Everyone has different mental problems, but some are invisible and some are explicit.
August 22nd? Tuesday? The sun has just come out of the mountains.
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"Sister, sister-in-law, are you at home? Let's go to Hong Kong or Macau to play together, sister-in-law! "
"Now is 1 1 point. Why do people still knock at the door and shout, will you open the door? " Yes, Mr. Tao
"good! All right! Ok, I'll go. "
"It's Yao Yao, come in, come in, find your sister-in-law, she's in the bedroom, I'll call her." Mr. Wang greeted him warmly.
"I am looking for my sister-in-law. I want to go out to play with her. I'm going to Macau and Hong Kong, sister-in-law, sister-in-law! " Yao Yao is on the phone in the living room.
It was 1 1 in the early spring night, and it was still a little cold. When I heard Yao Yao's cry, I put on my coat, quickly found my slippers and ran to the living room. Hearing Yao Yao's voice, he shouted and worried!
“F！ What happened? I am not at home to look after the children at this time! Still not sleeping. "
"Sister-in-law, I want to travel, sing, drink, go to Hong Kong and Macao, or Beijing!" Yao Yao looked at me straight, her dark circles sank in, staring at me with glassy eyes. It's really creepy to be looked at by this kind of eyes, but I'm not afraid, because she is my best sister-in-law and best friend in my husband's family.
Then, Yao Yao's husband Ayong came to our house, followed by Ayong's brother. Ayong whispered softly to Mr. Wang, and Mr. Wang nodded frequently. I seem to understand something.
She is ill again. I just heard that she will be ill. This is the first time I have seen such a Yao Yao. It seems that the illness is very serious this time. Why else would so many people follow? I seem to understand that my sister-in-law who has been whispering recently has closed the door at home and is afraid to contact her.
"Sit down and stand! Sit down ~ ~ "I told everyone to sit down, newcomers are guests.
Yao Yao is sitting next to me. Because we usually meet and chat, we are the best sisters-in-law and best friends. She sat next to me without any fear.
"Sister-in-law, have you just come back from a business trip? You went to Shanghai, didn't you? Where is the fun? Is the Oriental Pearl beautiful? You can take me again next week! " Yao Yao took my hand and said.
I was thinking that I just went to Jinan for a meeting last week and didn't go to Shanghai. She's really sick at home. Do you really want to go out to play?
"Shanghai can also, when I have a holiday, I go out to play together. You slept late today. You usually sleep at this time. " I replied with a stiff smile.
"I can't sleep. I haven't been able to sleep recently, especially at night. I always want to go out for a walk when I can't sleep. " Shook his head and said,
"Don't sleep, will have a headache. Have a good sleep and have a good rest. The state is good. " I tried to comfort her.
Yao Yao's husband was talking to her husband in a low voice, and I didn't notice. I saw Yao Yao's husband chatting, and I didn't forget to check Yao Yao's status from time to time. Sitting on the sofa, I think this Ayong is really good. The child is over 2 years old. Seeing his wife like this, he didn't abandon her, but followed her all the time.
"I want to sleep, sister-in-law, but I prefer to go out to play and don't want to eat. I just want to walk around and look around. "
Yao Yao casually chatted with me. My husband quietly handed me two pills and whispered "give her some" (afterwards, my husband told me it was a sedative).
"Yao Yao ~ ~ drink water. I'll get you some water. By the way, I bought a new skin care product, which contains a variety of vitamins B and E. Come and take two tablets. I have been eating them recently! "
As I spoke, I poured water, a cup of warm water and two pills and brought them to Yao Yao.
"Come on, I've been eating recently. You see, my skin is much better and my state is much better! "
Pa ~ ~ ~ 1, a cup of warm water spilled all over the floor, and there was a lot of water on the sofa. The glass flew to the wall and broke. This loud noise in the middle of the night is so deafening in the silent room, and the sound is so crisp and harsh. Then the two pills in my hand flew away, and I was trembling with fear. This is the first time I've been rejected. I'm a little scared.
"You bad guys just know to let me take medicine, just know to let me take medicine, I don't eat, I don't eat, I'm not sick." Yao Yao, who knocked over the cup, sat quietly while the others looked at it in surprise.
"Then don't eat, don't eat, drink some water, and I'll pour you another drink!" I pretended to be calm and said, go and break the glass. Afraid of other accidents.
Mr. Wang said that when I took out the garbage,
"Thank you! Ayong was embarrassed, thank you for your patience! I have called the hospital. Her brother is on his way. Take her to the hospital. Don't worry, he is already on his way. "
I don't think I dare to rush her away. What if I do something stupid? Looking at Yao Yao sitting on the sofa, I feel distressed and anxious. I can't help her in a hurry, and I feel quite incompetent! Watching a friend get sick, but there's nothing he can do.
