Generally speaking, such a position will not be fired as long as there are no particularly serious mistakes. In other words, this is a very stable job. In the eyes of ordinary people in this city on the 5678 line, it seems that this belongs to civil servants.
I didn't get this position by accident. At least I waited in line for more than a year to get an interview, and then I was selected through rounds of interviews.
At that time, everyone who knew that the government was recruiting this job had submitted resumes and materials, and then after more than a year, they finally called for an interview! After the interview passed, I waited for more than a month to know the result.
At that time, I was really happy and excited when I knew I could go to work after the exam. I feel that I can go to work with peace of mind after my life has settled down, and then I choose to get married and have children, so I can live comfortably for a lifetime.
However, this "stable comfort" did not give me real comfort for a long time. After living in this state for two years, I began to feel anxious. People you meet every day do the same thing, except that colleagues buy new clothes, or the protagonist of gossip changes.
Like my position, I didn't get promoted. Only if I have strong ability will I get more attention. Anyone with a little ability can take my place. I also thought about whether to take the civil service exam, but now I work in the place where civil servants work. After the exam, you may be assigned to different places, but you also get a general understanding of the workflow nature of many offices.
I gradually began to hate this kind of work and life. It is so stable that I can easily face the work without any personal improvement. This life can't find any meaning. My heart is getting narrower and narrower. I will chat with my aunts about having children and marriage. These chats can only kill time and have no development guidance for my life.
I remember an article saying that if you feel that your present life and work are meaningless, it is because you have lost yourself. I should have been like this.
I thought this anxiety was temporary. I took a week off, went out for a walk, and went to see my classmates who were struggling in big cities. However, this week did not calm my anxiety, but made me more anxious.
Back at work, I began to try to escape. More and more attention is paid to the outside world, and the eager heart is a little impatient.
I plan to leave my small city, want to go to a big company, want to be a white-collar worker, and want to experience the feeling of working overtime in the company. I also want to squeeze the bus home after work, feel that kind of independent loneliness and sadness, invite colleagues hi on rest days, strive for the upper reaches in the workplace, prove my ability, and so on.
However, my job is stable now, there is no traffic jam after work, the pace of life is comfortable and leisurely, I am not nervous at work, and there is nothing to say about overtime unless it is an emergency. In addition, it was the time to talk about marriage with my boyfriend. I was already planning how and where we would live after marriage, where to study after the child was born, and so on. The ring has been bought.
Everything seems to be stable. This is a stable state that people pursue. It is this stability that scares me. I wonder what life would be like if I changed my way.
Under such circumstances, my idea is simply stupid! Give up what they think is an iron rice bowl, a boyfriend with a stable life, and such a good work circle and interpersonal relationship.
I struggled until my head was broken. It's really hard to choose. Boyfriend has a stable business to run in the local area, and long-term separation is definitely unacceptable, which means that his job will be lost and his boyfriend will be separated.
Moreover, our parents had already met and discussed the details of the wedding. Should I tell him that I want to pursue my life and don't want to get married? How to speak?
But if I really choose to get married and continue my present job, then I will be like this all my life, doing nothing, then worrying about the growth of my children, and paying attention to my husband and children getting old. In order to survive and live, my heart that I used to be more knowledgeable than my aunts and peers around me will eventually be swallowed up by this stable life, and then become like my married aunts. What they are now is what I will be!
Those who want to see the great rivers and mountains of the motherland, to travel, to struggle, to be crazy, and to prove their ideas can only think about it. The lifestyle of those people I envy can only be envied in my life.
No matter who I tell, I will be rejected and accused of being insane.
I hesitated, too, whether my idea was really wrong or whether I was really out of my mind.
But the thought that I will become the same person as my aunt in the office in the future scares me. I don't want to be a dissatisfied housewife who complains every day. The first information I get is always the price of vegetables and meat today!
I can't give up, but I want to pursue
The question that haunts my mind every day is, how can I get rid of this life and live the life I want! ! !
Three months later, I broke free. Break up with your boyfriend by using the fuse of the quarrel and resolutely leave your job. In that process, I was scolded by my parents at the door of the room. All my relatives didn't understand and talked behind my back, thinking that I had problems before I got married and left my job.
