Recently, my friend Han Xiao kept complaining among his friends: the eldest son at home doesn't have a good online class, and neither does the second son, but he always watches TV, which makes him very anxious.
She doesn't want to go to work and wants to go back to her family. The advantage is that in this way, you can take care of the boss's online class and have time to read picture books and play games with your second child. But also can take care of the daily life of the family and save the money of the nanny.
However, if you go back to your family. It seems uncertain that she is worried that more company will improve her children's grades. On the other hand, the burden of raising the family, children and wife falls on the husband alone. At that time, it is also an uncertain factor whether family conflicts will arise because of economic problems.
Speaking of Han provided, her mother-in-law took care of her for several years when she was the oldest. Later, I gave birth to a second child, and my mother came to help me with it for two years. Now because my mother-in-law is old and sick, she has to be taken care of by her father-in-law in her hometown. As for my mother, I can't come again, because my brother's child was born and I have to take care of my grandson. In fact, Han Xiao is still very grateful to her in-laws and mother. After all, my two children were born thanks to their help! Otherwise, she and her husband really can't handle it.
Without the help of both elderly people to take care of the children, in desperation, he discussed with her husband and decided to hire a nanny. Because Han Xiao has been working hard in the workplace since graduation, his salary is not low, and he is used to busy work.
Even if they see many bad nannies on the Internet, they believe there are still good nannies.
Finally, they found a good nanny, and Han Xiao went to work with peace of mind.
However, when her son reached the fourth grade, she found that he didn't like reading and studying at all, but taught himself online games.
On several occasions, the teacher gently reminded her to pay more attention to her children's study.
Especially in the online class during this time, both Xiao Han and her husband went to work, and it is estimated that their son did not attend classes seriously at home.
The teacher also told her that in the online class, she asked her son to answer several questions, but there was no response. She also said that many students just hang WeChat in online classes and then play games.
Han Xiao also severely criticized his son, saying that he shouldn't play games in online classes. However, my son promised to stop playing games and attend classes seriously. But by the time of the next online class, no one was in charge anyway, so I couldn't help myself, played games unconsciously, and forgot my promise to my mother long ago.
Sometimes when I go to work, Xiao Han thinks: My son can't control himself and loves to play games, which leads to poor grades. If he returns to his family and controls his son not to play games, will his son's grades improve?
Among the students, the discussion about whether Xiao Han should return to his family is also divided into two factions.
Those who support Han Xiao's return to his family believe that educating children is the most important "career" in life.
They analyzed that Xiao Han's son is now in the senior grade of primary school, and this stage is the high incidence of children's weariness of learning.
If Han Xiao returns to his family, he will have more time to spend on his children, including life and study. At least, at home, she can keep her son from playing games. Sometimes, she can teach her son problems that he can't do. In the long run, my son will gradually quit online games and develop a good habit of loving learning. Once you have good study habits, it is just around the corner for your son to get better grades.
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Hehe, that sounds reasonable.
Those who oppose Han Xiao's return to the family believe that there should be no contradiction between children's education and whether their parents work or not.
Many children with good academic performance have their parents working. The crux of the problem is how to balance children's study and work time.
The survey shows that if parents are willing to take time out of work and communicate with their children more, in daily life, let their children see their parents who love to study and work hard. As the saying goes, "example by example", children will also be subtly influenced and form a good habit of studying hard.
Therefore, Han Xiao and her husband should cultivate their sons' good habits on weekdays, take their children to bookstores or libraries, and let them read more.
Or, let children develop an interest outside of study. There is a saying that interest is the best teacher.
Or, Han provided money to ask teachers and fathers to make up lessons, so that children can catch up with poor subjects, and their learning strength has also come up.
Professional things are still left to professional people to do, so as not to be as angry as those mothers who tutor their children at home on the Internet.
In addition, you can't return goods for the sake of returning them. Otherwise, it is not voluntary return, but forced helplessness, and it is difficult to achieve psychological balance. On the contrary, it is not conducive to children's learning, and even to children's families.
They also analyzed that Han Xiao had been working since graduation, accumulated experience, had a lot of money, and he was used to busy work. If she returns to her family, the most direct impact is that she has no income and becomes a full-time mother. Now, how many people can see and recognize the efforts of stay-at-home mothers? It's either a stay-at-home mom or a free nanny. Doing a job that is more tiring than a nanny, and I still have no money. Alas, it's tragic.
They also moved out: in the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun, a full-time wife with a good life, and Chen, who vowed that "I will support you all my life", finally ended in divorce.
Therefore, women don't have to be strong women, but they must have a job of their own.
Women's earning money is not necessarily a responsibility, but it is definitely dignity.
Only when the economy is independent can we have more confidence to do other things.
For the sake of children's study, whether to return to the family or not, supporters and opponents hold their own words and argue endlessly, and no one can convince anyone. Which faction do you support? Welcome to leave a message