I sat in the living room and chatted with her. What she said was incoherent, and so was my respondent. As long as she is happy, I think she just needs someone to accompany her. What matters is not what she said, but being with her. It seems that companionship can cure diseases.
Twenty minutes later, Mr. Wang said that his brother had arrived and he was leaving. This 20-minute chat is the most nonsense and lies I have said in my life, and I still have to lie. As for what I said, I don't remember. This is why it takes 100 lies to remedy a lie.
"Yao Yao, it's 12. Let's go to bed. Are you sleeping here or going home? " This is my most hypocritical remark, and I can't get rid of her. This is the only way. I'm really afraid that she will sleep in my house. I'm really scared. I'm afraid something will happen to her at night, or her personal safety.
"No, sister-in-law! I'm leaving. I'm going home to sleep. Sorry, I'm leaving. " F is particularly normal at the moment. I even thought she was okay. The person who just broke the cup is not the same as her.
When I went out, Yao Yao saw my brother at the door.
"Ah ah! Ah ah! ~ ~ ~ ~ Ah ~ ~ I'm not going, I'm not going to the hospital. My brother must have taken me to the hospital. "
I immediately sat down on the ground, curled up, rolled left and right, screaming loudly. People in the neighborhood were stunned. Yao Yao's husband and brother held her down as fast as possible, fearing that she would run away and find her in the middle of the night. Hold her hands and feet, cover her mouth, afraid of shouting, afraid of hitting her head against the wall, afraid of being heard by neighbors, afraid of having another conversation after dinner in this village, afraid of being pointed at behind her back.
After all, two men are more powerful than one woman. Yao Yao was tired and was finally carried into the car by his brother. His brother drove Yao Yao and her husband away in the dark night. My husband and I packed up the living room and hurried back to bed. It's past 12. The night in spring is still very cold. The disappearance of the car and the appearance of Yao Yao's turning back have been floating in my mind.
"Which hospital did she go to?"
"Which is it, the specialized fourth mental hospital?" Mr. Wang replied.
"Sick, according to common sense, we are going to visit! How about going to see her tomorrow? "
"You don't need to see this disease. Don't go to the hospital. Go see the fear. Go to sleep. I scared you tonight! " Mr. Wang said gently that it doesn't matter whether his wife is beautiful or not at the moment. The most ordinary normal people are very good.
"I'm not afraid of her, but the way she is sick really scares me. I think she is really poor, and I don't know what she used to have. This time I saw it, it was still creepy! " I answered calmly.
That night, I couldn't sleep for a long time. In this fairly wealthy village, every family lives in a house and drives a car. Everyone looks happy, but every family has a different story.
It is this day that every family doesn't know other people's stories, and every family has unpleasant things. When you find your unhappy life and look at those who live more miserable lives, you will find how happy you are. Without contrast, there is no happiness.
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I can't sleep at night, and my thoughts are floating in the wind.
When I married my husband, I only knew that this was a happy and harmonious family. My father-in-law has several brothers, and each uncle's family is also very easy to get along with. I, a newly married daughter-in-law, often drop in to see which one has delicious food and sit down to eat. I am a super real new daughter-in-law.
Most people go to my husband's second uncle's house. His brother's wife, Yao Yao, is about my age. There are always many people who speak the same language. When I got married, Yao Yao was already an 8-month-old pregnant woman, and pregnant women were always absorbed by the fetus in her belly. When she eats two people by herself, she is always very hungry, so there are many delicious foods at home.
Yao Yao is still one year younger than me, probably because she got married early. She is also a pregnant mother and loves to take care of people. She always shares the delicious food that pregnant women give me preferential treatment. In summer, all kinds of fruits, snacks and dried fruits, as long as I go to her house, I can't keep my mouth shut. Fortunately, I don't get fat easily, otherwise I would really eat fat girls with pregnant women at one time.
China's New Year's Eve dinner has contributed to many things and many allusions. This is also a hotbed of friendship. We often play and share together, and Yao Yao and I have become the best sister-in-law relationship in this family. I often give her clothes that I can't wear. I love buying clothes, and I travel a lot. I will buy all kinds of beautiful things at buy buy.
When I'm not working, we go shopping together. She keeps the delicious food at home for me and often goes to her to make a living and have fun.
At that time, I was also surprised that Yao Yao was so enthusiastic and sincere that other sisters-in-law refused to make friends with her. I don't want to have much contact with her. I know the answer after five months because everyone knows her very well.
