I always take care of my children when I take maternity leave, and I don't delay anything. After getting up every morning, I clean the house first, then eat, then finish painting, and then start to take care of the children. Give her a bath, wash clothes, play with her, go out for a walk, and sometimes cook. I really didn't delay anything and didn't think much. Instead, I think it's better to take care of the children. I can even cut my children's hair myself.
No contrast, no harm. Colleagues talked about her niece. A few months younger than my child, my colleagues have been to her house three times. Every time, she makes the bed first. When she saw her quilt, the child's quilt was twisted together and the room was in a mess.
Colleagues said she had no problem making the bed. She said she was tired. She was tired of feeding the children. Anyway, the whole person is sloppy.
Colleagues told me that I am also taking care of the children alone, and I am fine.
If you are tired, it is definitely not as free to take care of your children as to play alone, but we can still be beautiful with our children, and there will always be a squeeze.
In fact, modern mothers have the help of all kinds of modern equipment, so tiredness is a relative term. Washing clothes can use a washing machine, babies can use diapers, and milk powder is canned. Many novice mothers feel tired because they are tired and have no plans to control their lives.
Tired of not being understood by others. Many men don't understand the feeling of novice mommy. They always think that they have been tired outside all day, and their wives are just cooking with their children. How tired can they be? They won't even say a sweet word to their wives.
Everyone has this experience. When others recognize and encourage you, your spirit and efficiency will multiply, and the more you do, the more interested you will be. If others always accuse you of finding fault, even the best things will be over.
I remember there was a news that a husband went home to call his wife. Isn't it just taking care of a child? Still not working? Without saying anything, the wife turned and jumped off the building.
Isn't it just taking care of a child? You try it!
Will not control the fatigue of reasonable planning time, especially in the era of smart phones. Often, after children go to bed, they want to brush their mobile phones to see what news, gossip and preferential information are available, which can be brushed out in 2 hours. My own experience, too, is that brushing your mobile phone is definitely a weapon to waste time.
In fact, when the child is sleeping, the mother can plan what she needs to do in a day, list the urgent and necessary things first, and then do it well. Other unnecessary things are second, and natural time will increase.
Many people become parenting experts by becoming mothers, publishing self-media books and writing, just like the mother who wrote Harry Potter. It is also because she is particularly poor after becoming a single mother. She goes to the cafe to order a cup of coffee every day, writes there all day and finally writes a masterpiece.
So, moms, you can. Even if the whole world abandons you, you should learn to love yourself and be a self-reliant mommy who ignores my love today and will make you unattainable tomorrow.
That's a good question We have seen mothers who are mothers-in-law and mothers who are mothers or little girls. Why are they so different?
Mother and child are two different individuals. The mother's character is inherited by her parents, and the child's character is inherited by herself and her husband.
If the mother is a slow-witted person, but she marries an impatient person and works slowly, then the child born will inherit her father's impatience. When she is hungry, she will cry in the dark, and there is no light in the sun and the moon, while her mother is still washing her hands slowly and getting ready. That would be a real disaster.
Before the child is three years old, the person he is most attached to is usually his mother. Eat, drink and sleep should be borne by his mother. His mother just needs to put aside her own needs and meet the needs of her children first. A piece of meat that fell from her can be sacrificed to her mother to fulfill this little guy.
Babies generally have three temperament types: angel babies (eat well, sleep well, live regularly), slow-witted babies (eat slowly), and high-spirited ghost babies (cry easily).
One of them is a demanding baby, who will cry if she is not satisfied at all. Noisy children can't drink milk well during the day and sleep well at night. The child was born to torture his mother. It would be better if I met an equally energetic mother. If you meet a mother who doesn't sleep for ten hours a day and still thinks she hasn't slept enough, it will be miserable.
Think about it, the best hope of a day is that the children can sleep, so I will sleep with them. I have pajamas at home every day, so I don't have to wash my face or comb my hair. Anyway, I want to sleep at any time.
Of course, it is also the baby who loves his mother from birth. He eats and sleeps regularly, making his mother look red and ruddy when she takes care of the baby.
Therefore, whether a mother is tired or careless with her baby depends on what kind of person she is and what kind of baby she gave birth to. If it doesn't match, it's really tired. If there is harmony, it is that both the baby and the mother are well raised and there are many people.
It was definitely not Ma Bao who asked this question, nor was it a man, nor was it a person who had never given birth to a child! Is there a nanny who is not tired? Although I don't often shout tired, I am really tired! It is normal for the baby to wake up several times at night, eat milk, eat complementary food during the day, play with the baby and wash clothes. And it is normal to become sloppy. It must be more relaxing and comfortable to hold the baby at home. I often just wash my face and brush my teeth, without makeup or combing my hair. I'm too lazy to dress up when I go out. A untidy mother may not need to take care of the baby.
