Self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a positive attitude. Through self-discipline, we know how to gain benefits from learning and growth with a firm and decisive attitude when facing problems. Self-discipline includes four positive life principles, namely, delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts and keeping balance.
It is often said that the sunshine always comes after the storm. How can you see the rainbow without experiencing the storm? Many things may not be enjoyed in the first place. Don't covet temporary comfort, know how to rearrange the order of happiness and pain in life, and know how to suffer first and then be happy. But in reality, we often just enjoy it first and then pay the bill. When we go to college, we are like birds released from cages, flying freely and finally escaping from the suffering of learning and the control of our parents. We thought that we were liberated and could enjoy this freedom and happiness as we please, but we didn't know that we wasted the most worthwhile youth and the campus life that we should study hard. When I graduated from college, I found that I had been eliminated by a good company. This is the beginning of life, and we are completely lost at the starting point. This is the result that we have not delayed our satisfaction. Short-sighted, carpe diem will only ruin the happy life we could have enjoyed. So, I had an idea. I don't want to be static. I don't want to be stable from nine to five. I am a valuable person and I want to change.
In the past, I always avoided it. When I graduated, I felt that I had lost. All I need in my life is a stable job and a quiet life in this second-tier city. I had an internship in IBM Chengdu during my junior summer vacation. My second sister's friend Wen Yuan recommended me to go. Sister Wen Yuan is an upper-middle class person. She studied abroad and worked in many enterprises after returning home. She is my sister whom I had the honor to know after graduating from junior high school in 2006. At that time, she gave me an orphan in a fog, saying that she could teach me to swim so that I could go to bookstores more often. Obviously, nothing happened afterwards. Sister Wen Yuan wanted to help me. She knows that she has only been admitted to a second-rate university in China, so she hopes that I can face the society as soon as possible so that I can have a better starting point after graduation. There are still two months before the summer vacation. Sister Wen Yuan asked me to study English well and practice my spoken English during this period, because I still need a telephone interview in English. Of course, I know that the opportunity is hard-won, and I also want to speak fluent English, but because I believe that I have no language talent, I put it off again and again. Within two months, my English ability has not improved at all. After discovering my lazy behavior, Sister Wen Yuan wrote me a letter in English to encourage me to study. She's a little worried about me. She said that her lax attitude was irresponsible because I didn't reply, so call me. At that time, my friend and I were shopping outside, and I couldn't hear the sound clearly, so I perfunctory with her. Sister Wen Yuan finally asked me to go to a quiet place to answer the phone. Then he told me meaningfully, "I'm really in no hurry. If it's inconvenient for you to answer the phone, just tell the other person that I'm outside now. It's very noisy here. Just a moment, please. I'll find a quiet place to talk to you, or you can say I can't come to the phone right now and call you back later. Your lazy attitude now really makes people worry about whether you are qualified for this job ... ",hung up the phone and then. I feel very depressed. Sister Wen Yuan's invisible help made me feel burdened, so I later replied to Sister Wen Yuan's email and chose to give up this opportunity. I am very grateful for her kindness. Later, I explained to my second sister that I couldn't keep up with my elder sister's request and I couldn't live such a tired life. At least now I just want to live a carefree and sloppy life, but at that time I didn't really realize the seriousness of the problem. In fact, I know my reaction is negative, and I put the blame on Sister Wen Yuan, who is eagerly guiding me. All this is for my own life, and I gave up taking responsibility for my own life. If you don't solve the problem, it will become a problem. There is no if in life, and there is no chance to choose again. But we still have the ability to take responsibility for our own lives. Recently, I followed the internet to learn letters, names, sounds and various pronunciations, and asked my friends for junior high school English textbooks. Starting with the simplest words and sentences, I want to learn English.
I have been working for almost four years, and it seems that I have reached the bottleneck again. I don't know how to improve myself, and I don't know where my problems are. My working methods and skills in dealing with people still follow my old map route. In fact, I am an adult, but I am an immature person. When you graduate, you can be simple, naive and coquettish, and you can get the right to avoid death from your kind predecessors. But it's different now. If you make a mistake, you will be punished. If you have no ability, you will be eliminated. If you can't simplify your thinking, you can't deal with work problems with one heart and one method. And this fact is the reality that you must respect. Life is so long, less than 26 years old is like a stagnant pool, and there are still a few 26 years to explore. Are you willing to live a mechanical life day after day? Read books, write and read various official WeChat accounts every day, absorb some new knowledge, gain more cognition, improve your self-cultivation and connotation from all aspects, and make yourself no longer a vase in others' mouths. If you want to get better, you must change your beliefs and start from action, not waiting.
If life is not perfect, there will be gains and losses, but we always don't know how to keep a balance and live a relatively good life. In fact, we just don't know how to give up We should learn to "tolerate" on the basis of giving up ourselves and life itself. We should not only affirm our stability, but also give up our space, accept new ideas and concepts and achieve self-balance. Now I am ambivalent, I want a better life, and I am afraid that my life will get worse without it. After graduating from college, I bought a plane ticket to Shenzhen. My friend's brother's foreign trade company is just short of hands. I was an intern in a cultural media company in Chongqing. Because of personal reasons and expectations for the future, I chose to go to a foreign trade company, but my father firmly opposed it. He thinks I don't know what Shenzhen is like at all. I spend three days fishing and two days drying my net. I listened to my father's words and stayed in Chongqing, which I know very well, and then found myself a good step: because in fact, I was afraid to meet the challenge and worried about the past rent, and my English level and personality could not do well in foreign trade, so I chose to stay in the comfort zone. Now I still face similar problems, worrying about where to go and how to face life and work. Faced with these problems, I am eager to seek an outlet from my family and friends. I once again gave up the right to choose. I think if this goes on, I will only repeat the same mistakes and never escape from freedom again. Ask yourself what you want most. How can I give up the right to choose myself? I want to learn more, accumulate effective experience, grasp every minute, change my thinking mode, input more knowledge and output audio works.
Change is a long process and mental maturity is also a difficult journey. Self-discipline is the theme of our life. From the above four aspects, only persistent practice can make the spirit and mind reach a higher level.