90 days of training has gained a lot.
By writing about my personal growth experience, I calmed down for the first time in many years to take good care of myself. I wrote six articles-my father, my mother, my grandmother, my teacher, my high school teacher and my high school. By reviewing these, I picked up the pearls forgotten in the years. They are radiant, illuminating my life and making me feel particularly warm. This also gives me a new understanding and understanding of my parents and teachers. Especially for parents, the barrier of loving without kissing seems to melt at once, and it is replaced by a deep gratitude and closeness. This is only part of it.
More importantly, looking back on the road you have traveled seems to be reunited with your long-lost young self. That kind of feeling, especially cordial, is also particularly moving. Are you still a teenager after running for half your life? Yes or no, by writing personal growth experiences, the young self, the self in the faded years, and the present self are separated and gradually overlapped. Subject, object and mirror are constantly separating, interacting and merging. This is a very wonderful feeling, a brand-new feeling, which makes me feel happy to grow up again. Just like summer corn jointing, it is full of vitality, green and tender, swaying freely in the slightly smoky south wind. And the dry heart, as if filled with a lively spring, cheerful and light. This is my endless hiding, boundless romance, only in my heart, turning to the sun, warm germination. Sure enough, in a moment, the world widened. This is a form of self-awareness exploration.
But this growth experience is not completely completed, and it is mainly written about the periphery. If you want to analyze yourself deeply, you need to follow Sandberg's outline (level 3 textbook, 20 1 1 version,1page). At present, I still lack the courage to face it directly, and I will make up for it later.
The torment of keeping a diary can be said to be painful and happy. Memory is not so reliable, forgetting will happen at any time. It is precious to write down the little things that touch your heart during the day and watch them later. Moreover, in the process of keeping a diary, it is a kind of clarification and precipitation of one's own heart. After writing for a long time, the writing ability will become better, the consciousness of positive expression will become stronger and stronger, the observation and perception of life will become more and more acute, and the thinking will become more and more detailed and clear. Keeping a diary is a good way to cultivate sentiment.
Moreover, there will be unexpected surprises in the process of writing a diary. Obviously, when I wrote, I wanted to express such an intention. Writing and writing, I unconsciously wrote in another way, and the result was still satisfactory. This made me realize that words are alive, and the process of keeping a diary is also a process of self-adjustment and self-correction. Sometimes, I really can't think of anything to write about. If I had only one or two sentences, I would write them down first. In this way, the next few words will naturally follow. Therefore, action is more important than thinking.
The difficulty of writing a research diary lies in combining daily life with psychological knowledge. This point is not easy to find. For me, the theoretical knowledge is still not solid enough. I don't know what psychological phenomena there are and how to connect them. The teacher said that the foundation was not firm and the ground shook. That's true. Although teachers often say that knowledge is not important, consciousness is important. My understanding is that it is after the basic knowledge has been mastered to a certain extent. At present, I'd better look at the basics honestly. Otherwise, going forward may be unsustainable.
Also, psychological views that can be illustrated by examples will be remembered firmly. This is because I really understand that I have internalized my memory into my own things. Of course, being able to complete the 90-day diary is also very fulfilling, and the index of self-confidence and self-esteem has risen rapidly.
Training also made me see my own shortcomings well. First, where does it stop? What the hell do I want? At present, I am mainly doing meticulous painting, guqin and psychology. If I could concentrate on one thing, which one would I choose? My friend said that I want to learn everything, even if I can't learn anything well, just like hitting a stick on the water. Yes, if you want to do any of them well, you don't need to be distracted, and I am distracted, so I can't give up these three. What the hell do I want? How to arrange your time? Moreover, in psychology, I need to lay a solid foundation, or I should calm down and read more books.
By doing a case, I found that I have obvious points to pay attention to in psychological counseling, that is, controlling the direction of conversation. Although I knew I couldn't listen to the helper's story, I still couldn't bear to interrupt him, and time passed. Moreover, when giving advice to the helper, I am not firm in my heart, and I will have doubts: Is this useful to him? I think, to do psychological counseling, I need to pay special attention to the following points: I am not the savior, it is normal not to help him; The psychological counselor only helps the helper to solve the problem, and whether the problem can be solved depends on the helper; Distinguish between psychological problems and practical problems; Neutral attitude, no judgment; Clarify the consulting objectives and focus on them; Respect the feelings of the helper and follow his feelings; Control the direction of the talks; Arrange the recording in time and make a good record of the consultation. Most importantly, if you want to learn to swim, you must jump into the swimming pool.
