"You all go to hell!" Liu Hua (pseudonym) forcibly took his son to see a psychiatrist. After being diagnosed with depression, her son refused to receive treatment. After returning home, she received a WeChat from her son across the door, and then blacked her and her husband out. Locked himself in his room, there was no sound at all, except that I received a text message reminding me that he was still alive when I ordered takeout every day. ...
My son has been smart and sensible since he was a child, and he has no shortage of food and clothing. He arranged everything for his children. He thinks he is the best mother in the world, but living in the same room with his son seems to be thousands of miles away. Liu Hua was completely desperate.
The survival and destruction of children are in the hands of parents. Liu Hua thought about giving up, but his heart was always unwilling. Why is my son depressed? How to save my son? This is also very puzzling for the parents of many depressed children.
In my in-depth consultation with Liu Hua, I found some problems. The son was brought up by his parents-in-law, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was very poor. Even if they finally made up, Liu Hua never avoided blaming her husband in front of the children, hoping that the children would know what his father was like, which gave them a great sense of insecurity.
They are relatively rich and can give their children all material satisfaction, but they seldom spend time with their sons. However, Liu Hua has his own "mind's eye" on children's learning problems. When children get good grades, they are never encouraged to praise them for fear that they will be proud. If the child's grades are not good, he will criticize and blame.
Over time, the child's self-confidence is exhausted, and the child's energy is always tired of coping with the mother's emotions. How can he have the mind to study with peace of mind? This vicious circle makes the son see no hope and eventually leads to depression.
According to the statistics of relevant departments, there are currently 30 million children facing depression in China, including many patients with "depression".
In a large number of cases we have received, the family environment and the way parents treat their children are one of the main reasons for their depression. It's too difficult to break through parents. Children say they can't communicate with their parents, but parents say they don't listen to how they communicate with their children. Tired children give up communication, but their parents label them "depressed".
Parents are like a flowerpot, and children are saplings in the flowerpot.
The saplings grow up day by day, and their nutritional needs increase. Roots tried to break through the limitations of flowerpots and absorb nutrients from the earth, but parents said their children were rebellious!
Parents' bondage to their children has seriously affected their growth, and the saplings began to wither, but parents thought that there was something wrong with the saplings, and all kinds of fertilization, watering, loosening soil and spraying drugs did not know that fertile land was the basis for the saplings to thrive!
This is why many people suffering from depression are prone to relapse through drug treatment, and the root cause of depression has not yet been found. When they returned to the environment that caused his depression again, depression came back.
In my case, the vast majority of children refused to see a psychologist or receive medication. Under the bad parent-child relationship, children extremely refused their parents to do so.
All psychotherapy will eventually return to parents to save themselves!
Correcting the relationship with children, drawing a clear line with children, giving children the lowest psychological nutrition according to the growth law, establishing a deep parent-child bond, and then influencing children and leading them out of the predicament are the panacea for truly curing children's "depression".