The outbreak of pneumonia was sudden, and everyone only fell in love online, which finally ignited a little spark of affection between each other. I am worried that I will be eliminated by the pneumonia epidemic! "
Some students helped me leave a message on the message board in the backstage management, saying: Teacher Xinyuan, long time no see, I am worried about everyone's feelings. You know, this is equivalent to talking about a long-term foreign love. What should I do?
After all, everyone's biggest concern is actually a kind of worry: feelings have been defeated by the pneumonia epidemic.
It doesn't matter. Xinyuan is coming to give you new tricks today. She was the first person to analyze why she was worried with everyone.
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Lack of self-confidence is the twin brother associated with insecurity.
Often in love relationships, girls are often paranoid and sensitive.
The problem lies in a confused thought, and you are flustered and chest tightness. When you are flustered and chest tightness, you start to make up fairy tales. What are other parties doing? Why are they ignoring me? Is he too busy to reply to my message? The pneumonia epidemic is really serious. He can't go out at home. There is no doubt that he is flirting with his sister.
As a result, the girls started _ crazy chasing bad mobile phone WeChat, plus the indiscriminate bombing of video and voice, and finally the boys couldn't hold on. The girl said, look, he has some people.
Find heart luca brasi, timidly say:
"Xinyuan, I'm sorry, I have a poor sense of belonging."
Lack of belonging or insecurity is more due to lack of self-confidence.
I don't believe that I have enough style to attract each other; I don't believe that I am good enough to win among many competitors; I don't believe that I am worthy of each other's love, these.
This is also the main reason why people are worried that the pneumonia epidemic will overcome their feelings.
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Weak psychological reliability does not mean that girls love to lose their temper, make trouble without reason, and lose their temper for no reason.
The point is, although the girl is not angry, she is not happy.
For example, girls know that boys should not be asked to reply to information every second, and it is difficult to guarantee. However, when boys reply to information content every second, girls will still feel uncomfortable about it.
Although I won't lose my temper because of this incident, I am depressed inside. Once or twice, not bad. After a long time, I will either cut off contact at a connection point, or question the other party's unkindness to myself, just chatting for fun, or immediately lose my temper and rush to the theme style of breaking up.
Weak psychological reliability and venting emotions are only related in turn, and the time problem is far more destructive to feelings than the pneumonia epidemic.
Therefore, in the pneumonia epidemic, we are equivalent to other places. Whether two people enter the emotional situation or prepare to enter the emotional situation in advance, we should improve the reliability of our mentality and make ourselves happier if possible.
After analyzing the key reasons why we are easy to block our feelings in the pneumonia epidemic.
Next, Xinyuan played a new trick for everyone, and in the case of Qi Xin fighting against the epidemic all over the country, her feelings also defeated the pneumonia epidemic.
Feed yourself "Baoxin Pills" first.
Note that everyone here is talking about feeding themselves, not feeding themselves. Why do you say that?
It's simple. When everyone is in a state of mind and has a poor sense of belonging, it is inevitable that there will be a state of mind. At this time, why not fool yourself and give yourself a "reassurance".
You may ask, what is Baoxin Pill? This is an acceptance of self-doubt and mentality.
For example, when you feel that the other person doesn't reply to his message, why don't you hug yourself and ask yourself, even if he doesn't reply to the message, does it mean that he never wants me easily and has been fading?
If not, there is nothing to worry about. At this time, you probably want to be at the beginning of his pursuit of me, or at the link that everyone has just learned. He was not like this. He was very active at that time.
Yes, he was active at that time, so he reflected on ourselves, not ourselves at that time.
It is naturally necessary for you to suppress your mentality. You are really angry. Why not take out a piece of paper, write an article about your mentality, and let yourself turn on the recording function of your mobile phone, complaining about it.
If you make that gesture, you may be surprised to find that you don't have that kind of anxiety, or even inadvertently find that his information has been pushed back.
In the long run, you will find that your sense of belonging and psychological reliability will be improved.
Second, improve friendliness.
Steinberg, a famous psychologist, has a basic theory of three elements of emotion. One of them is that lovers and lovers always maintain good feelings, all of which are maintained by friendliness.
It is likely that you will ask, in the face of the pneumonia epidemic, you can't even meet. How to improve your friendliness?
In fact, there are many ways to improve friendliness. Although you can't see each other, there are other ways.
For example, finding a room where both sides are fixed and locking up the usual communication not only prevents the indiscriminate bombing of his information content, but also prevents his own anxiety.
They can spare more than ten minutes of videos every day, talk about gossip, talk about how people around them fight the epidemic, and even look forward to what they can do when they meet after the epidemic.