Students have benefited a lot from their hard work. The students who participated in the training were excellent, and their diaries were also very stylish, which opened my eyes. Different interpretations of the same psychological phenomenon have greatly inspired me. The so-called complement each other and sharpen each other, that's all. Teacher Fang Ge, the leader of the team, commented accurately and kindly, which was very enlightening. I can persist in these 90 days, thanks to Mr. Fang Ge. Teachers in the same group communicate sincerely, and I am proud and confident to have them with me. Teachers Ying Zan, Xin Li, Sheng Jing and Zhou Xiaojun are brave and diligent. They not only take part in training, but also volunteer in courses, give lectures in public welfare classes and salons, and support so many people with practical actions. I especially admire them. The tenderness revealed in Teacher Zhu's words also left a deep impression on me. In addition, I like Mr. Quan Yulan's articles, Mr. Hui's delicate atmosphere, Mr. Sun Qingxian's rationality and meticulousness, Mr. Ding Jinbo's lightness, and Mr. Li's massiness and warmth. There is also a film written by the teacher of Xinmeile Co., Ltd., which shows me another perspective. There are several other students, all with their own characteristics. Walking with such classmates is like walking through a bamboo forest, which is refreshing. Although I haven't seen any of these students, it doesn't prevent me from being fascinated. All the students are excellent, so do I.
Actions will change. I have always wanted to get rid of the habit of brushing my mobile phone whenever I have time, but I have never been able to get rid of it. During this time, I haven't figured out how to get rid of it I can brush if I want, but I have to finish reading and writing. Slowly, it has greatly reduced the time to brush the screen. Sometimes I don't remember to brush it after a whole day. The more you pay attention to something, the more you will strengthen it. It's true. When there is grass in the garden, you can not pull it out, just all kinds of flowers. I want to change my procrastination, so I wrote a sentence to myself every day, "I am a self-disciplined person, and I can arrange my time and things reasonably", and I persisted for 33 days. During this period, of course, there are times when my blood is boiling and I believe, and there are times when I doubt whether it is useful, but no matter what I think, I insist on writing to myself, and the writing time is basically fixed at around 8: 30 in the morning. After 33 days, the delay was greatly reduced. I used to have some ideas sometimes, but I was ashamed to practice. After thinking about it, I lost it. If the superego is too strong, you will always worry about this and that, and you will always be afraid that you are not doing well and being laughed at by others. Now, I began to think and do. No, I just put a picture box for myself in the studio this morning. Act on impulse. Only by taking action can we stop ourselves from shrinking and bring real changes to ourselves.
From the beginning of learning from Mr. Li, I first picked up the paintings put down by primary school, and now my meticulous painting can participate in the school exhibition; Six months ago, I began to learn the guqin that I always liked. Now, I can also play yellow and pink. If you have a dream, you must pursue it; If you have love, you must express it. Action is more important than anything else. For many years, I have a lover to accompany me and do what I like. How can I have time to entangle those trivial things? Why should I confine myself to love and hate? It should be noted that life is just death, and the rest of your life is really expensive.
Now, the perfect burden has been initially put down, and the skin has become thicker. This is reflected in many aspects. If the diary is broken, there will be previous bitterness, guilt and self-blame; Now I am very open-minded. If I break it, I will break it. If you have a chance to make up, you won't have a chance to make up. That's good. If you can't do what you promised others, you will have previous guilt and embarrassment; Now, if I can't do it, I can't. Times have changed and the situation has changed. I did my best. If I can't do it, it's not difficult for me. Confucius said a long time ago: "You must keep your promise, and your actions will have results, but you are a despicable person. It means that no matter how the conditions change, whether it is black or white, you should keep your word and be a shallow person. This old gentleman is really something. If you can't finish something before, you will feel uneasy and have to finish it. For example, mopping the floor, you have to finish it when you start, even if the working time is coming; Now, when the time comes, put it down immediately, because there are more important and urgent things. I am more flexible than before. In other words, the ability of self-regulation is stronger, and there will be less conflict between superego and id. This is self-growth, and I am very happy.
These changes were brought to me by Miss Li, so I am very grateful to Miss Li. He showed me the way to look up at the starry sky and be down-to-earth, and he was the leader of my psychological study. After studying with Mr. Li, I began with psychological practice class, thinking training camp and primary training. I feel that my thoughts and actions can finally be in tune, and I have more and more courage and strength to see what I want and have confidence to realize them one by one.
Although the training is over, I feel that my new life has just begun.