The child is precocious, what should I do?

Four-year-old Lei Lei told his mother that he had a girlfriend in kindergarten and they planned to get married and have children. Ten-year-old Wen Wen disdains children's toys, but likes handsome stars and learns from their words and deeds. Twelve-year-old Binbin's grades are poor, but she can tell many examples of making a lot of money without reading. His diary and composition are very adult in wording and thought. My parents are scared. Why are children so precocious? What is precocious thinking? The author can't find its exact definition. It should be a relative concept and the result of comparison with peers. Every age group has a psychology corresponding to it. And some children's thoughts are beyond the thoughts of their peers, so it's called precocity, right? So, as an adult, what should we do in the face of these children who think earlier than their peers? Of course, we should not be helpless or let it go, but should find the root of the problem and teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Now is the information age, and children don't have to get knowledge from their parents and teachers. Four-year-old Gaga has no idea what a girlfriend is. It's just that everyone else says and does it. He thinks it's funny, just say it and do it. Adults don't have to make a fuss, just laugh it off. Ten-year-old Wen Wen likes star handsome guys, so don't classify her as a bad boy. The child is too young to judge at all. She needs the care and respect of adults, wants to have her own space, and does not allow adults to interfere too much. For such a child, adults should communicate with her as much as possible and gradually enter her psychology. Only by correctly understanding the child's needs can we guide her well. Binbin's thoughts have deviated from the right track. But he is still a child and can't mature into an adult. In order to avoid bringing unnecessary pain to children, adults should stand in the child's perspective, overcome wrong tendencies and help him get rid of confusion and get out of trouble. Many precocious children are gradually formed unintentionally, and adults often ignore its production process. So pay more attention to children's daily life. Once the child is found to have signs of precocious puberty, it is necessary to quickly find out the reason and correct it. It is necessary to pay attention to controlling the media that children are exposed to, help children clarify fallacies and heresies in the media in time, control watching TV programs that are not suitable for children, and help children distinguish which ones should be imitated and which ones should not be imitated. Try to find time to play some children's games with your children and encourage them to interact with their peers. Early maturity does not mean that Xiao He will mature one day. Colleague Liu Jie nervously said to everyone in the office, "My daughter said that she has a boyfriend in kindergarten. What should I do? " Colleagues listened to a burst of laughter, and then some people lamented that children are now prematurely mature, and some people complained about the infringement of social bad information on children. I am the youngest in the office. Although I have no experience in educating children, I still remember my psychological feelings when I was a child. I said to Sister Liu, "Don't worry, precocity doesn't mean maturity." When I was a child, I was often caught by girls playing miss. During the break, two girls played the roles of miss and maid respectively, let me play the role of "xianggong" and then pretend to worship. Does this mean that two girls have a crush on me? Parents, please don't panic. In this game, I am not an iron xianggong, and all the boys in my class have the opportunity to play Xianggong. But both girls are mobile "ladies", and they exchange roles every time they play. In fact, the so-called lady and maid are just the difference between helping and being helped. There are many incredible games like this in the eyes of adults. In fact, it is simply the imitation of film and television dramas, which is fun and without love. Of course, it is undeniable that all kinds of social information are playing the role of ripening agent, and children know more than adults think and know earlier. In my childhood, I couldn't have known the name "boyfriend" as early as Liu Jie's daughter, although her daughter didn't necessarily know what it meant. Precocity varies from time to time and from person to person. Children know that some things are not bad, as long as they don't think the worst. Whether boys or girls, when they start to use toilets on different sides, they begin to have a hazy gender consciousness. The child will grow up slowly and will not always be the doll who can't make ends meet. When they learn to add, subtract, multiply and divide, they will also have more understanding and imitation of the adult world. As parents, we should have this psychological preparation. Precocity is not a scourge, as long as you guide your children well, it is not as terrible as you think. A few days ago, an 8-year-old boy from my neighbor suddenly came up to me and asked me, "Uncle, when I grow up, I want to marry a beautiful wife like my neighbor's brother!" " Do you think this will come true? "I was stunned by the little boy's words, which made the adults standing by suddenly blindsided. At an early age, I have the thoughts of adults, and my thoughts mature quickly! It turns out that before, a brother in the same village got married and the bride was very beautiful. The little boy went to drink his wedding banquet, perhaps because of the influence of his brother's marriage. The little boy also had his big wish, which greatly exceeded our expectations. In order to educate a child well and prevent him from precocious thinking, we can educate him