After her daughter got married, Sister Tian witnessed all kinds of unhappiness suffered by her daughter in her husband's family. Although she is generally passable, there are not many happy days. My daughter chatted with Tian Jie for several days and mentioned that she wanted a divorce, but she didn't have the capital to divorce. She said that after divorce, she could only sleep on the street, let alone take the children away.
Although everyone's marriage is not smooth sailing, there are disputes, sacrifices and compromises, but Tian Jie hopes that her daughter will have less pressure. She remembered that her life in marriage was not easy, and the reason why she didn't get divorced was because she didn't even have a place to go. She thought that her life would be like this, her daughter was still young and the future was still very long, so she moved her mind to buy a house for her daughter.
With the occurrence of a series of major events such as her son's blind date and engagement, Tian Jie felt that she could not wait any longer. Because she has long discovered from the family chores of her neighbors that as long as they are all children, once the daughter-in-law enters the door, parents want to subsidize the married daughter, and the daughter-in-law is always unhappy, which affects family harmony.
Therefore, to buy a house for your daughter, you must be in front of your daughter-in-law.
When Tian Jie and her daughter put forward this idea, they were strongly opposed by her daughter. Her daughter said, "Mom, that's your pension money. I can't move it. You've saved it all your life and never enjoyed it. How can I stand it? " My own unhappy marriage is my own fault, not yours. I want to buy a house and earn it myself! "
Tian Jie is distressed that her daughter is sensible. She has been sensible since she was a child, and she is considerate of adults everywhere. She said, "Your child didn't go to kindergarten until you started working again. Wages in small counties and cities are low. Where can I save money? When children are young, few women don't delay making money. Now is the time when you need help.
I'm only in my early fifties, and I'm still far from providing for the aged. In addition, providing for the aged in rural areas doesn't cost much, so don't worry. "
At the end of the argument, the daughter resolutely refused to accept this gift. Sister Tian had to say, "Then I'll lend it to you. When your child is older, pay it back to me when you earn money. "
Houses in small cities and counties on the 18th line are not expensive. Tian Jie gave her daughter a set of two rooms and two halls in full. The moment I gave her the key, my daughter hugged her and cried. She kept saying, "Thank you, Mom! Thank you, Mom! "
Afterwards, my daughter asked anxiously, "Mom, what should my brother-in-law do if he quarrels with you in the future?" After all, I am married, and you have given me a dowry. "
Sister Tian said, "I'll give you a dowry, and you won't care?" ? I'm sorry that, despite your delay, you should still sell the house before you get married, so you don't have to swallow it at your husband's house for several years! Besides, it's because my wife hasn't come in yet. When she does, I will love her, respect her and put them first. But before that, how to use my money is up to me. If she makes trouble, it means she is unreasonable, and I won't give in to such people. "
For this matter, Tian Jie's husband and son have a slight complaint, but Tian Jie is emotional and reasonable. Finally, this matter was blessed by everyone.
After having a house, Tian Jie's daughter works harder, full of energy every day and full of happiness. She is very grateful that her mother's love has given her endless strength and confidence in divorce.
And since she got a house, her husband's attitude towards her has changed a lot. I bullied her more or less before, ate her, and knew that she had been wronged and had no place to run. It's different now. I'm afraid she'll leave if she's unhappy, so it's difficult to remarry.
Tian Jie's daughter said that she should work hard to make money for the rest of her life, first for herself, and second, she should have enough strength to give her mother a happy and stable old age. If she can't, she will never be alone! Tian Jie always advises her daughter not to work too hard. Health is the most important thing.
Happiness is probably like this. Some people love you, others are willing to carry the burden for you, and you sincerely feed back this love. You work together, nourish each other, accompany each other, encourage each other and envy others!
I have met many parents who prefer sons to daughters, and I have seen many cases in which my married daughter was abandoned by her family and left alone in her husband's family. I was deeply moved by Sister Tian. If there were more parents like Tian Jie in this world, the situation of China's daughter would be much better.
We use Tian Jie's story to make three appeals:
First, please give your married daughters more care and support. Daughters who can't get support from their parents are orphans, which is very pitiful.
My daughter has to face a completely strange family because they are married and live in her husband's family. Many women are forced to change their lifestyles and even their personalities in order to integrate into their in-laws and make themselves better, but they still have a bad life. Many times, in the face of injury, betrayal, bullying, all kinds of hardships, we can only gnash our teeth and submit to humiliation, which is cruel.
Everyone's life is precious, and everyone has the right to yearn for a happy and prosperous life. Don't deduct her and exploit her just because she is a daughter. Some parents even let her make money to buy a house and marry her son. This kind of garbage parents who treat their daughters as slaves will be condemned by God.
Second, really love your daughter, just before she gets married, buy her a prenuptial house.
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Of course, many readers of traditional ideas will show disdain: how can I buy a house for my daughter? Buying a house is the responsibility of the husband's family. If I buy it for her, how can I afford a house for my son? How can a son get a wife?
In fact, many parents have this idea. I can only say that, in the face of weak parents who prefer boys to girls, as a daughter, please recognize the facts as soon as possible. You cannot depend on your parents. I can only rely on myself and find a way to buy myself a house. At the same time, cherish your hard-earned money and prevent parents from sucking the blood of their younger brothers.
Third, all parents who urge their daughters to get married quickly should ask themselves before urging them to get married: If my daughter is unhappy in the future, do I have the strength to support her divorce and get her out of the misery?
Because of incompetence, many parents can only use traditional morality to suppress their daughters and persuade them to be patient when their in-laws encounter misfortune, and even apologize to their son-in-law when they are wrong. Such pedantic parents will only harm their daughters. In fact, such parents are not worthy of their daughters.
Marriage is cruel, and the protection of women in marriage law is very low. Parents who blindly urge marriage without knowing this are playing with fire and trying to catch up with the marriage law. In a word, the parents who gave birth to daughters, you have raised your own daughter for 20 or 30 years, you don't cherish it yourself, and your husband who hasn't raised it for a day won't love him.