At work, there are joys and sorrows everywhere. Here is how I can make us work happily, I hope it will help you!
First, how to make work happy
No more pressure on ourselves, no more pain and complaints-although our career is not always happy. Experts give some suggestions to help us look at our work rationally. These five methods can help us embark on the road of happy work. Although many people like their jobs, whenever they mention their current jobs, their faces will turn from sunny to cloudy.
Companies, colleagues, and the work they have to do every day may create contradictions for us and even make people fall into a painful relationship. If this negative emotion persists for a long time, it will corrode our mood.
Nowadays, the decompression methods and yoga exercises in management books can no longer meet people's more needs. How to get out of this state? Can you find a peaceful relationship in the office? How to put a heartfelt smile on your lips at work? The following are the solutions proposed by experts:
1, don't let work be everything.
The French sociologist said: "The idea that' work is everything' must be stopped." She emphasizes building a peaceful relationship at work, but at the same time admits that it is not easy to do this in reality, because we all believe that "there is no food without work". Henna, 27, is a brand manager of beauty products. "I also hope that life will not be equivalent to' making money' as suggested by many psychological self-help books. But at work, I am still like a rabbit that never stops. Moreover, to make matters worse, I can actually feel a vague sense of happiness from it! "
French psychologist said: This ambivalence is not surprising. The original work is the product of the close interweaving of pain and achievement. But in real life, the more diverse your self-image, the easier it is to feel happy. In this regard, psychologists at Yale University in the United States suggested: "When we encounter setbacks and blows at work, we need to recover through other means. If the sense of accomplishment only comes from work, then the dissatisfaction at work is more likely to affect the mood. Keeping a proper distance from work and establishing a peaceful relationship is precisely to feel happy at work. "
Step 2 show your good mood
Many times, the root cause of unhappy work lies in the dead working atmosphere. After investigating many enterprises, French psychologists found that many companies have simple environment, comfortable air conditioning and soft carpets, but the atmosphere is suffocating. A good working atmosphere requires everyone's efforts, such as conversation, good mood, sense of humor and snacks brought by daily communication, which can all be the beginning of happiness. The psychological counselor of Beihang University believes: "Close and stable interpersonal relationship is the most important factor of happiness. We should enrich the boring relationships in the office. Since you can find happiness with friends and family, why give up this happiness at work? "
Of course, this will not make us cute bears in the office, nor will it make us pour too much affection into our colleagues. Some experts suggest that laughter can bring psychological miracles and colleagues should have more fun together. Laughter is always the best way to turn an enemy into a friend, and it is very negative to wait for others to take the initiative to show kindness.
3. Express your needs
Choose a familiar and simple song, such as Happy Birthday to you. Tap the time on the table and let friends guess. Most people think that the probability of guessing is at least 50%, but in fact, it is only 2.5%. Usually people think that the listener's mind presents all the information of the song, while the other party hears only meaningless clicks.
The most annoying situation at work is that the boss doesn't seem to realize that we need help at all. Don't think that your boss should know what you think. The above test illustrates this truth.
"If you disagree with the boss's request, most people will choose silence to avoid conflict." Global career planners believe: "People are worried that expressing dissatisfaction will destroy the relationship with their superiors, harm their own interests, or make the conflict impossible to end. But at the same time, there are also many grievances that cannot be sent. " French psychologists stressed: "As long as it is necessary, we should express our ideas politely and frankly. Unless the boss is a perverted sadist, frank expression will not make things worse. "
Of course, we must distinguish which "unspeakable" difficulties are real and which are just our imagination. Many times, it is ourselves who set obstacles for ourselves. So before you talk to your boss, make sure that things are really beyond your ability. This is true whether you ask for extra help or make your boss understand your efforts.
Perhaps the worst case is that stress and self-control become a habit, and we all forget that we still have needs. "We should learn to pay attention to our inner feelings and listen to the voices from our bodies and hearts." The counselor pointed out: "When we have a headache, irritability, nausea, loss of appetite or overeating, it may be time to talk to our boss."
Don't put too much emotion into the company.
"Many times, employees are in an emotional logic," the psychoanalyst said. "That is to say, giving and receiving must be equal. We give and then expect our contribution to be appreciated. This idea is wrong! " He believes: "People always let the experience of family life affect their relationship with the company. For example, they always look for their parents' approval from their boss. In psychoanalysis, this is' empathy'. " Then let's try another way of "workplace empathy". Psychologists suggest: "Of course, we can't lock our emotions in the locker room at work, so we might as well face our work with mature emotions!" How? Generally speaking, mature orientation is: closed but independent.
