Here, I will share with you some methods that I use to eliminate my inferiority complex.
1. Remind yourself that I am great at any time.
Here, I want to share a practical method with you. Set the desktop of the mobile phone to "I am great, come on", and put a post-it note in front of the computer and bathroom mirror, which reads "Live optimistically with a smile, I am working hard for my dream, come on". Don't underestimate this simple word. I used to rely on these words to encourage myself and remind myself to be a confident person. Be more sure of yourself and turn negative emotions into positive energy to motivate yourself to move forward.
2. Expand your specialties and hobbies
The reason for inferiority is that there are no skills to use. If you have a hobby that you are good at, remember to show it, or if you don't have a hobby but like something, such as reading, painting and calligraphy, you can develop in the direction of book reviewers. If you like painting and calligraphy, you can put your works online. As long as you show yourself boldly and get recognition and praise from others, you will find that you are not that useless person.
The purpose of enlarging my specialty is to tell myself that I also have bright spots and I can be a shining person in the crowd.
Record your harvest
When you are in the process of changing yourself and improving yourself, don't forget to write a harvest diary for yourself. In this diary, in addition to recording your own gains, you can also record some small joys in life, such as doing a good deed, having a happy dinner with friends and watching a movie. You can record anything that makes you happy, so that when you look through this diary every day, you will find that you are great and can do so many meaningful things.
4. praise yourself more, don't criticize yourself
Most people feel inferior because they like to say things that criticize themselves, such as "I am poor, I am stupid, I have accomplished nothing" and so on. In fact, when you do it through the method I mentioned above, praise yourself again, and you will find that you can accomplish a lot, and you are not a bad person.
If you want to change the feeling of inferiority, you should say more positive words to yourself and be more sure of yourself. As long as you stick to the above ways, believe me, your sense of inferiority will gradually weaken.
1 First of all, for the problem of small bones, you can exercise more to strengthen your physique, stay up as little as possible, make a reasonable diet plan, and let nature take its course. The body is given to us by our parents and should not be a source of inferiority! You should learn to accept yourself and accept some imperfections. Remember, what you want to be is not any other excellent person, but a better self.
Secondly, don't care too much about other people's eyes and don't compare too much with others. If a person drinks water, he knows a lot about water. Sometimes, you want to prove it to 10 thousand people, but in the end you find that only one person understands it, which is enough. Don't show the wound to everyone, but also tell someone who knows. Your life belongs to you!
As Roman Roland said, there is only one real heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life. It is this attitude towards life that you lack. The most important thing in life is to have the ability to find happiness and create happiness. You should cultivate more hobbies and pursue the greatest happiness with limited conditions. Don't cherish good things, and don't put off till tomorrow what you can do today. From now on, change yourself and try to do what you promised.
In the new year, the past is cleared, and love and hate are optional.
I wish you optimism, courage and confidence! ! !
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Inferiority is a word about self-value judgment, which means feeling worthless or only a little valuable. By definition, you feel inferior because you feel worthless. But are you really worthless? No, it's absolutely impossible.
First of all, your existence itself is value. Even if you don't achieve a career, your existence is of the greatest significance to your parents and your family. For example, your father is too old to work and can't add more income to his family. Do you think the old father is worthless at this time? No, for children, it is their greatest value that their parents can live a healthy and happy life.
Finally, value conversion. In this era when thinness is the beauty, isn't your thinness very good? Many people still want to lose weight! And you say you are thin, but you are not short! The boy's height of more than 1.7 meters is not bad. Moreover, the external requirements of society for boys are not very high. Although face value is very important, I think in reality, personality charm such as talent or personality is more valuable. And I believe that each other is from the heart. Although we are not outstanding externally, if we practice well internally, it will naturally be reflected in you. This is your unique temperament.
I hope my answer can help you.
First of all, I strongly recommend that you watch Hate Courage.
Everyone has an inferiority complex. As long as there is an upward desire, there will be inferiority. And a sound sense of inferiority should be compared with the ideal self, not with others.
My cousin is also over 170, only about 90 kg. The family always says that they should eat more, but he is still optimistic and confident. It is true that external evaluation will bring trouble, just like my classmate's young bald head, it is very painful if he cares too much about external evaluation. Defects are consciously magnified.
