Psychological Counseling for Middle School Students: How do parents communicate effectively with their children?

Almost all parents eagerly expect their children to do well in school, stand in society when they grow up and become pillars of talent. Facing the children who are attending junior high school, not only their health and knowledge are growing, but also their outlook on life is gradually forming. How to communicate with junior high school children unimpeded is an issue that every family and parents are eagerly concerned about. Dr. Liu Hui, an expert in adolescent psychological counseling in Beijing Yanyuan, summed up the characteristics of junior high school students from his own consulting experience and gave the following suggestions on how parents can communicate effectively with junior high school students: 1. Parents should keep pace with the times and absorb all kinds of information and knowledge through various channels, such as sponge water absorption. From astronomy to geography, many new terms will appear in the dialogue. But how much do parents know about these new terms? Parents don't understand their children's language and ideas. How can they communicate effectively with their children? This requires our parents to keep pace with the times. Pay more attention to current affairs news, read more fashion magazines, know the names of singers that children like, know major sports competitions, know how to surf the Internet, know the popular vocabulary and so on. These can not only enrich and improve themselves, but also narrow the distance with children. Why not? Parents should know how to respect their children. What parents hear most is respect for their children. But did you really do it when you heard the most? Respect is based on equality. The relationship between parents and children should be a relationship of mutual learning and common growth, rather than a relationship in which one party "disciplines" the other. When communicating with children, parents should fully respect their children's "giving more suggestions and giving fewer orders" so that children can feel it psychologically. Don't blindly use the tone of the command, such as must, immediately, affirmation, etc. Instead, use the tone of discussion, for example, no, ok. This can make children feel that my parents respect me and treat me as an adult. Although children may use imperative tone such as "must" and "immediately", their psychological feelings are completely different. Parents should know how to listen to this. Many parents know but don't do it. They are more about letting their children listen to themselves, talking about their childhood, how difficult it is to raise children, and so on. They seldom listen patiently and carefully to what the children are saying. Think about it. If parents don't understand their children's thoughts and feelings, how can they help them solve their problems? The communication between parents and children should be two-way, interactive and barrier-free communication between parents and children. When communicating, give your child time to talk. When children talk to you about problems, parents should pay attention to their expressions and actions, keep their eyes on their children, listen carefully to their words, and express their views and opinions in a calm and mutual understanding atmosphere. Once children talk to their parents, it means that they treat you as classmates and friends. The distance between parents and children has narrowed, and communication will naturally be smooth, which has played a positive role in promoting the healthy and normal growth of children. It can also prevent children from puppy love and internet addiction in this period. Parents should know the characteristics of children in this period in advance, which is called "planning ahead". Parents should know in advance the physical and psychological characteristics of their children in a certain period, as well as the problems that are prone to occur. Thus giving early guidance and prevention, which is very important for the healthy growth of children. For example, when a child is in the first grade, his physical development is extremely rapid, especially his sexual development. At this time, it is necessary to explain some common knowledge of adolescent health to children so that children will not be at a loss. And how children should know their feelings for the opposite sex. If parents can understand their children's changes and ideas in time, they can give correct guidance in time. I believe that children's psychological and physical development will be very healthy. Parents should be good at using various communication channels. By the time children reach middle school, they already have a strong sense of independence and self-care ability. The heavy study task makes the time for parents to communicate with their children relatively reduced, especially for children living in school, and the opportunities for communication between the two sides are even less. Parents should create as many communication channels as possible. For example, weekends and holidays are important communication opportunities for parents and children. Parents should avoid socializing, reduce their work, try to chat with their children, watch TV, listen to music, surf the Internet and travel. These are all effective forms of communication.