5. Externalize the inner conflict
"Many people in the workplace think that conflict is risky and stupid." The global career planner said: "This is because there are many rules and regulations in eastern culture to persuade people to minimize offense. But in fact, we must learn to express ourselves consistently inside and outside. " If the interests of the company and the individual conflict, it is not a good idea to weigh them repeatedly in your mind and feel deeply anxious. Experts believe: "Inner conflicts are usually manifested in ulcers and depression. When we decide to resist the bondage of the body, we can recover. If we open our hearts, we can avoid conflicts. This process may be painful, but it is a healthier way. " In fact, endless inner conflicts have another harm. "Avoiding problems will lose the opportunity to solve problems and promote spiritual growth."
So "it's naive to just complain about inaction!" Action is an effective way to relieve anxiety. Constructive mitigation can be achieved in more interesting ways. It is certainly not easy to find happiness at work. Not everyone can get what they want. We certainly hope that the company will provide more psychological support for its employees. Nevertheless, psychologist Patrick Amar warned us: "Everyone should be responsible for his emotions at work."
6. Who is happier?
(1) It is generally believed that civil servants and freelancers are the happiest professional groups. But only 30% of freelancers think they are "relatively free", and the remaining 33% think they are under great mental pressure. 20% think that material pressure is great.
(2) In recent years, men are happier than women. Thirty years ago, the situation was just the opposite. The study found that men gradually reduced their work and enjoyed life more in these thirty or forty years; Women, on the other hand, have replaced some housework with professional jobs. Work seems to be one of the reasons for this change. Another explanation for this phenomenon is that women today have more things to do than before. They can't finish everything, so they feel depressed.
(3) Women who have part-time jobs are the happiest because they can take care of work and family at the same time. Although part-time jobs are usually concentrated in "low-paid" and "low-skilled" industries, part-time women are more satisfied with their jobs than full-time women.
Mothers with children will be happier if they have jobs.
7. Are you happy at work?
A recent large-scale survey on workplace happiness index shows that only 37.72% people are "generally happy"; 4 1.64% people are "unhappy more often"; 20.64% people said that they were "very painful and wanted to change jobs". The factors that most easily make us unhappy at work are: no future, low income, too much work pressure, boring work, insufficient concern for employees and contradiction with colleagues. Geographically, the happiness index of the eastern cities represented by Shanghai, Nanjing, Hangzhou and Guangzhou is far lower than that of the central and western cities represented by Chengdu, Chongqing and Xi 'an. Fortunately, although many people still live in the shadow of "unhappy work", when asked whether their future jobs will be happier, 58.72% people choose "should" and 22.64% people choose "affirmation".
Second, how do professional women avoid emotional work
1, fill your emotions first.
Often feel tired and unhappy? Are you always like the sun, trying to convey warmth to everyone, and finally thinking of yourself? This seemingly huge sacrifice is sometimes a "double-edged sword". Not only will it consume your energy, but it will also hurt people around you in the end. Please be a little selfish. Only by taking care of yourself and filling your "battery" with positive energy can your happy magnetic field spread out continuously.
Step 2 keep a diary
Enthusiasm, have you unconsciously taken away a lot of things that don't belong to you, making you very tired and depressed? I suggest you write a summary every night, "Who did you help today?" "Why help him?" "What is the content?" "Are those things happy? What's good for you? " . Diary can help you know your "energy destination" in time.
3. learn to say no.
Ask yourself two questions before you lend a helping hand. "Do I have the ability to help him?" "Does he really need this kind of help?" . Many times people ask you for help, not because they can't do it, but because they are lazy.
4. What are you afraid of?
There are countless things that make women afraid, such as fear of competition, fear of rejection, fear of imperfection, fear of exposing their true feelings ... Too much burden makes you lose your perception and action on life, and a word or action from others may make you deny yourself and think you are the smallest poor thing. Stop authorizing them to be your masters! As long as you obey your heart and are willing to take responsibility regardless of the outcome, you will become a brave and free-spirited confident woman.
5. What you say counts.
No matter how others evaluate and compare, please believe in your choice. There is no good or bad choice, only the best decision that your intelligence and experience can make at this moment.
