Simply put, with the continuous development of society, many times we will encounter all kinds of mental and psychological shocks, and everyone will have imperfect experiences and traumatic experiences. Just like the study after the earthquake, your beloved books were shattered and scattered all over the floor. What psychology should do is to rearrange this messy place. Many negative experiences are like some negative seeds. Once buried, they may grow evil fruits. The ultimate goal of psychological counseling is simple: "You can rely on your own strength to return to inner peace and experience the happiness that has disappeared for a long time."
As you said in the title, I need to emphasize that many practitioners branded with psychological counseling in society are not real psychologists. Because the construction of psychology in China is still gradually improving, many people just made profits under the banner of psychology in the early days. I'm very sorry about your brother's change. Generally speaking, psychological counseling needs to make a detailed assessment of the younger brother's situation. First of all, it is necessary to make clear whether the visitor belongs to the object of psychological counseling, such as excluding some organic problems. If it is a neurophysiological problem, it is necessary to refer it to their psychiatric department for medical treatment in time. Secondly, distinguish the types and degrees of the younger brother's problems, and finally consider what kind of psychological counseling methods to adopt in combination with many factors.
I hope your fraternity will get better. Come on!
I remember hearing a joke before:
After a workshop on healing psychology, after a while, the students came back to ask the teacher who presided over the workshop. I found that after attending the workshop, my relationship with my family became worse. What's the point of my taking this course! This looks like a problem.
The counselor's answer made the students more angry. The counselor said, haven't you changed yet?
The student continued to ask, what has changed? My relationship with my family has become worse. Where has it changed?
The consultant replied, who said that this change will definitely be a good change?
Well, this joke is over here, but some phenomena and problems it reflects are actually far from being as simple as just a hundred words.
Let's not say that Brother Topic's counselor is not professional. Let's talk about the factors that will make counseling work in psychological counseling.
In fact, the biggest influence on consultation is the relationship between consultation and interview. Only when the relationship between consultation and interview is established can consultation produce good results. In the description of the topic, it seems that psychological counseling is closely related to the visitor, otherwise the visitor can't let his family receive psychological counseling, at least in the visitor's view, the psychological counseling he received is effective.
So whether this effect is good or bad, in fact, the most important thing is the evaluation of both visitors and counselors. The evaluation of the visitor's family, friends and people around him may not be as important as the visitor's feelings.
We don't know what happened in the consultation, and we don't know what the consultant and the visitor said, so we have no way to judge whether the consultant is qualified or not. Judging from the description of the topic, the visitor's state seems to be in a backward state, that is, returning to a child's instinctive state. Of course, this is a state that will have a healing effect in the clinic, but it has always been this state in reality, which is actually very destructive to the social function of visitors, especially when people around visitors can't tolerate and accept this state. If the counselor indulges the state of the visitors, it at least shows that the counselor is unqualified in this respect.
Perhaps, as the subject said, this consultant is unreliable, and perhaps the relationship between consultation and interview is not equal. This situation can be reflected to the relevant departments, and the professional association will review the consultation process of this consultant and the qualifications of the consultant.
Finally, how to determine whether a consultant is reliable.
First of all, whether psychological counselors have received systematic professional training, professional foundation is always the most basic guarantee for psychological counselors' professionalism;
Secondly, whether the psychological counselor has received personal analysis and dealt with his own problems, can he not be led by his own problems in consultation and want to be a psychological counselor, at least his inner self is healthier than most people;
In addition, whether to accept supervision or not, psychological counseling is an industry that needs continuous learning and progress, and there is still a big difference between being led by a master and groping for it yourself;
Finally, the number and time of cases accumulated by psychological counselors, like all other industries, consulting experience is also an important indicator to measure whether a counselor is reliable.
Finally, if we can find a reliable counselor who matches us, of course psychological counseling is effective.
Isn't consultation just chatting with you, and is there a charge? Is the charge still so expensive?
To become a psychological counselor, you must pass the psychological counselor qualification examination. One is the basic theory of psychology, and the other is the operation of psychological consultation. According to the current national professional standards for psychological counselors, the training time of the third-level psychological counselors is not less than 500 hours, and the second-level psychological counselors must undergo training and supervision for a certain period of time after obtaining the third-level qualification. However, last year, the state cancelled the examination program for psychological counselors. If you want to engage in psychological counseling, you can only wait for the introduction of relevant policies.
Competent psychological counselor
To be a qualified psychological counselor, it is not enough to just look at several psychological schools and consult books. Psychological counselors need to undergo systematic professional training, master basic theory and technical operation, and complete supervision before they can become qualified psychological counselors.
Counseling is different from chatting. When you are telling your troubles, your friends may comfort you "it will pass", or suggest ways to solve the problem, or just express your position, or simply answer, without really understanding you and helping you.
A competent psychological counselor needs a lot of training and spends time, money and energy on continuous learning.
