"Love is actually a' halo phenomenon': men and women in love often only see each other's advantages."
When this "halo phenomenon" fades, we can see ourselves and each other more clearly and comprehensively. In this relationship, Fan also saw the reality clearly from this "house buying incident".
She also began to re-examine her heart, maybe they are not suitable.
In Fan He's relationship, she has been changing and growing. Her unfortunate family background gave her a strong sense of insecurity. For her, whether her name is written on the house is by no means a question of how much the house is worth!
Adding a name to the house means that Fan Meisheng finally has his own home, which is a symbol of home. She is so eager to have her own home that a man can rely on it.
But obviously, Wang Baichuan is not the right person. Because throughout this TV series, Wang Baichuan is not a responsible person!
In the end, when they bought a house, their names were written on the property certificate, which made them very unhappy. Then why did Fan Meisheng (hereinafter referred to as Xiaomei) break up over this matter?
Is Wang Baichuan wrong? Is it necessary to add a name to the real estate license to prove that you love enough?
Let's review the plot:
On the day when Wang Baichuan (hereinafter referred to as Xiao Wang) finally decided to take Xiaomei to buy a house, Xiaomei arrived at the sales department early in the morning, and she was happy and looking forward to it. But on the other hand, Xiao Wang, the whole process is a look of no interest.
When they finally sat down in line to choose a house, Xiaomei blurted out her favorite floor. However, Xiao Wang is obviously absent-minded. When signing the contract, Xiao Wang hesitated. He always wanted to stop Xiaomei from signing the contract, always thought that the contract needed to be checked again, and called to say that he would go to another house to have a look. ...
I wonder here, you don't want to buy, you can't decide to buy today, is it so difficult for you to say in advance? Why can't you say it out loud?
The most critical moment has come. When the sales girl asked whose name the house was written, Xiaomei said without hesitation: ours! Also urged Xiao Wang to quickly take out his ID card!
Seriously, if Xiaomei hadn't been immersed in the joy of buying a house, I guess she would have seen Xiao Wang's hesitation earlier. It needs to be explained here that the down payment for buying a house was made by Xiao Wang's parents, which can be said to have taken out the savings of the old couple for a lifetime. Xiao Wang's mother told me repeatedly that she could only write Xiao Wang's name.
After a fierce ideological struggle in his mind, Xiao Wang finally recovered Xiaomei's ID card from the sales girl and handed it in. Xiaomei looks dumbfounded. What does this mean? Xiaomei wants to argue with Xiao Wang
At this time, Xiao Wang also expressed his dissatisfaction with Xiaomei's family and what he did in public. I don't understand. If you have a problem with these things or the house can only write your name, will you say in advance that you will die or something?
Why lie? Why must it appear in this form? At this time? Finally, when Xiaomei "ran away", Xiao Wang added: Now write my name first, and then add Xiaomei's name after marriage. ...
Tut tut, what is this called? Since we can make up for Xiao Wang after marriage, why not add Xiaomei's name directly now? Are you afraid Xiaomei won't marry you?
Well, as you wish, I won't marry you!
In fact, when the TV series was broadcast, Xiao Wang's Sao operation also made netizens quarrel!
Netizens also automatically stood in two teams. On the one hand, some people think that understanding Xiao Wang's practice, on the other hand, some people think that it is not worth it for Xiaomei!
The netizen who supports Xiao Wang said:
Besides paying, whose name is written in the house, Xiaomei should not care!
So Xiaomei!
What's more, because Xiaomei is not worth it, netizens who are distressed and understand Xiaomei say:
At first, Xiao Wang only loved Xiaomei, the goddess, and satisfied his unfinished dream. After really catching up, the feeling of warm heart will gradually fade away. ...
I think it is better for Xiaomei to marry Mr. Chen directly.
Xiao Wang used Xiaomei's contacts and resources to get his present job, and it was also Xiaomei, otherwise he would never have a chance to meet a powerful boss. Xiao Wang used Xiaomei and didn't want to be responsible. Xiao Wang's love is just talk, pay seriously, but have no money.
Xiaomei just misjudged someone and shouldn't look for her mother-in-law Xiao Wang.
In fact, the reason why Xiao Wang broke up with Xiao Mei was that he bought a house with a name. It's just a fuse In fact, the affection between two people is not so sweet. The house incident made Xiaomei realize from her heart that she might just want to have a home too much.
Do you have a name? It also forced Xiao Wang to face his heart: How much does he love Xiaomei now? Or is love always just an unfinished fantasy in the past?
Two people who love each other deeply will not break up easily because the house has no name! Feelings need to be accumulated slowly, even if it is love at first sight, it will not give everything for each other because of the first love.