In fact, because of this sense of inferiority, it is difficult for me to find my own advantages and strengths.
The way is to find your own value and put yourself in a bigger body.
For example, if you feel inferior and worthless in class, put it in the department, if you don't, put it in the school, and then feel worthless, just like putting yourself in the world.
You can realize your own value through the contribution of others and give yourself positive feedback.
As long as you are different from your ideal self, you will feel inferior. Try to be determined by the distinction between inside and outside and the boundary between honor and disgrace. You know, you can't be on someone else.
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Please give me courage.
Change as much as I can.
Accept what I can't change
Give me wisdom.
Let me tell you the difference.
What a coincidence!
I am 22 years old this year, and I may feel inferior than you.
Being short is often laughed at since childhood. To tell the truth, I haven't reached 1.7 meters yet.
Both parents are migrant workers.
I felt inferior before high school.
I am a college student now, and I get an internship salary.
I don't expect how good I am. I just want people around me and my parents to be happy.
My parents expect me to find a girlfriend as soon as possible and urge me to get married.
I don't have any special skills, the only special skill is good temper.
My surname is Zhu, and I was nicknamed Happy Zhu when I was in college.
How to change inferiority complex? I think I found something special about myself.
This society is very realistic and everything will be compared.
When you find your own advantages, you get recognition from some people.
I can be a happy friend, I am a happy friend.
You won't feel inferior if you are needed.
Inferiority doesn't have to be rich and powerful.
Come on, life is long.
Why embarrass yourself?
Be a sincere, kind and helpful person.
Don't care about worldly vision.
We are all ordinary people.
Everyone is flesh and blood.
You can change your job if you like.
When people stay in an environment for a long time, they need to make changes.
Otherwise, you will never know what you are suitable for!
Hello, brother, please believe in yourself, you are the best.
After reading your description, as an elder sister several years older than you, I want to say a few words to you. In fact, your conditions are not bad. First of all, you have the most precious thing, that is, you are young, have a good life and have great energy. When you are young, anything is possible. Secondly, your parents are healthy and have a harmonious family. I can see that you are also very filial. A harmonious and healthy family is a good thing. Finally, I have my own house, and my life can settle down. What could be more important than this?
What pains you now is nothing more than being too thin, which makes you feel inferior. Inferiority leads to social fear, and you can't face everything around you confidently. But have you ever thought that if you are no longer thin, you will become confident? Aren't you afraid of social occasions? In fact, you will still be afraid, and you will still struggle a lot, although it can be alleviated. So the root cause is not that you are thin. This is just an inducement.
Youth is your capital, your parents are healthy and your family is harmonious. Take good care of yourself and work hard, and you will have a career. If you are afraid of your career, can't you find a good partner? What does a person live for all his life? As long as you can figure it out, the world is open to you. Come on, brother, look forward to your success.
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1. First of all, I suggest you go to the local municipal hospital for a physical examination to determine whether your problem needs treatment. If a doctor has a professional plan, it can not only help you change your physical condition, but also help you build up your self-confidence.
2. In the second step, it is suggested to go to the psychological clinic of the municipal hospital or a professional psychological counseling institution for professional psychological counseling. With the help of professionals, you can get out of confusion and find confidence. In your case, if there is no organic problem, you need to consult many times.
Because of the limited information, I can only confirm from the text that you feel inferior because of your physical problems, and feel that you are too thin and ugly, so you don't want to meet people in public places. This situation makes you feel pain. Pain is the necessity of life. As the saying goes, "Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory". Not only you have pain, but everyone has pain, and so do I. Don't expect to get rid of pain to get happiness. We should correctly understand pain. First of all, pain is good for us. It reminds us that something is wrong and needs to be solved. For example, if there is something wrong with your body, you are just in pain, and you don't go to the hospital or do psychological counseling. Is this pain self-inflicted? Secondly, the root of your pain is that you feel ugly. From another angle, tell yourself, "I don't want to associate with everyone, and I don't want everyone to recognize me. I just want to associate with people who accept me and recognize me. " In this way, the initiative of social interaction is in your own hands, and your mood will be greatly improved. I hope you can try. Moreover, if you really have social phobia, you need a professional diagnosis from a psychological counselor. Don't label yourself. Even if you have social phobia, you can completely overcome it under the guidance of a psychological counselor. Fourth, if you really don't want to do psychological counseling, use Morita therapy to "let nature take its course". Just work and live with symptoms, don't blame yourself, don't be afraid, work and live normally, and you will gradually ease in the natural process. I suggest you read Morita therapy. If you don't confront yourself, you will be stronger. Imperfection is beautiful, and self-care books will help you. Good wishes!
