We can't say that the problem of Fang and Fang doesn't exist at all, but I want to say that most couples can basically cross this hurdle. Xiao Lu is not a "scum", and the main problem of this marriage is not him.
From the beginning, the TV series created an anxious treasure mother for us. Because of pregnancy, I can't eat or sleep well, my body is deformed and my face is covered with spots. She wanted noodles, and her husband packed her a bowl. When she saw that there were no peppers, she immediately lost her appetite. Everyone remembered the scene of Xiao Lu eating noodles in the camera, and then took it out on Xiao Lu, saying that he had no intention of accompanying his wife through thick and thin.
Turning his head, Enoch wants to eat fruit and says he wants to eat three apples. As a result, Lu Xiao peeled the apple, but Enoch fell asleep. This shot has already explained a lot. First of all, Xiao Lu took good care of Enoch. Enoch wants noodles. He wants to peel apples. He didn't shirk his responsibility. He is trying to be a husband. Secondly, eating noodles and peeling apples can show that Enoch is a bit picky.
Then, the promise of having children. Everyone complained that Xiao Lu didn't accompany Enoch, but drank at home. In fact, this is also a foreshadowing, which just shows that he wants to catch his breath. Enoch is pregnant at home, and he must not relax when he comes back from work.
It's really too much for Fang after giving birth to the baby. First, she pulled her pants herself and didn't want her husband to clean up. She doesn't want her husband to hug her without taking a shower. She wants to keep a perfect image in front of her husband. I said it's totally unnecessary. Your "burden" in front of your husband is too heavy and will only make you feel inferior. And this is the key factor affecting your husband and wife's life.
Second, excessive anxiety. For a moment, I suspect that Yue Yue will hurt the child, for a moment, I suspect that Yue Yue will feed the child with milk powder, and for a moment, I still think that Yue Yue will rest after sleeping with the baby. To be honest, if I were Yue Yue, I would leave without hesitation.
We don't deny that there are bad months, but sometimes we don't have to worry too much about breast milk and jaundice. Every time I see a promise keeping her eyes open like a psychopath, I think there is something wrong with her heart. Every time she was anxious, Xiao Lu was bound to be pulled up to chat with her, and then they quarreled. In the end, no one can sleep well and become more anxious.
This is a vicious circle.
Third, there are too many demands. My mother-in-law is a bit unreliable. She smokes and plays mahjong, but she promises too much. Let the mother-in-law record the children's diet and wash clothes in so many pots, which will make everyone collapse. What's more, although my mother-in-law is unreliable, she is diligent, whatever you say, and her temper is ok. You can't just look at the shortcomings without looking at the advantages.
In short, most of the contradictions in the second month were because Enoch was too anxious. If she can relieve anxiety, both husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can reduce many contradictions.
First of all, I want to advise you that it is best not to let your mother wait on you during confinement, especially a mother like Fang. She can only pick things up and deepen the contradiction between husband and wife.
Understandably, Enoch retired early to help her daughter take care of the children when she saw that her daughter was confined to the moon, had a bad rest and her mother-in-law was unreliable. However, we can see that our mother didn't leave, while Fang's mother insisted on moving in. The small room became a woman's world, and the home became Xiao Lu's "dressing table".
This is also true in the play. Enoch and his mother cooed, treating her mother-in-law as a nanny and not even letting the children touch her. To tell the truth, my mother-in-law is quite good at this point, at least not because she is treated differently, and she has always convinced herself that "as long as she can see her granddaughter."
But Enoch's mother is not like this. My mother always sees Xiao Lu's shortcomings and tirelessly encourages her daughter. One minute she said "I'm not angry with your husband", and the next minute she said "I'm optimistic about your husband". In a word, her eyes were full of Xiao Lu's shortcomings, and she told Enoch all these shortcomings, which made Enoch full of prejudice.
Do not overestimate human nature. There is a story in the biographies of Li Zicheng's son Gan Mao in Historical Records: a man with the same name and surname as Confucius disciple Zeng Shen killed someone, so someone told Zeng Shen's mother,' Zeng Shen killed someone! Zeng Shen's mother knitted the cloth with great aplomb. After a while, another person told Zeng Shen's mother:' Zeng Shen killed someone! Zeng Shen's mother was dubious and tried to knit the cloth calmly. After a while, the third man ran over and said,' Zeng Shen killed someone! Zeng Shen's mother left the loom and ran over the courtyard wall.
As a mother who believes in her son, she will still do it, let alone make a promise. Even if a promise says nothing, it can still plant the seeds of doubt in my heart.
I think Dear Children exaggerates too many children's problems, as if children are the "killers" of marriage problems.
Make a promise from here, have a child, there is no place for Xiao Lu in her heart. One night, she tried to put the child to sleep, so she sent a message to Lu Xiao: Be gentle when you come back. She was awakened by the child. Lv Xiao, who had arrived home, heard the voice and slept in the car all night. I had to take my daughter to get vaccinated the next day, and I was complained again.
From Xiao Lu's point of view, having children makes home a frightening place. He is afraid of children crying, but he is more afraid of family quarrels. He casually said "crying can increase lung capacity", but his wife told him that he didn't care about the children, and he remembered it for several days. In this case, does he dare to say another word?
Small problems like this accumulate and naturally become big problems in marriage.
However, children are not the disaster of marriage, and not all couples who have given birth will be as irresistible as Enoch and Lu Xiao. If they can understand each other, think of each other from each other's point of view, criticize less and understand more, they will certainly be able to tide over the difficulties.
After this period, you will find that the relationship between the two will be better.
Remember, children are not a disaster, but a bond of love.