Controversy, physical and mental exhaustion. The pain of lovelorn makes me want to turn back, but I am cruel! Like it or not, I packed my bags and left!
After three interviews, I entered a big company. Rent a house, cook by yourself, squeeze the bus, talk about performance and business, and team up with colleagues to play.
My circle of friends is much more wonderful! Finally, something has been sent to a circle of friends.
What a simple work life it seems to others, but I tried my best to get it. I enjoyed my life at that time. I am independent and lonely, I am sad, I work hard, and I cherish every one. This is me, another me, and I have experienced a different life!
This is a feeling of rebirth. I feel particularly grateful every day when I find myself. I thank myself for bravely choosing this road. Thank you for giving up those so-called good conditions.
Up to now, many confused friends will ask me when they come to chat with me. How did you decide to leave? How did you do that? Some of these friends already have children, some are married and some are engaged. Some of them want to work, some want to change jobs, some want to divorce, and some are afraid of getting married. Without exception, they are all making difficult choices.
In fact, no matter what stage or environment you are in, you can make a decision as long as you have a firm yearning for what you want.
Here are my suggestions.
1 Don't discuss your plan with people around you at present.
What you are struggling with now is whether to leave your present environment and state. You and the people around you are discussing leaving in the same environment. The conclusion of the discussion is mostly opposition and incomprehension, because their ideological class is in that state, and you want to leave because you want to leave that class. They have different ideas. It is meaningless to talk about this, which will shake your confidence.
Contact with people who live the life you want.
You can learn about their life, communicate with them more, and try to feel whether this life is what you want, how different it is from your imagination, and whether it is acceptable. Whether your ability can survive in that environment.
3 be stubborn
Sometimes you really have to be stubborn, for your own good, for your own good, and so on. Don't listen to others' so-called suggestions easily. These suggestions will generally not help you, but will only keep you in the current state.
4 selfish
Don't think about who your decision may hurt, even if it hurts for about a year at most. You can't be wronged for a lifetime because you are afraid of getting hurt! You know, you don't live to serve others, your ultimate goal is to make yourself comfortable. You have to make plans for your life after all.
Don't consider the future.
Whenever encountering such a worrying choice, almost everyone is afraid that they will get a bad result. Before making up their minds, the future is unknown. Change is a challenge, challenge yourself and challenge the ordinary! Just do it and don't think about it! That's right! When you concentrate on it, the return will not be bad.
6 don't analyze
Maybe you will have two or three roads to choose from, each one looks good, each one has some factors you like, and you can't decide after a few months of back and forth analysis. Friends' suggestions are different, but they make themselves more chaotic.
Faced with such a situation, it is not wrong to choose the road that makes you most anxious! Don't consult others too much. If you want to consult, you should also ask a professional. Don't ask someone you don't understand for advice, and don't give the decision to others.
7 must be cruel
Such a choice change will definitely disrupt your previous life! Shake your heart a little, and all your previous efforts will be in vain. Be sure to be hard on yourself, even if you are sad or intimidated by others, don't look back. When you want to give up, think about why you want to change.
Don't admit that you are old.
Generally, people who encounter this bottleneck will not be young and energetic. I feel grown up, so big, I can't stand it! If you really think so, then you read this article for nothing, then turn it off and go back to wash and sleep.
Even if you are 48 now, please hypnotize yourself and tell yourself that I am 18! ! ! Just maybe 18 years old, more than 200 months.
Old age can be age, but it must not be mentality! We must admit that we are young, so that we can have the courage to make a choice and be more confident to make a firm choice!
Don't care what other people think.
When you make up your mind to change and leave, your behavior will definitely cause controversy. There will be many people who talk about you behind your back, don't support you, and criticize your behavior is wrong, but these people are the people you came into contact with in the old environment. When you enter a new environment, you will know that their words are just fart.
Life is faced with constant choices, and only when there is choice can it be wonderful. Every choice may change your life. The more I feel anxious and scared, the more I want it.
The beauty of life lies in every turning point of life, and your choice is the direction you yearn for. Only in this way can we build our own life.
About the author: Miao Ji, a columnist of Franklin Book Club, is slightly fat, positive in thinking and sunny in life attitude. She likes talking, laughing, singing and dancing. Besides singing, she also likes writing. She is cultivating her personal character and figure and is willing to encourage her.