The first message is defense, but body language reflects the visitor's inner feelings-fear of being hurt. During the silent consultation time, the counselor will have a lot of psychological activities, and the counselor will pay attention to his own psychological activities and inner feelings, because this is also an interaction with visitors;
The second message is the expression of attack. Aggressive abusers are lonely, eager to be close to others, but afraid of being abandoned, so they will use attacks to test interpersonal relationships. Counselors should not be frightened by the visitors' attacks, but should see the visitors' eager expression for links. After the attack of visitors is tolerated, the relationship between counselors and visitors will establish trust and security.
In more than ten consultations, the visitors didn't speak, and the consultants would think of Winnicott's classic treatment case of piglets, with the focus on tolerance, hug and satisfaction of the early loneliness of the visitors. It doesn't matter if the consultation setting can't be fixed, it can meet the needs of visitors-lack of security, evaluate and see the loneliness and dependence of visitors through the latitude of identity and object removal, and have strong insecurity and problems in interpersonal relationship and attachment. Understand and bear the attack of visitors, discuss the behavior of visitors, associate and promote verbal expression. After the relationship has a certain stability, set up a stable consultation to explain the benefits of stable setting to the visitors.
The next work plan: seeing the pain of the visitors, the psychological counselor gave enough hope to let the visitors know that the pain can be discussed, digested and solved; I am eager to be close to others, but I am burdened with attacks because of my fragile heart. Attack is the armor to protect my visitors. Taking visitors to see such aggressive interpersonal communication may make others stay away.