Prepare for the worst. He didn't appreciate saying "I love you" loudly. What can he do? What if I want to put forward a new plan at the meeting, even if it is rejected? When you encounter a problem that worries you, imagine your bottom line first. If everyone can accept it, there is no reason to be timid.
6. Break down the problems one by one
Men say that a woman's temper is like "June Day", mysterious and changeable. This is because women's minds are more delicate and their methods of dealing with problems are more subtle, so that many times they can't completely solve the problem. So the rest of the anger, sadness and other emotions are accumulated, transferred to the immediate problem at the moment, and take this opportunity to release. Despair and sulking are actually just trying to convey "I am not satisfied with what I have done in the past."
7, cut the gordian knot
If you really can't figure it out, it's better to untie the knot at the beginning and ask yourself "yes or no" every time. As long as an answer is determined, tell yourself that you don't regret it. Put the question down, empty your mind, and the sun will shine naturally!
8. Practical.
Try to concentrate, only pay attention to the immediate problems, and avoid thinking or digging up old scores. Say what you want, do what you want, don't hold it in your heart, and don't give negative emotions any chance.
It can be seen that it is very important to maintain a healthy attitude in the workplace and it is also very beneficial to improve your work efficiency.
How to make employees work happily in enterprises
What is management philosophy?
The so-called management philosophy is the general name of general management and methodology, and it is the intersection with philosophy. Management philosophy has both these characteristics.
"Management philosophy" generally refers to China's universal principles, principles and philosophical views. Harvard Management Encyclopedia of Enterprise Management believes that the so-called management philosophy refers to the highest belief and harmony in dealing with people.
The so-called management philosophy refers to the basic beliefs, concepts and value preferences of high-level people. The factor that affects the quality of decision-making lies in the enterprising or conservative degree of his own management concept. From the broad abstract level, management philosophy is the driving force to stimulate entrepreneurs' beliefs, ideas and principles. On the narrow practical level, management philosophy is a typical decision-making system of entrepreneurs' choice behavior, which promotes benefit evaluation. In behavior, the basis of philosophy determines the direction of behavior. The causal relationship between management philosophy and enterprise is just like the relationship between locomotive and carriage.
In practice, people have realized the effective ways to improve enterprises: the top level should have management philosophy literacy, the middle level should learn methods, and the low level should have enterprise management technology. The accumulated management concept condenses into the decision of the top management of the enterprise, and the middle and lower management practices affect the management effect.
What makes Haidilao employees so dedicated and happy?
First, the values of Haidilao employees are "hands change fate". Most employees come from rural areas. Compared with other peers, Haidilao has a better treatment and has become the home of these low-educated people who are eager for urban life. "Against the wall, the wall will fall; Only by relying on people can people run; Dependent on parents, parents will get old; It's best to rely on yourself. Change your destiny with your own hands. We can't choose to be born, but we can choose to keep learning and change our destiny. " It has become a portrayal of the persistence of Haidilao people.
Second, the authorization of Haidilao. Trust in a person is the greatest respect for him, and the sign of trust is authorization. Haidilao has different rights from general manager to regional manager, from store manager to waiter. For example, there are legitimate reasons to send food to customers, and there are legitimate reasons to send food to customers for free. It is precisely because of this authorization that the service personnel who directly deal with customers can better grasp the needs of customers and meet their needs in time.
Thirdly, Haidilao regards employees as customers, which is its unique corporate culture. Haidilao provides employees with a heated building, and an aunt is responsible for accommodation management; Establish a boarding school to let employees' children study with peace of mind; Reward employees who have contributed to the whole family trip; Giving pensions to employees' parents represents employees' filial piety and gratitude, and so on.
The author believes that "when you are busy outside, you must settle down first", and the warmth of Didi permeates employees' lives to solve their worries and serve employees as customers. It may be a trivial matter, but it plays a key role in motivating employees.
Corporate culture must be accompanied by corresponding institutional processes. In order to ensure the customer experience, Haidilao has worked out a whole set of procedures, from the free shoeshine, manicure and internet service that customers are waiting for, to the delivery of aprons and mobile phone cases after customers sit down, to the occasional delivery of hot towels and tea by waiters during meals, and to the delivery of glasses cloth to customers wearing glasses.
These systems and processes seem rigid, but whether they are used properly depends on the flexible grasp of employees. For example, the first person in charge system, after any employee receives a guest's request, he becomes the first person in charge and must be responsible for the implementation of the guest's request, rather than telling the corresponding colleagues. Leave the ingredients at the bottom every day, so that the quality and safety of food can be tracked and checked.
