How to cultivate children's habit of patience?

There is a saying that "you can't eat hot tofu if you are impatient." Thus, patience is one of the key factors of success. In psychology, patience belongs to one aspect of the quality of will, namely endurance. It has a certain relationship with other aspects of will quality, such as initiative, self-control and psychological endurance. Qi Baishi is a master of modern painting in China. Mr. Qi is not only good at calligraphy and painting, but also has high attainments in seal cutting, but he was not born with this art. He also worked very hard and made unremitting efforts to practice seal cutting to a superb level. Qi Baishi especially loved seal cutting when he was young, but he was always dissatisfied with his seal cutting technology. He humbly asked an old seal engraver for advice, and the old seal engraver said to him, "Go and pick a cornerstone and go home. Grind it, grind it, and when this stone turns into mud, your seal will be engraved. " So Qi Baishi did as suggested by the old seal engraver. He picked a cornerstone, carved it and ground it. Compared with ancient seal cutting works, it was carved day and night. Carve, smooth and carve again. I don't know how many blood bubbles have formed on my hands. Day after day, year after year, there are fewer and fewer cornerstones, but the soil deposited on the ground is getting thicker and thicker. Finally, a CHA Ki-seok finally "turned stone into mud". This hard cornerstone not only honed Qi Baishi's will, but also made his seal cutting grow in the process of tempering. The seal he carved was vigorous, refined and unique. Gradually, his seal cutting reached a state of perfection. A girl who graduated from the self-taught examination applied for the position of manager secretary of a foreign trade company. But the company arranged for her to be an administrative clerk. The girl thought for a moment and felt that as long as she patiently did the work of a clerk, it would be just as good. So she agreed. The girl's job is to receive guests and copy, print and other trivial matters. Colleagues always pile some documents that need to be copied and printed on the girl's desk, and then tell her which ones need to be copied, which ones need to be printed, and how many copies each one needs. Girls always patiently record all kinds of requirements and then do them seriously. On several occasions, the girl's careful inspection avoided the loss of the company. So, that girl was really promoted to the manager's secretary. The girl said to people like this: "Although the work is simple, as long as you have extraordinary patience and care, you will succeed." Patience is regarded as one of the measures of a person's psychological quality and health, and it is also one of the key factors for a child's future success. Cultivating a child's patience is not only helpful to his study, but also has a great influence on his future life path. However, children are children after all, and many children are not patient enough. As long as you think about it or hear it, you need to cash it immediately. Otherwise, they will keep pestering and arguing until their parents meet their demands. This is not surprising, because children's patience is not innate, but needs to be cultivated. When a child keeps crying to force his parents to meet his requirements, parents should hold their breath and pay attention to patient training for the child. Only the patience of parents can cultivate the patience of children. So, how to cultivate children's habit of patience? Recommendation 1: Parents should set an example. Many children are impatient because their parents are also anticlimactic when they do things themselves. Therefore, in order to make children have patience, parents should first do everything patiently. For example, parents can study with their children at night. Parents should insist on reading when children keep getting up and sitting down. Children can read patiently or be infected when they see their parents. In addition, parents should make an appointment with their children before asking them to do something, and they must be patient; If it is not completed, it is necessary not only to make up for the unfinished work, but also to increase the time for dealing with related matters. In this way, children can do things in a planned way and finish things patiently in a certain period of time. Recommendation 2: Let children understand the importance of patience. Parents must let their children know that patience and persistence are the secrets of success. In order to make Tong Dizhou understand the importance of patience from an early age and enable him to study and do things persistently, Tong Dizhou's father, a famous biologist, wrote a banner specially for him, warning Tong Dizhou that there are no windtight rocks in the world, only people who have no patience. After his father died, eldest brother arranged for Tong Dizhou to study in Ningbo Normal University. After only one semester, Tong Dizhou proposed to take an examination of the famous primary schools in the province at that time. My brother said to him, "Primary schools teach in English. Your English is not good at all, and you will definitely fail the exam. " Tong Dizhou thinks that "a drop of water wears a stone", as long as he studies patiently, he will certainly pass the exam. In order to prepare for the exam, Tong Dizhou insisted on teaching himself English, and rarely left his study except for eating every day. Finally, Tong Dizhou was admitted to Xiaoshi Middle School. In Xiaoshi Middle School, Tong Dizhou used the spirit of dripping water wears away the stone, so that his grades rose from the penultimate when he first entered school to the first place in his class. This is because Tong Dizhou has a profound understanding of patient learning. Parents should set an example and be patient when educating their children. If the child does something wrong, reason