Similarly, the end of love is not something that will lead to it. It's just that love has long faded, and it's only a matter of time before we break up. It happened that their emotions broke out through the matter of buying a house and adding a name, and they also spoke their minds.
Looking back at the whole story of Xiaomei and Xiao Wang, we know that Xiao Wang has a crush on Xiaomei since middle school. Since then, he has never forgotten Xiaomei. After accumulating some money and contacts at work, he came to Shanghai to start paying wages. In order to have some confidence in front of the former goddess, Xiao Wang rented a BMW 3 Series car.
I have to say that Xiaomei "speaks highly" of Xiao Wang because he drives a luxury car. Both of them are single, one has a crush on herself, and the other is because she can't find a good man who is willing to be really good to her.
So the two naturally came together. Xiaomei wants to have a home in Shanghai. She couldn't do it herself, so she "forced" Xiao Wang to realize this wish.
In order to make quick money, Xiao Wang did not hesitate to gamble all his net worth to invest, and was finally cheated out of business. In this case, parents can only ask for help when buying a house. Xiao Wang's parents only have one request, and the house can only be written in the name of his son. Because Xiaomei's parents have a series of coquettish operations, Xiao Wang's parents are very worried. What will happen to their half-life savings?
This incident also led Xiaomei to finally break up. But Xiao Wang, who has been kneeling, why didn't he "pester and beat" like before? How can a woman who once loved 10 for several years let go easily?
First, I am afraid of being dragged down by Xiaomei's family.
Himself, in middle school, Xiao Wang felt inferior in front of the goddess. After all, Xiaomei is a beautiful goddess who studies well. All the boys like her, and Xiao Wang is just one of them. When Xiao Wang learned of Xiaomei's terrible life experience, he felt worthy of the goddess Xiaomei.
Xiao Wang felt that he could stand beside Xiaomei with confidence, but his love was exhausted by Xiaomei's family.
What shocked Xiao Wang and his parents most was that Xiaomei's brother came to Xiao Wang's house with his paralyzed father on his back, which left a great shadow on Xiao Wang's family.
It is for this reason that Xiao Wang's parents insist that Xiao Wang write the house in his own name. They are afraid that Xiaomei's rogue brother will have a bad idea about their family. Because they have seen that Xiaomei's brother and sister-in-law have no bottom line.
Because he couldn't stand his parents being implicated for no reason, Xiao Wang was angry with Xiaomei for the first time. Although they dealt with this matter calmly later, Xiao Wang still felt very tired inside.
Second, Xiaomei doesn't love Xiao Wang that much.
This question is very realistic and cruel. In fact, Xiao Wang is just a "helpless" choice under Xiaomei's trade-off. He is handsome and has some money at home. The important thing is to love Xiaomei enough.
In this relationship, Xiao Wang has been in a state of begging, and he has been courting Xiaomei. Strive to be Xiaomei's hope and give Xiaomei a happy home.
But just as Xiaomei answered Andy's words in the play, Xiaomei said: A woman really loves a man and always thinks about him and wants to be with him. Even if there is a lot of pain in it, it is nothing compared with losing him.
Comparing the way Xiaomei treats Xiao Wang, it is not difficult to see that she does not love Xiao Wang in her heart. If it weren't for her age, she hasn't found a man who is willing to be really nice to her? If it were not for Xiao Wang's persistent pursuit.
It's not bad if it's not Xiao Wang's territory. If Xiao Wang hadn't stayed with him after learning about his family. Xiaomei won't choose Xiao Wang.
Xiao Wang gave Xiaomei a solid feeling. She has suffered too much in the family where she came from, and she doesn't want to continue to suffer.
After Xiaomei and Xiao Wang were together, Xiaomei threw a bunch of broken things at home to Xiao Wang to deal with, hoping that he could handle it himself. She is really tired.
But Xiao Wang is embarrassed about the identity of this family. He doesn't know what to do, because no matter what he does. Xiaomei is not satisfied. Xiaomei's dissatisfaction with Xiao Wang is not her dissatisfaction with herself. Xiao Wang always knew that he loved Xiaomei more.
However, perhaps it is in the matter of buying a house without a name that Wang Can Jr. can see clearly: Xiaomei may just want to find someone to lean on, and she wants to find someone to give her a home. It doesn't matter who this person is.
Therefore, the real reason why Wang Baichuan and Fan broke up is not because they didn't add their names. But after so many things, their feelings have changed. The two are just avoiding each other, so don't feel uneasy about their separation.
There is no doubt that Wang Baichuan loves Mei Sheng carefully.
But the love between two people is different. Wang Baichuan pursued Fan Meisheng because of love. But because of family, age, feelings and other reasons, Fan had to choose.
So, that's why in the end, she will say to Wang Baichuan: I don't deserve you.
Being able to separate means that mutual affection is not enough.
Don't force it.