During the one-hour consultation process of psychological counselors, mental consumption will be very huge. Psychological counselors and conversations should not only understand your feelings at present and then, the way you observe and recognize the world, and know the ins and outs of things, but also use relevant counseling skills to help you find the root of the problem, guide you to find a solution, and make you wake up and become stronger. The biggest difference between counseling and chatting is that counseling makes you know yourself better, while chatting makes it difficult for you to grow up.
In the construction of minors' mental health consultation service center, the most important thing is to understand the mental health problems of minors at this stage. According to the information provided by us at this stage, there are about 2580 children who commit suicide every year in China, and 40. 1% of primary school students have said "it is better to die". From this point of view, emotional problems and depression are becoming the biggest obstacles to the mental health of teenagers and even children. Therefore, it is necessary to pay attention to emotional problems and depression when building a mental health counseling service center for minors.
Reminder, we should pay attention to two aspects in the construction of minors' mental health consultation and service center, one is psychological equipment, and the other is psychological consultation service team. Next, I will give you a detailed explanation.
At present, the mental health problems of minors are mainly reflected in the increasing number of psychological diseases such as hysteria, network syndrome, depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder among adolescent patients; Pupils, middle school students and college students have different psychological problems, ranging from infants to young children. Therefore, the prevention and treatment of these mental health problems need to be considered when configuring psychological equipment.
Therefore, psychological sand table, psychological comprehensive evaluation system (educational version, comprehensive version) and square painting evaluation management system are recommended, mainly through the active participation of consultants, to achieve the effect of psychological self-healing. The overall construction of service center can consider the detailed configuration of psychological wall charts and green plants.
This is put forward in the document of 10, which requires the establishment of a mental health counseling service center for minors. You can build your own psychological counseling service team by training psychological counseling service teams or purchasing mental health services. When purchasing a psychological consulting service team, it is recommended to purchase psychological consulting services from professional psychological consulting R&D manufacturers and providers with professional consulting service teams. Because these manufacturers often have more project experience, they can meet the needs of users to the greatest extent. Just like this, with a lot of project experience and more than 10 years of industry experience, they can tailor the appropriate psychological equipment and psychological consultation room construction scheme for users.
To sum up, it is an introduction to the overall construction scheme of minors' mental health consulting service center. If you have any other questions, please feel free to consult and be at your service wholeheartedly.
I am a counselor. After reading your statement, I really understand your doubts about psychological counseling!
I just started studying psychology and got a job as a psychological consultant. The main motivation is to solve my own problems-interpersonal relationship in the workplace, marriage and family relationship, and even the relationship with my parents later.
Since I had a counselor in 2005, the last few cases I contacted were family relations and emotional problems caused by family problems. Such as adolescent rebellion, weariness of learning, fear of learning and so on.
Let me briefly introduce psychological counseling:
First, psychological counseling is different from ideological work. Psychological counseling is essentially a subconscious work, and a good relationship between counseling and visiting is the premise of counseling.
Second, the charging principle of psychological counseling. Paying fees is not only the respect and reward for the consultant's work, but also the establishment of the relationship between the consultant and the visitors. In other words, giving is not only an obligation, but also a promise! At the same time, paying fees can screen visitors' motives for seeking help. Being willing to pay fees means that visitors are willing to face their own problems and take on their own responsibilities.
Third, psychological counselors have two lifelines-boundaries and limitations.
First of all, consultants should keep their own boundaries and abide by the principle of consultation-helping others to help themselves and helping visitors solve their own problems without crossing the line.
Secondly, consultants should be aware of their limitations. Each consultant has his own limitations in time, space and ability. In line with the principle of being responsible for visitors, if they exceed their own limits, they should be referred in time.
I used to be depressed. I have never done psychological counseling myself, but I have seen many people who do psychological counseling spend a lot of money, but they are not cured.
Because mental illness is an inner problem, many psychological counselors are not motivated enough. What they want is to make money.
You see, mental illness is caused by the release of negative energy, which leads to a lot of entanglement of negative energy. This is the essence. If you want to get better, you have to entangle with people with positive energy. This counselor doesn't need much knowledge and education. The important thing is that he has positive energy, correct ideas, correct three views and a positive heart.
I think the negative energy method of psychological counseling is useless, and it will entangle a lot of negative energy. In my opinion, this is a suicide counseling method. If the counselor walks into your heart, he is also dangerous. Counselors are also pathetic. Actually. Many psychological counselors are helpless after suffering from mental illness, and many commit suicide.
Practice is the only criterion for testing truth.
If you really want to ask whether psychological counseling is useful, I can give you a lot of explanations and tell you how psychological counseling works. But from the description of your question, I feel that you have a lot of confusion in this regard, as if you are not asking whether psychological counseling is really effective. I'm asking, why didn't your brother's counseling work?
So I want to respond to this.
First of all, negotiation is a long process. This shows that many problems cannot be solved once or twice. Some people's lives may always be smooth. She can't coordinate with some big events in her life. Through several short-distance consultations, it may be possible to help her solve the problem, or not to help her solve the problem, but to help her spend the confused stage with her, and to have a better support for her and let her spend it smoothly.
