The book says: In a relationship, in a broken family, people who are forced to stay until the end are pitiful to death. The other person has gone, and you are still standing where you are, tossing yourself and the people around you in vain, so that he can turn back. Unfortunately, he avoided it. It's really sad.
This is the present situation of Ah Sheng. A sheng has been in love with her boyfriend for three years. A Sheng has repeatedly indicated or hinted that he wants to marry his boyfriend. Boyfriend has no money to buy a house or a car because of poor economic conditions, and always refuses his girlfriend's advice.
Even though A Sheng said that she didn't mind these material conditions, because she believed that as long as two people fell in love and created together after marriage, everything would be fine.
My boyfriend touched her head and said, you love me so much, how can I let you live with me?
Hearing her boyfriend say this, A Sheng's heart is full of sweetness. She thinks her boyfriend really loves herself.
02.
Just a boyfriend who promised to create a better life for her, working from nine to five, playing games after work, or eating kebabs and chatting with friends.
The monthly income is just right. It is impossible to solve the problem of food and clothing and save money to buy a house and a car in a big city.
A Sheng wants her boyfriend to change to a challenging job, either sales or vocational skills training to learn a trade.
Boyfriend shirked that he was too tired. He just wants to live a carefree life. He doesn't want to live so hard. Life is too short. Why does he just want to make money every day instead of enjoying life?
Men say that love is always so easy, but when it comes to practice, it is always pushed from pillar to post.
Later, under the strong insistence of A Sheng, her boyfriend changed a sales job, which changed her previous lazy and self-motivated mentality.
For half a year, my boyfriend's income has been rising. This time, Ansheng proposed again, but her boyfriend said, wait.
03.
Many people say that women nowadays are very materialistic. When they get married, they only talk about money, house, bride price and car. However, like Sheng, without these, her boyfriend still doesn't want to marry her.
The Mid-Autumn Festival is approaching, and mother calls to urge A Sheng to bring her boyfriend home. They want to see her future son-in-law. Especially from A Sheng that her boyfriend is working hard now and earning a good income. My mother wants to meet this son-in-law more.
This is the first time that A Sheng has asked her boyfriend to go back to his hometown with him. She had expected her boyfriend to be happy to promise herself, but what came was her boyfriend's five words: Let's break up.
This love story is inexplicable. A Sheng is a follower of her boyfriend all the way. The boyfriend's only effort in his relationship is to passively accept Ah Sheng's kindness to himself, his arrangement for himself, and even his breakup, all after he can no longer pretend.
Because he knows what it means to go home with Ah Sheng, he doesn't want their feelings to go that far, enough is enough, which is his explanation for Ah Sheng's feelings.
Three months after the breakup, when Asheng brushed his circle of friends, he saw the wedding photos of her boyfriend and another girl.
My ex-boyfriend still said in a circle of friends that I finally got married on National Day, and welcome everyone to hold a wedding reception.
At that moment, A Sheng burst into tears, and she realized that the man who always said he didn't want to marry himself was not unmarried or didn't want to give himself a good living condition, but never wanted to marry himself.
04.
A female friend and her boyfriend have been in love for 7 years and have never been married. We were all curious and asked her: Why have you been in love for so long and haven't entered the marriage hall yet?
At the beginning, my girlfriend said: We have such a good relationship, do we still need a marriage certificate to guarantee it?
Later, we asked too many questions, and my girlfriend said directly: My boyfriend said he was unmarried, and I think it is also good for us to do so.
After all the friends around her got married and had children, the girlfriend and boyfriend still fell in love. As she grew older, she gradually became uncertain about this relationship.
Feeling insecure, she also needs a marriage certificate to guarantee her feelings, but her boyfriend still says that I am unmarried. You know, I won't marry any woman.
The disappointed female friend left because she knew that no matter how long she waited, the man would not give herself a promise, and the woman wanted a warm home.
Ironically, her boyfriend broke up with her and married another woman six months later.
Perhaps only women in the world will believe a man's nonsense, his unmarried doctrine, and his proposal that he can marry you only if he has a house and a car. But when he can really marry you, will he still come to marry you?
05.
Last night, a reader confided to me that she never felt his love when she was with her boyfriend. My boyfriend is too busy at work to reply to her WeChat. Her boyfriend has a lot of social intercourse and always comes back at midnight. They obviously live together, but they live like roommates.
Even if my boyfriend comes home early one day, he is busy with WeChat work or talking on the phone with friends in the room. They don't spend much time together.
My girlfriend stays alone every time, waiting for her boyfriend to find herself, waiting and waiting, and falling asleep every time.
I just want to say: a man really loves you, and he won't be too busy to even reply to your WeChat. A man really loves you, and he is not too busy to even have time to talk to you. He can put you at the bottom of his life because he doesn't care about you at all.
Women are best at daydreaming in their feelings, weaving lies for themselves and comforting themselves. He loves me very much and is very kind to me.
Others don't know whether you are happy or not, don't you know it yourself? Even though you have been pretending that happiness may be temporary, when the truth of life is completely exposed to you, you can only accept it face to face without escaping.
So it's better to be chic. If he doesn't love you, you can leave. What he loses is a person who loves him, which is his loss, and what you leave is only a person who doesn't love you. You have nothing to lose.
So don't dream in love, don't have unrealistic illusions about a man, whether he loves you or not, you really know in your heart, don't deceive yourself and comfort yourself, because the best way to express all true love is to act, not a few illusory promises and promises.