with him and patiently tell him where it is wrong. Don't beat and scold; Even if you refuse his unreasonable request, you should persuade him. Recommendation 3: Let children learn to wait. After all, children are children. They seem to have little patience. As long as they think of one thing, they always want to do it at once, otherwise they will keep pestering. The classified queries of periodical articles are all in the periodical database. Mother is making cakes in the kitchen, and Xiaohui watches her mother keep busy. I saw my mother take out fragrant chocolate and fresh fruit. Xiaohui said to herself, "Mom, I want to eat cake." Mother said, "The cake is not ready yet. Mom should mix the powder and add Huixin's favorite chocolate and fruit. " Xiaohui, 3, is still pestering her mother: "I just want to eat cake! I want to eat now! " Mother is a little impatient: "The cake is not ready yet, how can I eat it?" Why are you so disobedient? " Xiaohui began to bargain: "Then I want to eat chocolate and fruit!" " "Mom said," You ate chocolate and fruit. How does mom make a cake? " "I don't care, I want to eat now!" Xiaohui began to cheat. Mother had no choice but to let Xiaohui eat chocolate and fruit first. Now, Huixin has gone to primary school, but it always seems that there is an assignment every three minutes. When she thinks about it, when she really wants to do it, she can't sit still. In fact, if parents educate their children from an early age to wait and not meet their children's requirements in everything, their patience will be gradually cultivated. Just after dinner, when my mother was busy packing things, 7-year-old Yu Fan began to call, "Mom, I'm going to play in the park." Mom said, "wait a minute, let's go together when mom is ready." "No, I want to go now. You can tidy up when you come back. "Yu Fan began to insist." No, I have to do things one by one, and my mother has to clean up before she can go with you. Wait a minute and look at today's newspaper. Mom soon packed up. "At this point, the proposed has picked up the newspaper, looks like it. When my mother packed up and went to the living room, she found that Yu Fan had finished reading with relish. It turned out that he saw a short story that he liked to read. It can be seen that when the child is impatient, parents must insist and cannot give in because of the child's request. If parents always give in when their children ask, and the children get the experience that "mom always listens to me and I do whatever I want", then the children will become more and more impatient. Of course, parents should not command their children with a blunt attitude, such as "no, wait for me", so that children will have rebellious psychology. Therefore, smart parents should make their children understand that there is a reason to wait. Recommendation 4: start from the small things around you. In daily life, any little thing can be used to cultivate children's patience. Such as washing dishes, cleaning tables, cleaning rooms and so on. At first, children will do whatever they want and want to play. At this time, parents can stand by and urge their children to do it attentively until he has washed the dishes, wiped the table and cleaned the room. Let the children understand that they should be patient in everything. After a slight exercise, parents should consciously set some obstacles for their children and provide them with some opportunities to overcome difficulties. Because patience is tempered by strong will, the more difficult the environment, the more patience children can exercise. At this time, parents should encourage children not to give up halfway. When a child completes something through hard work, parents should give praise in time and strengthen the child's good habit of patience. Recommendation 5: Three-minute patient training If children are impatient with learning and always indulge in playing, parents can try other methods. Andina Middleton introduced a "three-minute" patience training method in the book Carl Witt Education in American Families, which proved to be a good way to train children's patience. Pinet is an impatient child. He only likes watching TV and playing games, but he is not interested in books. One day, my father took an hourglass and told him that it was an ancient clock. When all the sand in it leaks out, it takes three minutes to adjust. Pinet wanted to play with the hourglass. At that time, his father said, use the hourglass as a timer, and you and your father can read story books together for three minutes at a time. Pinet agreed happily. For the first time, Pinet really sat down quietly and listened to his father's story. But in fact, he didn't pay attention to reading at all, just kept looking at the hourglass. Three minutes later, he went to play. But Pinet's father was not discouraged. He decided to try again several times. After several times, Pinet's eyes gradually shifted from the hourglass to the story book. Although it was agreed to be three minutes, after three minutes, because the story was very attractive, Pinet was particularly engrossed. He asked for an extension of time, but his father insisted on the "three-minute" agreement and refused to continue. In order to know the story earlier, Pinet took the initiative to read it. Here, Bennett's father used a step-by-step training to educate his children subtly. This is actually to let the child's attention focus on an object for a certain period of time through what the child is interested in. Over time, children have formed habits and improved their patience. Three minutes is just suitable for children's concentration. Stop immediately after three minutes, which not only makes children feel that their father is trustworthy, but also takes advantage of their curiosity and triggers their initiative in learning. Of course, to cultivate children's patience, parents should be patient and persistent, and don't give up after trying once or twice.