A woman is a princess one day, a queen ten months and a maid all her life.
Yao Yao gave birth to a lovely daughter, and I looked at this little pink doll so cute, so cute. Cute, I want to have my own children. When I am not at work on weekends, I will help Yao Yao look after the children.
Yao Yao often complains to me that "it is very tiring to take care of children, and it is very hard to take care of children, so I can't sleep."
"Mother's greatness is not to pay, isn't it? Our mother, the older generation is not always like this! Can't complain, you are working hard at present, and it is a happy thing to watch Niu Niu grow up day by day! "
After a long time, I was thinking about my persuasion to Yao Yao. If I had known that she had such a problem, I wouldn't have persuaded her. On the contrary, I told my second aunt that Yao Yao felt that taking care of the children was very tiring, and you should share more, so maybe there would be no such tragedy.
She often complains, and I often comfort her, which is understood as the normal performance of girls and women on their mothers. I didn't take this seriously. When we have not experienced other people's affairs, we will never know their pain, nor can we understand them with our empathy.
Some things can't be hidden, just like paper can't wrap fire, what should happen will happen eventually.
"Is it convenient to talk?" Sir, call me,
"It's convenient to say" I walked to the conference room with my mobile phone.
"F, cut his wrist and committed suicide ~ ~ ~"
"Ah ~ ~ ~ Really!" I screamed in the conference room,
"There is no danger to life ~ ~ ~ How can this happen!" Keep asking
"A lot of bleeding, but also found in time, just finished rescue. There is nothing serious in life. I was in the intensive care unit, and my wrist was badly cut. Fortunately, I committed suicide at Yao Yao's house, otherwise Ayong really couldn't tell! " This gentleman said.
"What is willing to, f how oneself, how willing to die, this woman! I don't understand, I can't accept it, how can I have the courage to die! " Being asked is uncomfortable and I don't understand.
"She has a mental derangement, before marriage, but not obvious before marriage. Now that I have a baby, I am tired and have a relapse! " Mr. Wang said
"what! Why didn't you say earlier that I had such a good relationship with her! ! ! She is a mental patient, why didn't you tell me earlier! "
"I, I, I ~ ~ see you have a good relationship, she is so willing to find you to play, also don't think what's the problem. I didn't say! "
"What are you lying to me? Say it! "
"I can't take the initiative to tell you that she is mentally ill, such a thing. I think she is fine, and maybe she will never relapse again! "
"Well, I'll digest it first!" I hung up the phone.
When you are in love, everything is so beautiful. After you get married, you will find that everything is different. Maybe it is intentional, maybe it is unintentional, maybe your mood has changed.
Yao Yao is a mental patient. Everyone in Mr. Wang's family knows that except me. I feel cheated, like a farce. Everyone knows this is a farce, and I'm sure it's a true story. I'm so stupid, so stupid.
Back in the office, I brought a cup of hot water, and I stood at the window for a while. The mood also gradually calmed down. Yao Yao is a mentally ill woman in everyone's eyes. So what? Does she want to be like that?
Who wants to be born disabled? Are you sick?
Would you like to? No, no, everyone wants to be perfect or born in a happy family, and no one wants to be born in a broken family.
So what if I make friends with a mentally ill woman! As long as this friend is sincere enough and everyone is happy enough to be with each other, I will do it myself and others can take care of it. My own life doesn't care about other people's pointing fingers.
After work, my husband doesn't want me to go to a mental hospital to see patients. I went to the hospital to visit my friend. Why should I care about other people's eyes! I just want to go and no one can stop me.
I went to the hospital, Yao Yao was in the intensive care unit, and I didn't see her either. If she is a normal woman, I must scold her.
"How do you have the courage to die, how do you give up those who love you around you, how do you give up your children, how do you give up your parents, how do you give up me!" I can only think about these words in my head, but I can't say them.
Looking at Ayong still sitting in the corner of the corridor, didn't speak, just sitting. I couldn't find anything to comfort him, so my husband chatted with him for a while. I stood quietly in the corridor for a long time. The hospital is a sad place. I really don't want to stay. Since I can't see anyone, I choose to leave.
All I can do is go to my second aunt's house after work to help take care of Yao Yao's children, who are only 100 days old. I won't breastfeed from now on. When children were young, their eyesight was weak and they liked red best. After I know this, I try to wear red clothes and hold my children every day to make them like me more.
Although I am not a mother, my love can make up for her feeling of not having breast milk. The child leaves his mother who smells like breast milk, closes his eyes, cries with all his strength, and sleeps when he is tired. Sleep will continue to cry, refused to drink milk powder, the child cried, and the second aunt also cried. I dare not say more. This is the cultivation that a rural grandmother should have. Dare not say, dare not say, dare not scold if you are bitter.
