The law of happiness 1: Knowing your lover is like knowing your palm print.
Ask yourself, do you know enough about your lover? You'd better draw a love map of your marriage. A love map is how much you know about his life information. They will create a lot of cognitive space in their marriage, and they will remember important events in each other's lives. Many strangers' marriages or derailed marriages, most people don't know their lover, and they don't spend enough time to know their lover. Only when they know their lover better will your marriage be stable.
Rule 2 of Happiness: Love your lover like a diamond ring.
Love your lover from the bottom of your heart and praise him often. Psychology has found that love and praise are two very important factors to maintain a valuable long-term love life. Although the relationship between husband and wife will have shortcomings, finding the value of each other's existence is still an important emotional boundary between husband and wife.
Rule 3 of Happiness: Manage your marriage like you manage your savings.
Marriage needs management. If we communicate regularly on trivial matters in marriage and store the good things in life, marriage will be in a positive cycle. Just like the lyrics, the most romantic thing I can think of is to grow old with you. There is a saying in psychology that an emotional savings account and a close couple are like saving money in an emotional bank. These positive emotional savings can play a buffering role when the savings accumulate more and the situation gets worse.
Rule 4 of Happiness: Pay attention to the influence of your lover, such as the change of weather.
Psychology also shows that if couples who have been married for 40 or 60 years are willing to accept the influence of the other half rather than the influence of their wives, their marriage will be very happy and there will be repeated storms.
I often find that my husband is silent or buys books when he is unhappy. Generally speaking, I know he is under great pressure at work. In marriage, paying attention to your lover's feelings, often making decisions with him and fully respecting each other's rights will help both parties to exert their influence.
In the final analysis, when two independent individuals get along in marriage, they must understand and fully understand and respect each other. Both men and women have their own advantages, and giving full play to their respective strengths and values is the greatest value of a marriage contract.
Rule 5 of Happiness: When there is a conflict, one party learns to say sorry, and "braking" in time is the best solution.
In the relationship between husband and wife, there must be a generous one, otherwise it will not be easy to settle conflicts. Learning to say sorry is an important secret in marriage. Generally speaking, people who say sorry first tend to pay the most attention to intimacy. There are actually two steps to learning to say sorry. One is to listen to the intention behind the emotional accusation of the other party, and the other is to see the essence of the problem, which will give both sides more space to deal with each other's emotions.
Rule 6 of Happiness: When you resolve the deadlock, leave a small space for your dreams.
In the intimate relationship between husband and wife, there will still be some conflicts, such as you like shopping, your husband's house. When we are in this deadlock, we must first respect differences and respect each other's space.
Happiness Rule 7: Only by creating family culture can happiness last for a long time.
Creating each other's family culture is the highest stage in marriage, and it is also a kind of inheritance, so that happiness will last longer. The reason why those well-known families have good manners is often more due to the infiltration of family culture for many years, and they will be more knowledgeable. The family influence brought by this family culture is often far-reaching and even amazing.
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