Secondly, in the process of psychological counseling, we will meet some difficult visitors to a great extent. The problems of these visitors are all caused by her own personality. Simply put, they have personality disorders. It shows that their personalities are formed from childhood, stable, solid and invincible. This kind of personality makes their life extremely difficult again and again, causing many problems. If the visitor has personality disorder, it may take several years for the counselor to start working, and it may need a little improvement. A few short consultations may not have much effect.
Third, the role of consultation is limited by many factors. For example, the establishment of consultation and interview relationship and so on.
From your statement, I feel that your brother's problem should be more serious. If he is willing, I hope he can get the help of reliable consultation.
I hope it helps you.
Judging from your description, this counselor is not suitable for solving your brother's problem. Since his participation, the contradiction between your brother and his family has escalated, even to the point of starting work. It shows that this consultant is not good at dealing with such problems. In other words, the hidden contradictions in your family were aroused, but the psychological counselor did not give help in time. However, there is nothing wrong with him. Solving family conflicts is really suitable for the whole family to participate in consultations, find out the root causes of contradictions, and then solve problems. If this friend and his family want to continue to seek psychological help, I suggest that if you don't know the level of psychological counselors, it is more appropriate to go to a tertiary hospital to seek corresponding help.
Hello, everyone, I'm going back. Let me share my opinion.
Everyone has some psychological problems more or less, but after so many years of research. Such a set of methods for treating psychological problems has been formed. In my opinion, psychological problems are more problems of their own existence, blind areas of thought or ideological angles. Psychological counseling is just to express your thoughts and problems. The counselor will "prescribe the right medicine" according to your description and guide you out of the predicament in a psychological way. And how to do it is ultimately up to you.
Never blindly believe in psychological counseling. Because everyone's situation is different, the way to deal with problems is also very different. How dare you talk nonsense easily if you haven't experienced other people's lives? Among them, there are many people who come out to swindle and cheat under the banner of psychological counseling, and there are not a few who are in a hurry to go to the hospital. Many times, when the two meet, it will only make the problem more and more serious. There is also mental risk: if the guidance method is wrong, the possible results will be very different, and even the psychological problems of patients will be deepened. Therefore, even if you have psychological problems, you should do what you can. It is also important to keep your share clear.
Nowadays, the fast food society makes people feel that everything is a gust of wind. You will encounter all kinds of things and setbacks in your life, because many things can't be said because of this world. So, keep it in your heart. After a long time, I have accumulated more things, which makes people feel very tired. I think venting is also very important. There is no suitable solution to the problem. Don't keep them in your heart, let them out and tell yourself it's no big deal. The sea is wide and the fish jumps, and the sky is high and birds fly. What can it be as long as it is still in the world?
First of all, psychological counseling is certainly useful.
Judging from the information described by the subject, you and your family both think that the person who should be responsible for your brother's behavior is not himself, but his psychological counselor, which is debatable in itself. Because the counselor's job is to help visitors know themselves better (not including prohibiting the impulsive behavior of visitors outside the counseling room), the life of the visitors (if the visitors beat people outside the counseling room, it is the visitors who break the law, not the counselor) is still their own responsibility.
In many people's imagination, if a person goes to psychological counseling, then he should be able to manage his emotions well, get along well with his family and talk well. So if they see that their family members are still as emotional as before after psychological counseling, and they still can't talk to their families well, they will attack their counselors, who are liars, or feel that psychological counseling is useless at all.
But the reality is that different visitors have different personality bases. Some visitors have just entered the counseling for a few weeks, and they begin to obviously feel the effect of psychological counseling. They are the kind of people who can grow and develop well by themselves as long as someone provides a safe and stable relationship. There are also some visitors who may have consulted dozens of times, or even after a year or two, their emotions are still easy to collapse and their interpersonal relationships cannot be improved. There are two reasons: First, the visitors' own personality foundation is very poor, and they may have experienced abuse, abandonment and serious neglect at a very young age, which makes their sense of security very poor and their ability to trust others very weak. In other words, they are very difficult visitors. Another possible reason is that tourists live in an overexcited environment. His self-regulation was just a little bit, and he was regressed by some reactions from his family. No sooner had he made some progress than his family pulled him back. Judging from the description of the subject, it is possible that your brother belongs to the latter.
Your brother seems to be an adult. I don't know why he still lives in his parents' house, and he hasn't fallen in love or explored his own life. Your mother seems to have great difficulty in emotional management. If she is unhappy, she will run away from home or kneel down to beg her son. Your father seems to have no dignity for his son and can't get his respect. And your sister is so distressing. You should have been taken care of by your brother and the whole family. As a result, you have to accompany your brother to do psychological counseling, and you are angry that the whole family denounced the psychological counseling institution that was considered to have made a mistake. But the organization you denounced is also very wronged, because their responsibilities do not include being responsible for your brother's behavior.
It is also very helpless for the subject to live in such an environment. Love you, hug you and bless you!