When faced with a choice, someone always jumps out and tells you with the attitude of an experienced person: this should be the case. The key is that he has no experience and just thinks that he is right and others will listen.
But please remember one sentence; When you decide what to do, don't rely too much on other people's advice, just do it.
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When you want to do something, there must be many people around you who don't think highly of you.
There is a senior in our writing group, who is now in a cultural institution and is a signing author of two platforms. At present, she has set up her own original writing studio, claiming that she can publish an article by giving a keyword, and the monthly income of part-time writing is about 10 thousand on average.
The experience of my senior can be said to be very inspiring. I used to be an ordinary worker, and my work was very boring. Seeing the life of people around you seems to be expected at a glance. At this time, I suddenly remembered the longing of my youth and my love for words. So I made up my mind to apply for the Chinese language and literature major for adults.
Many people are not optimistic when they apply for the exam. First of all, they don't understand from the family. Everyone is advising senior: you are over forty years old. Why are you still doing this? Why not wait a few years to retire and stay at home to see your grandchildren?
Some relatives, after learning about writing in the self-taught exam, disdained to say: What's the use of writing that? It's better to catch my breath when I have leisure time!
When friends know, they don't understand. They are so old and have a bad memory. Faced with exams in more than a dozen subjects, their chances of winning are too low, but they still waste money. You might as well save that money.
However, senior sister is unwilling. With her love of words and persistence in her dreams, she persisted in the voice full of doubts around her. It took adults five years to teach themselves the exam and successfully got the diploma. After entering a cultural institution, many people were surprised and thought she was involved. In fact, senior sister relies on her own ability.
Now seniors are engaged in their favorite jobs, and in their spare time, they have reached the level of financial freedom through writing. The relatives who laughed at her before were all white-haired and still bargaining with others for money.
When we are pursuing what we want, there will always be someone standing in our way. Whether we can avoid these people and things and get what we want depends on our persistence in what we want.
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My friend Tingting, with a low education, mistakenly entered an industrialized unit of the Chinese Academy of Sciences.
Because of her work, she uses a lot of office software. She seldom touches office software, so she can only operate it simply. Because I am not skilled in operating office software, I am embarrassed to ask questions. Because everyone is busy and not everyone is willing to spend time teaching others, they have to spend time processing documents every time.
In this case, Tingting decided to apply for a training class to upgrade her office software. After being known by a friend, he said to her, "What training class should I sign up for? There are many online courses now. Is it necessary to spend that money? "
Tingting felt that it seemed reasonable, so she found a free course on the Internet.
As a result of listening to friends' money-saving suggestions, some situations have arisen; Free courses on the internet are scattered, and you can't find a function. Every time I receive a new task, I need to spend a lot of time searching for relevant course information online, which seriously affects my work efficiency.
After these situations, Tingting found that she didn't listen to her friends' money-saving suggestions and wasted a lot of time looking for free resources, which would lead to an increase in workload. She still enrolled in the training class.
After systematic study. Finally, I can skillfully use office software, and the speed of processing documents has more than doubled. Finally, when I received the task, I didn't have to do a lot of searching, and I was recognized by the leaders.
Many people don't know what we really need and can't just listen to other people's opinions.
If you listen to other people's opinions and have problems that you can't accept, they will say: Who told you to listen to me?
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Because of someone else's words, I gave up the opportunity I got, which may be missed in a few years or even in my life.
Before working in a travel agency, I made up my mind to take the national tour guide card (at that time, the tourism bureau didn't check strictly, so I could use the provincial tour guide card to work, but after the reform, I could only take the national tour guide card to work).
I want to take the exam with my friends who used to work in travel agencies. She told her mother-in-law that she wanted to take the exam. Her mother-in-law didn't look very good at that time, and said to my friend, you still have time to take the exam. The child is so young that if he doesn't go home for a few days, will the child hang at home?
My friend was silent in her mother-in-law's words, and then told me that she was not going to take the exam.
I feel very sorry. Her achievements in tourism are not bad. Even if she can't be a tour guide all the time, she can work part-time.
Because my friend quit, I began to prepare for the exam alone. The preparation process is bumpy. It took several months to finally get the tour guide card, which gave me a sense of security. Even if my work is not smooth in the future, it will be a kind of retirement.
Now I am not engaged in the tour guide industry, and my friend has found a new job. The new job has irregular off-duty hours, heavy monthly tasks, high work intensity and poor income.
I talked to my friend some time ago, and I vaguely felt that she seemed to regret not taking her tour guide card with her. Now that children are getting older and spending more and more, they have begun to prepare education funds. Their husband and wife spent most of their savings when their child was ill, and they were already worried about money.
If I hadn't listened to my mother-in-law's advice at that time, I would have read the tour guide card with me and worked as a part-time tour guide, earning extra income every month. Now I don't have to worry about money every day.
However, because there is no tour guide card, she can't engage in the tour guide industry, and because she has no energy to prepare for the exam with her children.
The advice given by others can really only be used as a reference. What do you want to do with your life, or you have to decide for yourself.
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Many people want to make their own decisions, but they have lost the ability to make their own decisions. It may be because their parents are used to making their own decisions, or they are afraid to make decisions after being hit many times by others.
But life still has to go by itself. You can't choose your own direction by others' decisions, but learn to make your own decisions.
Here is a way to help you make a decision. If you encounter something that cannot be solved, you can refer to it:
1.？ Prepare a notebook and a pen, and list the suggestions given by others and your own ideas in the notebook.
2.？ Analyze the advantages and disadvantages of these viewpoints one by one, and finally write the analysis results behind the viewpoints.
3.？ According to the results of the analysis, choose the suggestions that are most beneficial to you and that you think are correct. At the same time, it can be guaranteed that the worst result is acceptable.
When you encounter a choice, you must make your own decision. Only you know what you want. If you adopt other people's opinions, others will not be responsible for the wrong opinions.
Li Xiaolai's book "The Road to Wealth Freedom" mentioned: Listen to the opinions of the majority, refer to the opinions of the minority, and finally make your own decisions.
Everyone should learn to make their own decisions.