Haidilao's assessment of each store manager has only two indicators, one is customer satisfaction and the other is employee enthusiasm. At the same time, all stores are required to be staffed according to the actual needs of 1 10% to provide personnel support for expansion. The system of Haidilao is not posted on the wall, but discussed and explained by the manager and everyone in the evening self-study class, so that employees can participate.
In Haidilao, employees make mistakes, and the responsibility is borne by the foreman, either criticizing or fined. Training follow-up reserve cadres is an important assessment index for middle and senior managers in Haidilao. The company even stipulates that regional leaders must go to the staff dormitory for three days every month to personally experience the comfort of employees' food, clothing, housing and transportation, so as to improve in time.
If the institutional process is the law of the enterprise, then the corporate culture is the morality of the enterprise, which can play a role in rallying people's hearts. Excellent enterprises are all because their founders have refined the corporate culture with universal values and always follow these core values. Keeping the core values unchanged in the process of continuous development is the deep reason for the success of Fortune 500 companies.
Many enterprises shout the slogan of respecting talents and putting people first, but behind it is the boss's concentrated attitude. There is only a rigid system punishment culture, but there is no reward culture, especially in many labor-intensive enterprises. The high turnover rate of employees makes the boss afraid to invest and train employees for a long time, while employees frequently change jobs and cannot concentrate on accumulating and growing in a certain field. This phenomenon is bound to create a vicious circle, increasing the social cost of enterprises and employees, which is not good for bosses and employees.
Zhang Yong, the founder of Haidilao, believes that people are the cornerstone of Haidilao business. In Haidilao's internal magazine, two impressive words are printed: "Advocate the principle of changing fate with both hands and build a fair and just company." Among the three corporate goals of Haidilao, "opening Haidilao to the whole country" ranks only in the third place, while "creating a fair and just working environment" and "the value of changing fate with both hands becomes a reality in Haidilao" rank in the top two. Respecting and trusting people is the core value of Haidilao.
Foreign fast food attaches great importance to institutionalization, standardization and routinization, which undoubtedly plays an important role in ensuring the quality of products and services, but at the same time it also inhibits the creativity of employees and the sense of pleasure and accomplishment brought about by creativity. Haidilao believes that letting employees strictly abide by rules and procedures is equivalent to hiring only his men. The catering service industry is a typical high-intensity repetitive work industry. How can we make employees full of happiness?
The answer is simple: let employees be creative in their work and emphasize interaction with customers. In Haidilao, encourage employees to interact with customers and let customers remember you. This kind of interaction begins as soon as the customer enters the door, and every employee can shine shoes for the guests. Here, wiping the table and the bottom strip becomes very performing and ornamental.
The company encourages employees to innovate and invent, whose inventions can be named. The company gives employees certain rights. Ordinary waiters have the right to order and return food freely. Employees live in regular communities, can surf the Internet for free, and have special dormitory administrators to clean them. When new employees do something wrong, colleagues will point it out and correct it in time.
Haidilao successfully created a home culture, relieved the worries of employees and enabled employees to devote themselves to their work. Haidilao built a private boarding school in Jianyang, and the children of Haidilao employees can go to school for free, only paying the book fee. In Haidilao, except for the foreign cadres in the engineering department, logistics center and finance department, the whole system advocates internal training and promotion, especially the cadres who manage stores, all of whom come from the grassroots. The expansion of the new store in Haidilao provides a career development space for employees and a platform for their long-term development in Haidilao.
Corporate culture and institutional process are two wheels of a company's sustainable development, and both are indispensable. Without institutional processes, corporate culture is too empty, only institutional processes, without corporate culture, will be too rigid, and employees' creativity will not be brought into play. With a high degree of corporate culture and institutional process guarantee, the "confusion" of Haidilao can be understood.
There are many management modes, and each enterprise will choose a management mode suitable for its own development according to its own status and characteristics. But no matter what kind of management mode, excellent managers should take "meeting the needs of others" and "treating others fairly" as the starting point, attach importance to everyone's value, emphasize setting an example and encouraging active participation, know how to really help employees, and share the joy of work with employees. Because only in this way can we win the respect of employees, make enterprises full of cohesion and combat effectiveness, and truly embody the essence of the "people-oriented" management concept.
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