with some life examples. For example, when a child sees a neighbor's brother get married, he can say to him, "Marriage is far away from you, and you will naturally understand when you grow up. "When a child sees an adult smoking and is still learning to smoke, you can say to him," Smoking is harmful to health. You see, the math teacher has been teaching for 20 years and hasn't smoked a cigarette. Life is very happy. "... in reality, children's precocious thinking shows a lot, and education should be carried out according to specific conditions. As the first teacher, parents should give their children more care and set an example to create a harmonious and civilized family. Then, the child's mind will not be too precocious. Don't label children precocious, Hong Min. When a group of adults were sitting in the living room watching TV, chatting and drinking tea, our five-year-old daughter and three children of the same age had a good time in the room. Suddenly, my sweaty daughter ran out and said to me, "Mom, xx said he likes me very much and he wants to marry me!" " "Daughter, adults in the living room don't talk. Some people laughed and some people took the opportunity to "congratulate" me. I'm a little nervous: xx is just a boy two years older than my daughter. How can such a young child suddenly say such a thing as marriage? Will his precocious thoughts have a bad influence on my daughter? With a series of questions, I took my daughter into her room. Xx's little round face is red and cute. I crouched down and asked him, "I heard Qing Qing say that you just said you liked her very much, didn't you?" "Yes!" Xx didn't shy away, blinked his bright round eyes and gave a generous answer. "Then why do you like her? Do you know what marriage is? " Because the little boy is cute, I can't bear to open my mouth and scold him directly. "Because there are many toys in Sunny, many of which are my favorites, I especially like Sunny, and I like staying at her house. TV says that marriage means that two people can live together. I want to marry her so that I can live in her house and play with her toys. " The little boy said frankly. Oh, I see! I secretly laughed at my nervous performance just now. After experiencing the children's version of the "marriage" storm, I easily returned to the living room and chatted with my friends about the common phenomenon of "children's adult language" and the suspected precocious thinking. A friend said that with the opening of the times, children will be exposed to some adult languages through movies, TV and various advertisements. Under the influence of ears, children will follow the trend and say "love you" and "marry you", but in fact, children may not know or really understand the actual connotation of these adult languages. They simply say what originally belonged to the adult world from the perspective of children's thinking and understanding ability, and most parents tend to label their children as "precocious" subjectively and rashly after hearing that these adult languages come from their children's mouths: reprimand their children blindly and ban them all at once, and don't say this or that. Such rude education will only arouse children's curiosity and thirst for knowledge, and if it is not handled well, it will make children change from false precocity to true precocity. Children are like standing in front of a complicated life map with different colors. Whether they grow up smoothly in the future and whether their thoughts mature prematurely depends on how adults guide and educate them! Understand their "precocity" Aunt Lin is depressed these days, busy with work and under great pressure. What's even more worrying is that my cousin in grade three is in puppy love. Cousin is the focus of her life, and it is at this juncture that she entered a key middle school, but she was worried about such a thing. Inquiring about my cousin by innuendo, it turns out that he and a girl in the class often discuss each other in their studies and get along well. Sometimes they invite each other to have some snacks after school. I don't know how to change it, but I also quarreled with the teacher. He denied that his parents and teachers didn't believe him, and they took turns doing ideological work for him. Anyway, that's what they all said, but they were very angry and simply went back and forth. Cousin's phenomenon should be adolescent impulse and rebellious psychology. I put forward several opinions to my aunt: 1. Let the children know the hardships of parental rearing. Many parents hide all the hard work in order to let their children concentrate on their studies, and even don't let their children know that they are sick. In my opinion, only by letting children know their parents' hard work can they understand their parents and cherish their lives. 2. Establish a relationship of mutual trust and respect. Don't always suspect that the child is lying, hurting the child's self-esteem and accusing the child of his mistakes. It better be well-founded. 3. Choose a communication method that is acceptable to everyone. Don't always put on the airs of elders to preach; Don't always hold the idea that "they are too young to understand, and I am doing this for their own good". Excessive supervision of them will only be counterproductive. 4. Don't be too nervous. Times are different. Boys and girls should be closer, not necessarily puppy love. Don't catch shadows. It may cause children's rebellious psychology. Now that information is developed, children are exposed to more and more things, forming their own outlook on life and world, and their thoughts are mature too early. It's just that some children are optimistic and some children are extreme and willful. Parents should teach students in accordance with their aptitude, understand and guide each other, and make both generations healthy and happy.