Competition coefficient: ★★★★★★★
Help-seeking coefficient: ★★★★★★
Degree of firmness: ★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆.
Xiao A and Xiao B applied for the same major in the same school. Frankly speaking, both of them hope to urge, help and communicate with each other, but at the same time they are worried that the other party is not honest enough to hide important information from themselves. The relationship between the two people is very subtle, and they often test each other on small things.
It is extremely unlikely that two students with the same tutor in the same school will become good research friends, unless they have been friends for many years and have a good relationship. Postgraduate entrance examination is very competitive because of the limited enrollment places, especially this kind of "hand-to-hand combat", which can almost be said to be "life and death". Therefore, such friendship is fragile. But when you need to discuss problems in review, such research friends are the most helpful.
Advice on getting along: don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you.
In this case, you can't touch it This friendship is not nonexistent, but extremely fragile. If it is because of competition, or hiding selfishness, or suspicion and misunderstanding, it will cause a crisis of friendship, and it takes considerable energy to deal with this crisis.
If you already have such a research friend, you need to handle the relationship carefully. Treat each other as friends, tolerate your own selfishness and accept each other's selfishness. If you think you can share something, tell yourself frankly that you have concealed some information or materials, and don't feel too guilty, because it's normal. Similarly, if you know what the other person is hiding, you don't have to be angry. However, don't put obstacles in each other's way. As the saying goes, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you".
The second type: apply for different schools in the same major.
Competition coefficient: ★★★★☆☆
Help coefficient: ★★★★★☆.
Ruggedness: ★★★★★
Alei and Wenwen are students of the same major. After deciding to take the postgraduate entrance examination, they applied for different schools, so they met to study by themselves, have dinner together and exchange review experience together. Although the review reference books of two people are different, they are the same subject after all, and many important knowledge points are interlinked. This kind of communication can also expand different understanding of some issues.
Although the help provided by this kind of fellow villagers is not as good as that provided by the first kind of fellow villagers, in reality, they can help each other to the maximum extent. Because the content of the exam is very similar and the competition is relatively small. If the adjustment factor is not considered, it can be said that the competition is almost zero.
Human nature is good, especially when we are in the same boat. This kind of friendship, which has no real conflict of interests and can help each other, is relatively long and profound.
Advice on getting along: share friendship and care for each other.
Never be stingy with your care, support and encouragement to others. If you can become research friends with such people, then show your "goodness" to the fullest. I believe you will enjoy sincerity and happiness in this friendship.
Of course, if the strength of two people is very different, the strong may feel that they have paid too much for each other. At this time, we should pay attention to communication skills and achieve "win-win".
The third type: apply for different majors, the same school or different schools.
Competition coefficient: ☆☆☆☆
Help-seeking coefficient: ★ ☆ ☆ ☆.
Degree of firmness: ★★★★★☆☆
Xiao He and Xiao Dong met when they were in a postgraduate remedial class together. They got along well, so they soon became research friends. Their majors are different, only English and political language are the same. He Wei said: "In fact, we have surpassed the research friends and can be regarded as good friends. We often talk about our views on society and life together, exchange review methods and experiences, and talk about the current postgraduate entrance examination situation ... Sometimes review is too tired and life is too boring, so we go drinking together. "
The majors of this kind of postgraduate entrance examination may vary widely, and the schools are different. Among them, the link is "Postgraduate Entrance Examination". Of course, English, politics and other same subjects still have similarities. This kind of research friends focus on giving each other emotional support and alleviating the psychological pressure of postgraduate entrance examination.
Advice on getting along: maintain feelings and support each other.
There is basically no competition for such research friends, and there is little pressure to get along with them. Relationships are more about feelings. In the review process, we need to pay attention to control our emotions, not to influence each other too much, and learn to support each other and make progress together.
Type 4: red warning zone-opposite sex research friends
The above situation also exists among friends who study the opposite sex. The difference is that the opposite sex can weaken the competition coefficient and increase the firmness coefficient. As the saying goes, "Men and women are matched, and it is not tiring to take the postgraduate entrance examination", which has some truth. Psychologically speaking, everyone will try to show their excellent side in front of the opposite sex, review the postgraduate entrance examination together, and also maximize their enthusiasm and potential. "Postgraduate entrance examination requires perseverance and patience. Boys' self-control is generally poor. They can't sit still in the classroom for half an hour, while girls generally have strong self-control. In order to ensure the daily study time and review progress, two people studying together can play a role of mutual supervision. " Chen Xiao has such a heterosexual research friend.
However, the relationship between heterosexual research friends is subtle. Once they "cross the border", it may reduce the review efficiency and affect the postgraduate entrance examination plan.
Advice on getting along: weigh clearly and grasp the balance.
Students who want to choose the opposite sex research friends or have found the opposite sex research friends should carefully consider and weigh the pros and cons. During the review period, just concentrate on your study, and the pressure of postgraduate entrance examination is already great. If you add the factor of "love" ... it needs to have a good concentration, otherwise, the taste of "burned out" will be unpleasant.
Of course, in the process of * * * struggling together, there may be heterosexual research friends who really "spark love". The situation of "double harvest of love for postgraduate entrance examination" depends on "the right time, the right place and the right people", which is even more difficult.
Don't deliberately make friends with research friends with impure motives, which will easily lead to the final "empty-handed".
As can be seen from the above analysis, the feelings between research friends are different from the friendship established in daily life. The results of the postgraduate entrance examination also have a great influence on the maintenance of this friendship.
There are only three results of Yanyou's postgraduate entrance examination: everyone is happy, one is happy, and the other is worried that both of us are unhappy-forever. The second state is the most difficult for researchers. If you happen to be the recognized one, in this case, no matter what gesture you make, it seems that you can't calm the other person's broken heart. At this time, you need to have enough understanding and patience to accompany your friends through the depressed days.
Finally, I would like to remind everyone that we should keep in mind the first purpose of finding research friends-mutual support and encouragement, and successfully spend the postgraduate entrance examination time. After the postgraduate entrance examination, you should cherish the friendship that you can continue to make deep friends, and you can let go of those that can't continue to develop. Everything should be natural. I remember a saying: "Friends are people walking on the same road." When you are no longer on the same road, why don't you break up calmly?
"Test 1"
How to care for the flower of friendship?
One morning, you were in a hurry to go out and do a very difficult thing. Just then, a friend of yours who is taking the postgraduate entrance examination called you to complain. What would you do?
A tell a friend about your current situation and call him/her as soon as you finish your work.
B. I can't bear to hang up and continue listening to him/her.
C. tell your friends that you have no time now, and then go out.
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