I am the mother of the child. She is always tired of crying and becomes very untidy. This is no joke. My father-in-law has eight sisters. When we get together on holidays, we discuss how lazy I am, how messy my home is, and I don't dress myself up, so I'm sloppy alone.
I cried at that time. I feel that everyone is drunk and I wake up alone. I am right, but they don't understand me. I work hard and nobody understands me.
My idea at that time was very simple, companionship was the most important, and it really didn't matter if I couldn't get anything at home. So, as long as she wakes up, I will stay with her.
When I was confined, my mother-in-law helped me cook and wash clothes for my children, and I didn't feel anything. After that, my mother-in-law went back to her hometown. I was alone and had to take care of my husband's life. Anyway, as long as the child is awake, I will let her lie down, show her the book and tell her vividly. Or sing her nursery rhymes, five at a time. Talk to her and play with her toys. When she is older, doodle with her and explore everywhere.
Just don't take it home. I don't want to carry my child all day. I think it binds her, so I can only accompany her by myself.
To a certain extent, I think I did the right thing. My daughter can crawl for seven and a half months, then explore everywhere, rummage through drawers, climb the dining table, and all kinds of things. She left at the age of one year and ten days, but she didn't help her at first. She walked alone, there was no transition period, and she was stable and balanced at first. I called my parents unconsciously for four months and recorded a video. I can speak all two-word words when I am one year and one month old. See for yourself. Calling a person is never what you want her to call, but what she wants to call is appropriate. Even if she can't express the whole sentence, she will try to show it to you. I can eat by myself at the age of one year and four months, and I love reading very much. I always bring it to you myself.
You see, although it will bring a lot of trouble for her to explore on her own. The house is a mess and the clothes are dirty. But I think it gives her the ability to try everything herself and have her own opinion.
There are gains and losses.
It doesn't have to be tiring to take care of children. It depends on how you take care of them.
Seeing this problem, I came in without hesitation. The child is over three years old, and I have been there before.
I asked for a new moon when I gave birth to a child. So the whole month, the baby is helping the new moon, and I mainly have a good rest. I was going to continue to ask for a new moon when the moon is full, but I think the child will have to bring it by himself sooner or later, so I'd better adapt as soon as possible. Then after the full moon, I began to take care of my children.
That month was really difficult. I was in a hurry to change the baby's diaper, especially because she didn't want to sleep alone in the bed, and you need to sleep all the time. I was really tired that month. I didn't have time to dress myself and wash my face every day. I remember I didn't wash my face for three days. On the fourth day, my face was really uncomfortable, so I took time to wash my face. Old people at home can't take care of their children, so they can only grope for them slowly.
Later, it was with the baby that he took care of himself. Then he learned to arrange time and didn't feel tired when he was with the baby.
So some mothers always feel that they should take care of their children. I analyzed it:
1, some babies are really active and need a lot of attention from adults, so they will feel tired. But this kind of baby can also be solved with some toys, or when the child is older, it can make him move more, consume physical strength and let him sleep faster.
Mom must learn to arrange her time reasonably. For example, you can arrange to get up half an hour earlier than your baby and tidy up your makeup. Then arrange a plan for the day in advance, where to take the baby to play, what to eat, what books to read, what time to go to bed and so on. Generally, you won't feel tired as long as you arrange your time reasonably.
Every child is different, and mothers should arrange meaningful activities according to their children's habits, so that mothers will not feel tired and will not become sloppy.
The above is just my personal opinion, please forgive me if there is anything wrong.
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I think if it's physical fatigue, it may be unreasonable use of time, but if mothers feel physically and mentally exhausted, we should consider whether the family is taking too little responsibility. Since the baby was born, mothers haven't slept all night and eaten a hot meal, but the housework is more than twice as much as before. Can you not be tired? But when it comes to untidiness, everyone's understanding may be different. I can make the children tidy up the housework neatly, but I really don't have more time to do it myself. After the second month, I have been taking care of the children alone. I think I have summed up a set of relatively reasonable methods to take care of the children.
Needless to say, the anxiety of novice mothers and the anxiety of new mothers can be imagined. Children will be at a loss if they have a little situation, and they will consult with major search engines or their mothers. How long does it take to do these things? That must be when the baby is asleep. Shopping in Taobao with a mobile phone, the baby wakes up before seeing the results, and certainly has no time to rest and do other housework. Believe me, it's really a waste of time to brush your mobile phone.
Use all kinds of tools reasonably to take care of children. When the baby can't sit up, my crib will be pushed around. At that time, I was the only one at home to take care of the baby during the day. During the day, I move my crib to the living room. Whether I do housework or cook, I put it where I can see it. Later, when the baby can sit, he is not satisfied with holding it in the crib. As long as he wakes up, he wants to be held by adults. I will tie him to myself with a waist stool and then do some housework as much as I can. For example, clear the table, collect clothes and finish washing.
