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Really cultured people have these six characteristics. Do you?
You can't hide your love, and you are no exception.
At present, more and more girls choose to be single, but some people will always wonder: "What's wrong with being single for such an excellent girl?" In fact, every single girl has her own reasons, but there must be nothing wrong. Why do more and more girls choose to be single? To better illustrate, I interviewed three female friends at random to see what they thought. Those single girls may not be what you think.
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"If one person is happy, two people are not so happy."
Wang Yiwen
24-year-old, foreign company translator.
"yy, I'm glad you can choose me. I have long wanted to find a chance to talk about being single. There are always people looking at us with colored glasses.
"Ha ha, I also hope that more people can really understand the real thoughts of single girls. Then let's get started.
"Smell, have you ever been in love before?
"Well, talked about once, it was in college, like everyone else, graduation is over, two years.
"So you refused to fall in love because of your last relationship?
"I admit that there is affectation, but I didn't refuse. Because of my previous love, I also reflected on myself afterwards. I really liked him at that time, but he should not be my good date.
"Why do you say that?
"Because my friends around me didn't like us at that time, because after being with him, I became a little sensitive, inferior and didn't like to laugh. My friends say I've changed. Indeed, I have been changing for him during that time, and that change may not be my own. So this love, talk very hard, very tired, and later, when he broke up, I was relieved, tut tut.
"I see, that is to say, you have been accommodating him, and you can't be yourself. That should be very unhappy, right?
"At that time, I was so immature that I thought this was love. Later, I understood that in love, you have to have yourself before you can have love. Now my view of love is that love needs to be just right. If I am happy alone, I can't be as good with him as I was when I was single. If one person is destined to be happy and two people are not so happy, then I would rather be alone first.
"It seems that you have really grown up. Can you sum up your single life in three words?
"Happy, free and casual. A person who wants to go anywhere can arrange his own time at will. When he goes to work, he should work hard to make money. In his spare time, he will ask three or two friends to exercise, have fun, or learn some floral art. To be honest, I am as single as having a partner.
"That's good, I wish you an early encounter with Mr Right.
"Thanks yy, I'm sure he must be on his way.
"Today's interview is over. Thank you for taking the time to share. I have a little gift for you later.
"It doesn't matter, I am also very happy to chat with you today, and I will make an appointment later.
In fact, what I fear most in love is what I hear. One person is happier than two people together, which is obviously the wrong love. For love, the minimum requirement is to be single, happy and comfortable. In most healthy relationships, two people are happier and sweeter together, otherwise, how can they spread dog food? Ha ha ha ha.
If two people are not as good together as one person, then it is really necessary to reconsider this relationship. I'd rather be alone than alone. I would rather have the hard work of one person than the pain of two people; I'd rather live a quiet life alone than have endless quarrels between two people.
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"Only by living a good life for one person can we live a good life for two people."
the Chen Dynasty
27-year-old coffee shop owner
This is a beautiful boss. We met in a small book bar near the Bund. Xiaoxi will choose a sunny afternoon to wander in the sea of books every month, and then make some like-minded friends.
People who meet for the first time will be confused by Chen's appearance. There is warmth hidden in the cold, and there is a strong gas field that attracts others to approach. We have known each other for a long time, and we soon got into the subject.
Chen admits that he has been single for more than 20 years and should have a say. A few years ago, like her peers, she was inevitably forced to get married by her parents, but at that time, she made a bold agreement with her parents: if she can't stand on her own feet in Shanghai within two years, from now on, she will obey all her parents' arrangements.
Chen made such an agreement because he knew that his parents' urging marriage stemmed from his independence, and he didn't give the elders the confidence to take care of themselves and be responsible for their own lives. So she went out of the system and opened a coffee shop with her friends. From the source of goods to the operation management, she keeps learning and practicing. After the storm, they went through the most difficult years hand in hand, and slowly, business improved. A year later, Chen ruyuan bought his first house, which made his parents breathe a sigh of relief.
Cafe is on the track, and Chen Ye gradually has leisure time to learn tea art, dance and cultivate one's morality. Through various opportunities, he made a large number of soul mates and appreciated each other, and this life has continued until now.
I asked Xiaoxi, "If you have to give a reason to be single, what do you think it is?"
She told me firmly: "I am convinced that only by living a good life for one person can we live a good life for two people." When I can manage one person's life vividly, I am qualified to choose two people's lives. "
It is true that many people can't stand loneliness when they are alone, but many times we may not even be able to take care of ourselves, and the life of a person is still difficult. Even if that person appears, will their lives be in a mess? As we have said, only two 50% together is 100% love. In love, we are both independent individuals, and two mature people can see each other's future.
Two immature loves are doomed to death. (This refers to the maturity of personality, childlike innocence doesn't matter. ) when you grow up, you should come by yourself, grow up first and then fall in love. Don't expect to grow up by feeling. The price of this growth is not affordable for everyone. When you are mature enough, I think the right person may appear.
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Being single is the best period of personal appreciation.
Jing Sun
33-year-old private enterprise executive
Sister Jing actually divorced and got married last year. She was chosen because her story is typical.
At the age of thirty, Jingjie's fiance, who was about to enter the marriage hall, disappeared for no reason. Since then, she devoted herself to her work and made great achievements in the company, and was promoted to the first female vice president in the company's history. The most surprising thing is that in addition to work and occasional rest days, Jing Jie devoted herself to the gym and library. She said that the management of a healthy figure should not be slack. If you want to go further, you must constantly improve yourself, and learning is essential.
During that time in "After Lovelorn", after a period of recovery, Sun Jing was more radiant and her work and life were flourishing, but she remained single until she met her current husband.
Sister Jing said, "I am very grateful for my single day. When I am alone, I can be so colorful, work, read, relax and make friends. I feel the air is so free for the first time. That year, I almost finished all my previous plans. As for self-improvement, being single is really the best period of personal appreciation. I don't have to think about anything else. Just start your little Madama to keep running forward, and it was with the supplementary precipitation at that time that I met it later.
I have heard many girls complain, why can't they always meet the right person? Being single is not God's punishment, but your opportunity. If you can make good use of your single period, you will certainly gain something in the near future. There are surprises everywhere in life, cherish the present, create a more beautiful self, and wait for the best of him in the best state.
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Being single is not terrible, what is terrible is that you will succeed.
"One day, the appearance of that person will tell you why you have been single for so long."
I know that you are single not because you pursue perfection, but because you would rather have nothing than nothing;
I understand that you are afraid of the loneliness of one person, and even more afraid of the loneliness of two people;
I know better that you proudly choose to be single now, in order to meet the most beautiful yourself tomorrow.
Happiness is similar, and we all look forward to the love of "undivided attention and never separation". If someone lets us hold hands until we are old, we will naturally be happy. However, please don't stop if you haven't met for the time being. Being single can shine.
Good girl, you can be single, but you can't settle for it;
Good girl, you can be disappointed, but not desperate;
Good girl, you can let nature take its course, but don't waste your feelings.
As long as happiness is at the end, what are you afraid of after that? May every good girl wait for the destiny takes a hand.
If you have any small feelings you want to share with me, welcome to participate in this topic interaction.
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Yy, a post-90s self-media person, in this world, you can have less money and fewer beautiful women, but what is indispensable is your brave heart, kind heart and strong heart. Don't forget your innovative spirit, so as to achieve your ultimate goal.