What should I do in the face of harassment from my boss?

The 30-year-old promising young boss of the company invited the 22-year-old female assistant to lunch, and she was flattered. But just as they were going to eat, she was surprised to find that they were riding motorcycles to the restaurant, sitting on motorcycles, with their hands around the boss's waist. After sitting down in the restaurant, the boss never mentioned their next work project, but kept touting how charming she was and invited her out for dinner at night. The assistant just entered the company, only to find himself in a worrying situation. Vicky Lynn, vice president of research and consulting in Vault.com, a professional information network, admits that in the face of this situation, "whether you accept it or not, it will be very troublesome." If the assistant refuses the boss's pursuit, it may hurt the boss's feelings and even destroy the normal working relationship between the two sides. But she really doesn't want to accept it. At that time, she immediately said that she already had a boyfriend, in order to save the boss's face. Fortunately, the boss got the message, dismissed the idea and stopped pestering. But this rarely happens. "Once a man launches an offensive, he is usually a little paranoid, and sometimes what he says doesn't work at all." Outten &; Labor Arbitration Law Firm; The plaintiff's lawyer Anne Golden said. She pointed out that it is difficult for young people to gain confidence, and there are few mature minds to tell their bosses not to pursue themselves. "Besides, the boss usually says,' You misunderstood, I just want to be friends with you.' "She added further. Some suitors will regard the woman's refusal as pretentious reserve. Gordon said: "In many cases, the only way to stop the boss from pursuing is to report to the human resources department, but after this step, their careers have not been ruined, which is really lucky." She found that this desperate way was seldom used. She has been a labor arbitration lawyer for 25 years, during which she is used to all kinds of phenomena that women harass men, men harass women, men harass men or women harass women. However, the most common situation is that men harass women. Edward Hernstadt, another lawyer representing the plaintiff, suggested that people should first assess the nature of the threat when facing annoying suitors. Weigh the boss's personality and see if you can tell him the truth. "This situation usually makes employees feel uneasy," he pointed out. However, you have to find out whether the boss is really harassing you or just being careless. If you think you can have a sincere conversation with your boss and he is willing to listen, then they'd better solve the problem through face-to-face conversation. Donald O'Meara, a labor and employment lawyer, is an adviser to the management of Montgomery McCracken in Philadelphia. He believes that employees should tell their bosses frankly that their courtship is not welcome. He suggested a more humorous way. "You can stop this behavior by joking moderately," he said. Omira prefers the following expression: "Hey, can someone dial the number of the human resources department quickly?" Or "can I borrow your mobile phone and tell your wife exactly what you just said?" But when you say these words, you must pay attention to the appropriate teasing tone. Lynn, Herr Engstad and Gordon all believe that many employees, especially young employees who have just joined the company, find it difficult to stand up to older and senior male bosses on their own. Engstad and Gordon encourage people to consult a lawyer as soon as possible when they encounter annoying courtship. This does not necessarily mean taking legal action, but it is very important to know the rights of employees. Chapter 7 of the American 1964 Civil Rights Act proposes to prohibit sexual harassment and protect the interests of employees who have been retaliated for complaining about sexual harassment. A lawyer will tell you what rights you have under federal law and what protective measures you can take under state or local legislation. Although many employees think that they can be protected by the company's human resources department, it is more important to make people understand that the human resources department mainly serves employers. Heron Stade warned: "The human resources department is most concerned about achieving lasting peace in the company in order to create more profits." Omera hit the nail on the head and pointed out another disadvantage of reporting to the human resources department: if you file a complaint, the news will spread like wildfire, and if people think you are making trouble, it may prevent you from finding another job. One more thing, in sexual harassment litigation, most plaintiffs cannot win. Explaining this phenomenon, Heron Stade said that this is because 90% to 95% of well-documented sexual harassment cases are settled out of court.