It will be easier to manage time well. When my baby was young, he went to bed late at night, about 10: 30, so he got up late. You can't get up too early because you feed in the middle of the night. So I usually get up around 7:30. Then wash yourself to make breakfast, then take a shower to prepare your own lunch ingredients, wash rice in an electric cooker and stew soup in an electric pressure cooker. My baby wakes up around 9: 30. Then eat milk, get dressed, wipe your face and do some touching. Then, if he is in a good mood, I will put him on the cot and tease him while cleaning the floor. Play with him after cleaning the floor. At noon 1 1 feed him, and the baby usually sleeps for an hour. He fell asleep, and I cooked. Because all the materials are prepared in the morning, cooking and eating for one hour is enough. Even if he wakes up after eating, he is usually in a good mood when he first wakes up, and I can continue to eat. Then it's game time. He usually goes to sleep again before 3 pm, and this time he will sleep longer. I will do some housework for my children or prepare dinner materials or wash some clothes first, then lie down and sleep with my children for a while, and watch TV if I don't want to sleep. When my father comes back in the evening, he will bathe the children with me, and sometimes he will help wash the clothes for the children.
People who don't take care of their children themselves will never know how tired their mothers are. After reading the experiences of two friends and combining my own situation, I really feel that people who are not tired with children are just like standing and talking.
Tired with children, the first thing is physical fatigue.
Friend A said that she didn't know she was a superwoman until she gave birth to a child. In the first two months after giving birth to the baby, she was weak and had night sweats. Babies must be fed every two hours, during which time diapers must be changed and milked ... Although family members help, it is only during the day. At night, everything depends on herself. Can you not be tired? During that time, catching up on sleep was the most important thing. How can I arrange myself?
Tired with children, followed by psychological fatigue.
Friend B said that she was almost depressed after giving birth. She has a strong mother-in-law and a husband like a shopkeeper. As soon as the child cried, the mother-in-law said that she had not fed the child. When the child is noisy, his father says, hurry up. She was angry: "Can't you coax me?" He plausibly said: "Children only listen to you, as long as you coax!" " "So, I think the child is her own, and the process of bringing the baby feels very isolated and particularly helpless.
My children, from birth to now, are basically brought by myself. If it weren't for my mother-in-law's help, it is estimated that the family would have been in a mess and there was no time to clean up. So, please be kind to those mothers who have become sloppy because of having children. Everyone has a love of beauty, but they just don't have the time and mind to sort themselves out.
After having children, some mothers simply don't trust their children to do things by themselves, help them no matter what they do, or stare at their children and forbid them to do anything. When a woman spends all her time on her children and worries about all kinds of things, of course she will be very tired, and then when she has no time to take care of her image, she will naturally become sloppy.
My neighbor has a three-year-old girl. She takes care of the children every day, and the whole person is particularly anxious now. After careful observation, I found the following reasons:
0 1: Her children are particularly fond of crying. If they want to eat, they will cry. Where do you want to go? Don't let me go. Cry. Children get upset when they cry, and then have a splitting headache.
02: Her children never play by themselves. No matter what you play, you should have your mother with you. Your mother can't leave her sight for a moment. Even if she is cooking, the child will move a small bench and sit in the kitchen with her.
03: She likes watching TV very much. If her mother doesn't want to play with her, she will turn on the TV. Even when eating, there should be a mat in front of you. So this child is extremely dependent on her mother and her cartoons.
In this way, her mother will be very tired I'm restless and can't face the children calmly. Meeting a little thing may make her anxious to get angry.
If the full-time nanny is really tired, she needs the help of her family at this time. You can tell them frankly that I need help with the children and give me a rest. At this time, you can read a book for a while, go out for a walk and have afternoon tea, which will make you physically and mentally happy and particularly relaxed.
After all, women should be kind to themselves. Only when you are satisfied from the heart and full of happiness can you pass these on to your family and children.
It must be tiring to take care of the children. Especially preschool children. It would be better if someone helped. But there are also people who take care of the baby alone. There may be more reasons. Thinking of a person with a baby, that feeling is only known by Ma Ma. The child didn't wake up, so hurry to clean up the house and cook. Often in the middle, the child wakes up and can only put down his work. Hold the baby. There is no time to clean the house. The child is a little older. He also has strong hands-on ability. After playing for a while, he put down everything and picked up another one. Mothers also pack at their feet and rank on the list after their children. Although I cleaned up, I lost my heart in the face of such a situation every day. I clean it once a day. I wish I could wait until the child is older. Not sloppy and lazy, but really don't have that much time. Maybe someone will say. Teach your child to put the toys back by himself, and don't throw things about, or you can clean them up after he finishes playing. How could it be a mess? Ha ha. No matter how fast it is loaded, it is not as fast as it is lined up.