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I heard a story that day that a middle-aged couple divorced.
The man's name is Brother Gang and the woman's name is Sister Ping. They are both in their forties. Sister Ping and Brother Gang fell in love freely and it took more than three years to get married. Said they had a good relationship.
When they got married, they rented a house. After marriage, they scrimped and saved, paid the down payment and bought a two-bedroom apartment. They have a lovely child, and a family of three lives fairly well.
However, from a few years ago, when I was about forty years old, husband and wife began to sleep in separate beds.
If there is a reason, there is actually no big reason. It's just that Sister Ping doesn't like Brother Gang to snore at night, and Brother Gang doesn't like Sister Ping to sleep and grind her teeth. It happened that the child caught a cold when sleeping alone and sometimes kicked the quilt, so from the beginning, Sister Ping took the child to sleep.
Later, when the child was a little older, Sister Ping replaced the sofa in the living room with a sofa bed. At night, after the children went to bed, she watched TV and played with her mobile phone in the living room alone, and then slept on the sofa bed alone, and she had a good life.
Sister Ping didn't think much about whether sleeping in separate beds would affect the relationship between husband and wife. After all, husband and wife are not a day or two, and the children are so big.
For Sister Ping, the most important thing in life is not love, but trivial things in life. Brother gang also thinks it's no big deal for two people to sleep in separate beds It's very tiring to go to work during the day, so it's good to have your own rest at night and not disturb each other.
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But after sleeping in separate beds for less than five years, the couple who are now in their forties embarked on the road of divorce.
So what is the reason for their divorce? Is sleeping in separate beds the culprit?
It turned out that after they slept in separate beds for about two years, Brother Gang fell in love with watching the live broadcast of the female anchor. At first, he just looked at it. Later, after a long time, he actually had feelings for the female anchor and began to reward. At first, there were few rewards, but later the number increased, and even a credit card was opened to cash out the rewards in advance.
Sister Ping also has problems here. At first, Sister Ping killed time by watching TV in the evening. Later, she began to watch Tik Tok and play games. Once I accidentally entered the same city game and met a wave of netizens in the same city. After playing for several years, I also developed to the level of meeting offline. Nothing happened when we first met, but we often went to the mahjong hall to play mahjong together, sometimes for hours.
In this way, Sister Ping and Brother Gang both found their own pleasures in life and squandered their money.
One is to reward unknown female anchors with money, and the other is to find opportunities to play mahjong every day, and the tea fee also costs a lot of money.
When husband and wife are in the same space, both of them are absent-minded and the children are older, which is exactly what they want.
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When the relationship between husband and wife conflicts, it is the time when the children are on summer vacation this year. Other people's children are either taken out by their parents to travel, or go to various interest classes, and the summer vacation is full.
However, Sister Ping and Brother Gang's children just stay at home during the summer vacation, either watching TV or playing with their classmates.
But after seeing and hearing about other students' summer vacation life, the children came back and asked their parents why they didn't take themselves out to play. This sentence is the fuse.
Brother Kong and Sister Ping have never saved any money at ordinary times, and both of them are short of money. But because their wages are separate and their living expenses are the same, I don't know that the other party has not saved any money. Since the child proposed to go out to play, he began to take money, but at first glance, he found that both accounts were abnormal.
Sister Ping had a big fight with Brother Gang after learning that he had given the hard-earned money to the female anchor. Brother Gang had a big fight with Sister Ping after learning that she met with netizens offline all day to play mahjong.
The quarrel returned to the quarrel, and the "unwilling" and "unsatisfactory" of the two people were vented.
Brother Gang dislikes that Sister Ping can't live and is not virtuous. Sister Ping doesn't like Brother Gang's incompetence and cowardice.
But when the other party found out that even if they quarreled, Gang Ge would still reward the female anchor, and Ping Jie would still play mahjong, so her face was completely torn and the relationship between husband and wife ceased to exist.
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After the marriage, Sister Ping didn't think much about her future life arrangement. Now she rents a house, and the children are going to send them to school for boarding.
Now Sister Ping herself says that day by day, she thinks about why she stopped playing mahjong after the divorce, which makes her feel boring. I don't know if Brother Gang is still rewarding the female anchor, but after the divorce, he is still kind to the children and still cares, at least much more than before the marriage ended.
So when Sister Ping was talking to me about these things, she began to feel bored when she thought of the fact that two people were sleeping in separate beds. She feels that sleeping in separate beds is all her fault and will lead to divorce.
In fact, whether middle-aged couples sleep in separate beds will lead to divorce can't be so arbitrary. However, "emotional fatigue" of middle-aged couples is a very important phenomenon, which is often ignored by middle-aged couples.
Like Sister Ping and Brother Gang, when they reach middle age, they feel that life is dull, they have no great ambitions for their work and career, and they have no passion for life. Children, in particular, don't have to mess with them. They have a lot of spare time to kill and start having fun by themselves.
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The chief culprit of middle-aged couples' divorce is not sleeping in separate beds, but disagreement and lack of family responsibility. Everyone is entertaining themselves, so why fight for the future of the family?
It's okay to sleep in separate beds, but it's agreed, such as sleeping in beds on weekdays and sleeping together on weekends. In fact, according to some people's point of view, even if you sleep in the same bed, you will sleep in a strange bed.
It is said that those middle-aged couples have a good relationship, which is nothing more than that everyone has the same goal, whether it is career or family.
Two people work together and strive for the same goal. How can there be so many distractions?
The first thing middle-aged couples should do is to enrich their lives, instead of spending a lot of time thinking about how to live or watching mobile phones all day for fun.
Therefore, if middle-aged couples don't want to divorce, they should enrich themselves first, and then the husband and wife will reunite.