After eight years of sleeping in separate rooms, marriage has come to an end! Sister Zhang told me this sentence with a sad face the other day.
Jason said: For most couples who "sleep in separate rooms", this behavior must represent a problem in their marriage. Sleeping in separate rooms seems to be a separate room, but it is actually a feeling.
Jason said, don't believe what some people say: "As long as the husband and wife have deep feelings, no matter how they sleep in separate rooms, there will be no problem with their feelings." Because of her own marriage, it ended like this.
Sister Zhang said that at the beginning, she and her husband slept in separate rooms, not because they didn't love each other, but because when she was confined, her husband said that the bed was too small to squeeze into their mother and son, so she chose to sleep in separate rooms.
At that time, Jason didn't think much, thinking that her husband's practice was not a problem. It was not until later that she realized that her husband wanted to sleep in separate rooms, not because he was afraid of squeezing their mother and son, but because he disliked her being fat and ugly after giving birth. She was afraid that getting up in the middle of the night would affect his sleep, so she chose to sleep in separate rooms.
Sister Zhang said: People who love you have no excuses, and people who don't love you have 10,000 reasons.
Sister Zhang said that he never came back from the moment he slept in separate rooms until her husband had an affair and divorced. Zhang Jie said that during the eight years of sleeping in separate rooms, although her husband never cared about her at all, she was used to being alone and no longer needed her husband. Sister Zhang said that after sleeping in separate rooms for several years, her husband is just a title for her, just a relationship required by this society, and there is no other feeling at all.
Jason said that the status quo of husband and wife at that time could be perfectly explained in one sentence, that is, "husband and wife are in the daytime and take part in accidental amusement. In front of relatives, friends and children, they will perform the feelings of loving couples and prove that they are husband and wife; Neighbors at night, not interfering with each other. They don't need to prove the relationship between husband and wife, just like the most familiar strangers, they have nothing to say. "
After the divorce, Jason often warned the women around him: "After marriage, if it is not necessary, don't sleep in separate rooms, because once the husband and wife sleep in separate rooms and get used to being alone, they no longer need each other."
Bian Xiao has something to say:
I quite agree with Jason, because in my opinion, most couples' "sleeping in separate beds" is actually an escape. The longer they go, the weaker their feelings will definitely be. Even if they don't admit it and deceive themselves, the distance between mind and body is getting farther and farther, and their feelings will eventually come to an end.
I often warn couples around me: Don't choose to sleep in separate rooms if you can, because the choice of "sleeping in separate rooms" is fatal to most couples, and only a few deeply loved couples can choose to sleep in separate rooms.
It was my words that someone once asked me, "So which couples can sleep in separate rooms after marriage?" ?
In order to better answer this question, I interviewed hundreds of couples, and they all expressed their opinions. According to the survey, couples who can choose to sleep in separate rooms usually have this * * * in common!
Couples who can choose to sleep in separate rooms usually love and trust each other.
In reality, couples who choose to sleep in separate rooms actually have only two states. One is that they love each other very much and are thinking of each other wholeheartedly. The other is that they don't love each other so much that they don't like running around.
You have to understand that a person who loves you very much is thinking of you wholeheartedly. He chose to sleep in separate rooms for you, and everything is for you. They will be afraid that their schedule or sleeping habits will affect you, so they will give you a quiet and comfortable sleeping environment. Of course, although they will choose to sleep in separate rooms, they will not care less about you, because they choose to sleep in separate rooms for your own good and for better feelings, so they will not do anything that alienates their feelings.
You have to understand that a person who doesn't love you so much chooses to sleep in separate rooms because of disgust and escape. Even if they say it's good for you, in fact, they don't love you that much, because they are always alienating you and affecting your feelings with various actions.
Whether a person loves you or not is obvious from his performance, because if a person loves you, even if he chooses to sleep in separate rooms, your's feelings will remain the same, while if a person who doesn't love you so much, even if he doesn't choose to sleep in separate rooms, your's feelings will not be good.
A person who really loves you, even if he is sensitive and has a bad rest, he will not run away. Even if he hates you again, he will get up in the middle of the night to tuck you in instead of sleeping in separate rooms with you.
In my opinion, sleeping in separate rooms is actually a double-edged sword. For most couples, this is fatal and will destroy their feelings, but for a few couples, it can also be a catalyst to make their feelings better and better.
For most couples, I hope you can understand:
If your husband and wife don't have such deep love and trust in each other, then no matter what happens, you can't choose to sleep in separate rooms, because sleeping in separate rooms seems to be a bed, but it is actually a feeling. Once you get used to sleeping in separate rooms, there will be problems in your's marriage sooner or later.