I asked him if children used to be like this. He sighed and said that his daughter Xiaoli was fine before. Since the epidemic was at home in the first half of this year, no one has cared about her. Xiaoli works irregularly every day. She often watches the tablet and asks her mother to accompany her with her homework. Her mother was angry and asked her to do it herself, and then she became her mother playing with her mobile phone. She plays with the tablet, but the whole family is very happy. However, when school started, his daughter had a big problem in her study. She drags her homework, stays up late, and can't help watching the tablet.
During the epidemic period, primary school students have no school constraints, no teacher's teaching and supervision, and it is difficult to learn by themselves at home. The epidemic has passed, how can children arrange their studies and adjust their learning status as soon as possible?
I recently read the book Psychological Safety Officer. The psychological intervention and protection of primary school students mentioned in it can solve the above problems.
The author Zhao Xiaoming is a member of the Cultural Psychology Group of the Psychological Counseling and Therapy Committee of China Mental Health Association, a guest in the "Workplace Health Classroom" column of CCTV Financial Channel, and a psychologist in the "Speed Boys" column of CCTV Children's Channel.
What kind of psychological characteristics do pupils have?
In primary school, learning is the main task. Parents should cultivate their children's awareness of diligence and let them feel that their efforts will be rewarded, which can be academic achievements, praise from parents and hugs from parents.
Even if his grades are poor, we should find his progress, often encourage his progress and praise his efforts, so that the more diligent a child is, the more he loves the positive cycle of learning, rather than the negative cycle of being scolded the more diligent he is.
Knowing the psychological characteristics of children at this stage, you will understand why my friend Bao Ge's daughter Xiaoli has problems in her homework and study.
First, Xiao Li's progress, did Bao Ge see it, did Bao Ge always encourage her progress, and made her feel happy with her diligence.
Second, Xiaoli regards learning as a task, lacking motivation and interest, and more like learning for her parents.
Third, there is a lack of emotional companionship between parents and children. Maybe the child just wants you to watch her homework with her, not to help her with her homework.
Then how can we make Xiaoli adjust her learning state?
First of all, from the adjustment of cognitive input, parents should protect their children from excessive negative information and inform them of simple and necessary information. At the same time, parents should patiently and gently tell their children all kinds of problems, such as crisis and death. For example, when Xiaoli delays doing her homework, Brother Bao can clearly tell her classmates when to finish their homework and how to arrange it. According to Xiaoli's current homework, how to arrange it better?
From the cognitive output, let children keep a diary to express their feelings about crises, major events, meaningful and interesting things.
Secondly, to cultivate children's good study habits, the most important thing is to develop good habits of self-discipline and self-study. Self-discipline means doing things according to the agreed time, and self-study means providing resources for children to find channels and ways to arrange their own learning.
Finally, in primary school, children spend more time than junior high school and senior high school, so they should read more classic books and cultivate their hobbies. Strengthen physical exercise and have a good figure. Besides, give them time to play by themselves. More importantly, parents should chat with their children more, spend more time with their children, and increase the time and quality of their feelings.
I believe that Bao Ge will gain something by adjusting Xiaoli's learning status from three aspects: cognition, learning and time.