, and Ding Hao felt very uncomfortable. However, after marriage, Xiao Hui's tenderness made him feel a lot of warmth. But at the end of the first year, he found Xiaohui secretly gave his family savings to his younger brother.
Ding Hao was very angry, but Xiao Hui took the initiative to admit his mistake, and the amount was not much, so he didn't care too much. After that, life returned to calm, and the relationship between husband and wife gradually stabilized.
03. In the second year after marriage, my brother-in-law fell in love. On Xiao Hui's birthday, she offered to lend her brother a suite that Ding Hao had bought before. After all, the suite has always been empty. Ding Hao felt reasonable and agreed.
However, a few days later, my brother-in-law sent a message: "Brother-in-law, the rough house you sent can't live, and then give me 200,000 yuan to decorate." Ding Hao was puzzled: "I didn't give you the house. I just borrowed it from you. I have no obligation to help you decorate it."
At home, Ding Hao found such a conversation in Xiaohui's mobile phone: "Sister, you have to help me find a way to go to my wedding room!" "You can rest assured that your brother-in-law lives in this suite first, and I will try to get him to send you a room. Really can't. If you don't leave then, can he still turn his face? "
See Xiaohui once again put his brother first, see Xiao Hui again and again "play their own ideas", Ding Hao's heart is very cold. How to face his marriage next, his heart suddenly lost its direction.
Without his wife's attention and respect, and due gratitude and consideration, Ding Hao has been desperate in repeated losses. Xiaohui is a girl who cares about her family, but her behavior of not defining her priorities, shifting the pressure of her family to her lover and not paying enough attention to the relationship between husband and wife is actually a manifestation of ignorance and selfishness.
Women are eager for love and care, while men are eager for understanding and recognition, but "security" is the pursuit of both men and women in marriage. The sense of security in marriage comes partly from our own strength and partly from the trust, understanding and sincerity of our lover.
Marriage should allow us to gain and grow. After marriage, we should focus on the relationship between lover and husband and wife. The warmth of a small family is the premise for us to enjoy long-term happiness; The trust and support of our lover is the condition for us to help our family and release our love.
Men don't want much. When you sincerely put him first, he can feel your love and sincerity. After that, he must be very generous Therefore, since a person has been identified, he should be given attention and respect.
Some people are very selfish. In order to meet their inner needs, they will use some routines. Once you touch the bottom line of your lover, once you involve the issue of principle, it will bring serious consequences.
Don't think that husband and wife can ask for it without principle. The more stable the relationship, the more it needs to be maintained. Be sincere enough to your lover at all times.