Generally speaking, although there are various schools of psychotherapy and different treatment methods, some basic treatment norms and ethics must be observed by any therapist. These principles are also the touchstone to distinguish between true and false therapists.
First of all, the first lesson of a real therapist in psychotherapy is to put the interests of the consultant first. Therapists will not use any treatment techniques that are harmful to their clients. In the United States, a psychosexual therapist named * * * consultant swears at the same time, and a child therapist uses the method of beating and cursing for treatment, no matter how mysterious their theory is, but this practice is against the therapeutic ethics. Therefore, after being exposed, their licenses were revoked and they were punished by law.
Protecting the interests of consultants includes protecting the privacy of consultants. Therapists have the responsibility to keep secrets for consultants. If there is a therapist, he will always tell you how good his treatment skills are when consulting, and will also tell you the names and treatment details of several real clients, without saying that he has obtained permission from others. Such a therapist must be against the rules.
In order to protect privacy and achieve better therapeutic effect, therapists must do treatment in special treatment rooms, instead of casually going to clients' homes with the door open and staying with consultants in teahouses and clinics. Unless there are special circumstances. Therapists will not easily accept gifts and hospitality from consultants, let alone ask for red envelopes.
However, treatment must be charged, and there are few cases of compulsory treatment, only when the therapist voluntarily does not charge. Charge means that psychotherapy, like surgery, is a highly technical operation, rather than boasting and chatting with friends or preaching by monks and priests. In the process of paying fees, counselors should also realize that psychotherapy comes at a price, and it is not possible to solve their own problems by talking to someone for an hour every week. The treatment fee is very serious. Therapists don't raise or lower prices at will. If the treatment fails, they won't refund the fee. They just want to have an operation, but they are still sick. No one will think of asking the hospital for a refund. We cannot claim that the success rate of treatment is 100%. Of course, medical malpractice is another matter.
In the process of treatment, the application of some therapeutic techniques is also a reference for the therapist to distinguish between true and false. Psychotherapy requires ensuring pure therapeutic relationship and minimizing the interference of other interpersonal relationships. Therefore, therapists will not treat their relatives and friends, nor will they fall in love or talk business with counselors. No matter what kind of treatment genre, it is forbidden to have sex with a counselor.
Sometimes, the counselor will meet the "therapist" mentioned at the beginning of the article, and they will easily diagnose the counselor "What's your problem?" You are not right! ","you are so bad! " "How to live up to parents (lovers)? ".I also heard a political teacher turn to a psychotherapist and say to a counselor," Now that the reform and opening up have been carried out, you have been corroded by some decadent ideas in the West, and this situation will emerge. Young people, cheer up, study hard and make contributions to the construction of the motherland in the future. "(Many therapists who have changed careers from political teachers are excellent. This is just a special case. In fact, real therapists rarely make value judgments at the initial stage of treatment. Psychotherapy is different from the advice of parents and friends and the education of teachers. For example, a counselor told me that a therapist once said to her, "Then divorce, what's there to hesitate about! ""I have to say, "it seems that the therapist wants you to get out of trouble as soon as possible. But it seems that your difficulty is that you can't decide whether to divorce or not, which makes you very upset! "The consultant immediately said excitedly," Yes, many friends and relatives told me to leave. If I could have left long ago, why should I come for treatment? " (The above dialogue is based on the fiction of treatment experience, and the real treatment fragment cannot be published here. The therapist is not a neighbor's aunt and won't interfere in your real life. She/he just solves your psychological problems. If a poor man is worried about his lack of money, a therapist can't help him. A rich man is always worried that he is short of money, so psychotherapy may help. If he is obviously rich, but still thinks he is down and out, the psychotherapist may ask a psychiatrist to help him.
Of course, many of the methods mentioned above are sometimes difficult to judge, and even professionals sometimes make the above mistakes.
Therefore, before we participate in psychotherapy, there are still some "hard indicators" that can judge whether the psychotherapist is qualified:
1. The consultant may ask the therapist to show relevant education, training experience, national vocational qualification certificate, etc. Some therapists will introduce their experience, education and social reputation to the counselor before treatment. In China's view, this therapist is too modest. In fact, this is also something that foreign therapists often do.
2. At present, psychotherapists in China are concentrated in mental hospitals at all levels, psychiatric departments in general hospitals, professional psychological hospitals and psychological counseling institutions in colleges and universities, and there are few independent ones. Therapists in these institutions are generally professionally trained. If you are looking for an independent practitioner, it is feasible to ask the therapist to show his professional qualification certificate, and the real therapist will not be angry about it.
Therapists always sign treatment contracts with consultants before treatment. A very formal therapist will sign a written contract with you, which will clearly state the time, place, cost, ethical principles in treatment, the rights of therapists and consultants, and so on. In some areas, there is no written contract due to conditions, but the therapist will also reach an oral contract with the consultant, and the above-mentioned terms are also reflected in the oral contract.
There is an American TV show that a woman was deeply fascinated by the therapist after treatment. One day, she accidentally found her therapist picking her nose in a public place, which made her furious. In fact, therapists are not immortal saints. Like ordinary people, they also have all kinds of troubles, bad habits, psychological obstacles and anger. But therapists will not use the opportunity of treatment to hurt counselors. This is the constant standard to distinguish between true and false therapists. At present, domestic psychotherapy has just started, and the actual level is far from the media propaganda. So it is necessary for people who do psychotherapy to know something about this. I wish all counselors can find suitable therapists.