There are no difficult times. When the child is tired of crying, he will drink milk powder, and the second aunt will stop crying. I still visit the children in Yao Yao every day. The clock turns every day. No matter how you think or live, the days are over. More than 20 days later, Yao Yao was discharged from the hospital.
When the patient leaves the hospital and goes home, it is the custom in the village to visit the patient. Sister-in-law wants to see it, but this time she's going to Yao Yao. Everyone is really polite, and no one wants to spend more time with her. I still continue to get along with Yao Yao. She is not as talkative as before and has a long scar on her hand.
Cover it with a watch, which can only cover the surface scars and inner scars. What can be used to cover it up
I still continue to play with her, but Yao Yao is not as happy as before. This is the first time that she got sick after marriage.
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"Now that you know that Yao Yao has mental problems, you continue to be friends with her. I thought you would stay away from her. "
"What do you think I have before marriage? Is there no tenderness? " I asked sir.
"Yes, not as gentle as before marriage! Hey! "
"No, I agree to divorce."
"Divorce is such a trivial matter. It's a marriage of 100. You are not old!"
"Then come on, between friends, found that friends have mental problems will break up. Well, I am very healthy now. If one day I am unhealthy, I will have no friends. You people, vulgar! "
Mr. Wang smiled knowingly and didn't speak. After a while.
"Let me tell you the story of Ayong and Yao Yao," said the gentleman.
Mr. Wang is a person who doesn't gossip. In his mouth, he can hardly hear any stories about oriental parents Li. A person may not talk much. He is a man of few words. He is willing to tell stories, and sincerely willing to listen, especially the story of Yao Yao and Ayong before marriage.
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My second aunt has three children, a brother and a sister in Ayong. My brother is in college and my sister is still young. My second uncle and aunt don't have many financial resources. Living in the countryside can only make you eat and drink. My brother went to high school and worked after graduating from Ayong Middle School.
In rural areas, people without education, skills and abilities can really only do ordinary jobs. Ayong did a lot of work, such as factory assembly line work, express delivery, hourly work, and finally as a construction worker. The building was built by construction workers. They are tired every day, and they just want to fall asleep when they go home.
It is also a happy thing for young people in rural areas to get married early. Ayong is handsome and strong. I think a simple and honest man doesn't have so much heart. Although he doesn't have a rich and expensive life, it's ok to live a small life with relish.
Started dating, met a lot back and forth. After dating Yao Yao, Ayong changed.
Yao Yao's parents remarried, and her illness was inherited from her mother. Now her mother is Yao Yao's father, and she remarried when she was 8 years old, which is what everyone called stepmother (my brother was brought up by my mother). But I think this stepmother is the most qualified stepmother in China. Every time Yao Yao doesn't feel well, she is the first to go to Yao Yao's house. (Mr. Wang doesn't say, I never thought her mother was a stepmother. ) Be caring and attentive to take care of Yao Yao.
The living conditions in Ayong are average. Every time I go to Yao Yao's house, my prospective father-in-law always prepares at least four dishes with good wine. After a long time, it is enjoyment and happiness to live from bitter days to good days. It's hard to go back to the hard times. Ayong's happy time at Yao Yao's made Ayong feel much better.
Ayong is no longer a construction worker, but went to Yao Yao's father's factory management. They also got engaged soon. Mr. Wang said that Yao Yao had been ill before marriage, but Ayong never gave up and accompanied her to many places for treatment.
The doctor's answer is the same, "it can't be cured, it can only be controlled, it is a mental problem." Even so, they went to the palace of marriage and gave birth to Niu Niu.
Every couple who can be together is made up of previous marriages.
Everyone will walk a lot in his life. This road may be a spacious highway or a rugged mountain road. Every road is to go, and every step is a trace of your life.
So are friends. We will have many friends in different periods of life, poor, rich, beautiful and ugly. No matter what she looks like, she is still my friend, and no one can change anything.
Yao Yao and I are still friends. Even if she really walks around and needs someone to find her, I will still be her friend.
I know. Nobody cares.
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Tom Zhang's friends, this is great for you.
These years, alone, the wind has passed and the rain has gone.
There have been tears and mistakes, remember, what to stick to,
If you really love, you will understand, be lonely and turn back.
There will be a dream, there will be you, in my heart,
Friends, life together, those days, no longer,
In a word, a lifetime, a lifetime of love, a glass of wine,
Friends, never lonely, say friends, you will understand,
Still hurt, still painful, still gone, and me,
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