Some people are born with inferiority and have no confidence in themselves no matter what they do; Some people are often hit and their confidence is exhausted. People with this personality always choose to escape when things happen.
I have read this passage: I am not good at words, I don't express my feelings easily, I don't like to disturb anyone independently, I am too soft-hearted to refuse anyone, I am a sensible child in the eyes of my family, and I won't refuse other people's easy-going friends in the eyes of my classmates and friends, but I don't like it and I can't change myself. Well, I feel inferior, but I don't want people to know.
Xiaomei, a 9-year-old girl in the class, is introverted and sensitive, and her grades are poor, especially with the increase of grade. She can basically abide by classroom discipline in class, and she is happy to answer all the questions raised by the teacher, but her classmates always laugh at her in private and call her stupid. After hearing this, she will feel inferior, feel that she can't do anything well, and gradually become unwilling to get along with others.
People who are sensitive to blows like Xiaomei are psychologically fragile. Such people are easy to escape when they encounter things, and the greater the blow, the less willing they are to face it.
This is a psychological avoidant personality disorder and a physical and psychological defect.
Patients began to show shyness, loneliness, fear of meeting strangers and unfamiliar environment. In adulthood, these problems adversely affect the social and professional functions of patients.
They often have low self-esteem, are too sensitive, and are afraid of being rejected by others, which makes it difficult for patients to establish close relationships with others.
So, how can people with inferiority overcome inferiority?
(1) Know yourself correctly and improve your self-evaluation.
(2) We should correctly understand the advantages and disadvantages of inferiority and improve our self-confidence in overcoming inferiority.
(3) Make positive self-suggestion and self-encouragement, and believe in people's efforts.
If you are also born with inferiority complex, because these psychological reasons induce a kind of avoidance, then you must turn to a psychological counselor for effective adjustment.
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All unhappiness stems from carrying inferiority with you.
Since others can see this problem, I will systematically answer how to eliminate inferiority complex:
1. Find the root of inferiority complex (you have found this).
Step 2 change your mind
1. Don't try to be like others. The root of inferiority lies in the desire to be like others. If you try to be like others, then you can't evaluate yourself objectively.
Try not to worry about what others think. Inferiority is because we always care about what others think of us. Remind yourself that you never know what others are thinking. Focus on your strengths and achievements, not what others think of you.
4. Don't compare yourself with others. It is different from other people's environment, family, heredity and opportunities, and there is no comparability.
5. Don't jump to conclusions. Inferiority makes us feel that if one thing can be changed, our life will be better. We may think, "If I were ten centimeters taller, I would do whatever I wanted." "If I am more beautiful/handsome, I can do whatever I want." If you get all this, they will only provide temporary happiness, because deep down, you are still not safe. These ideas make inferiority complex develop rapidly, and even if they achieve their goals, they will not magically solve psychological problems.
Focus on your strengths, positive and valuable things, and learn to accept them, and you will live a happier life.
6. Stop negative self-talk. You engage in negative self-talk every day to strengthen your sense of inferiority. When you say negative soliloquies, such as "She doesn't like me because I am ugly", you will degrade yourself and print more negative and untrue thoughts in your mind. When you find yourself saying something negative to yourself, stop and say something positive. You don't have to deceive yourself by saying, "She will love me because I am the most handsome". On the contrary, evaluate yourself with positive and realistic words: "I am attractive and worthy of being loved and cherished by others." I am a kind and generous person and want to make friends with others. " This can build self-confidence and self-esteem.
7. Build self-confidence. Establish a positive psychological image of yourself, and don't define yourself with some negative labels such as stupidity and ugliness.
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Hello, first of all, it is a slow process from inferiority to self-confidence. First of all, what you have to do is not to suppress yourself, let yourself feel less inferior first, and gradually accumulate some sense of accomplishment and self-confidence from life.