Some netizens feel that there is no even the most basic material foundation, so we can't talk about love.
Some netizens think that it doesn't matter if he has the ability to rent a house temporarily, for fear that he has no talent and ability and wants to rent a house for life.
In fact, the house is a very realistic problem. In most people's eyes, a house is a must-have item when getting married. It is best to buy a house in full, or you will have to repay the loan later.
However, with the increase of house prices year by year, the house has become the pressure of a large part of young people, especially men. When getting married, the "three big things" that the woman wants must be ready.
If your own conditions are not good, but your family conditions are good, then your parents will help you solve it. But for people with average or poor family conditions, then this is undoubtedly a huge pressure.
Sometimes, the house can be an obstacle between two people.
So many people think why they can't rent a house when they get married, and then buy a house when they can afford it. But this question has also been questioned by many people.
I have asked several people this question, and they all said so.
Xiaoya, 28 years old
I think if my boyfriend doesn't have a house, I will never marry him, because the house is the minimum guarantee, and I don't want to rent a house with him in the future.
I got married because I wanted a stable home. If he can't even give me this, then I really don't want to live with him anymore.
Jingjing, 25 years old
I can accept renting a house with my boyfriend, because I think the house is a matter for two people, and girls should not put all the pressure on boys and their families.
If a person is kind to you, even if he lives in a rental house, eats delicacies and lives in a luxury villa, but there is no one around to rely on, the temperature at home is meaningless.
I think the most important thing in a family is people. Houses and furniture are cold, and only people can give you enough warmth.
If the boyfriend is a potential stock, then we can buy a house in a few years, so I think it is very important to look at people and choose the right person.
Xiao Xia, 36 years old
I think it's best to take care of this house before getting married. At our age, we should take care of both children and the elderly. Especially for children, if we have to rent a house back and forth after entering school smoothly, it will easily affect their study.
This is what happened to me now. We used to rent a house in the school district, but we just rented it for a few months, and the rent rose very fast, and finally doubled directly.
My husband and wife have limited wages, so we have to move out of our original house and find another place to live.
It's far from where the children go to school, and we have to drive to pick them up.
In fact, if I had asked my in-laws for a house, I don't think it would be like this now. Moving back and forth is really tiring.
Sister Sun, 53 years old
When I was young, I thought it was enough for two people to fall in love. The house and the car are not important. Now I am 53 years old and my daughter is 26.
I think my previous thoughts were simply naive. If my daughter gets married in the future and the man has no house, I will resolutely oppose it.
The old saying "but not as people who have been poor together know" makes sense. In wealthy families, parents are more patient, the relationship between husband and wife is closer and the family atmosphere is more harmonious.
I'm not too material, too realistic. Even the male bird knows that it has been a tradition in China for thousands of years to build a grass nest before courtship. I think it's natural that I want a house.
In fact, this issue is really controversial, and each has its own views.
Some people think that as long as there is love, renting a house is also happy, but others think that beautiful fantasies are always broken by reality, because there are always many practical problems after marriage.
In fact, I think if the economic conditions are ok, it is best for both parties to have a house that really belongs to them. Even if it is a loan to buy a house, it is better than running around looking for a house.
Love is as important as bread in marriage.
In fact, the reason why the man chooses to rent a house to get married is largely because the man has no financial support.
As a result, all the pressure fell on men at once. In this case, the woman may choose to buy a house with the man, even if she only pays the down payment, and then repays the loan together.
Since we choose to be together, many things should be shared together.
The basis of marriage is love, followed by economy. If both sides don't even have the courage to share, then the love between you is really superficial.