If you have a pair of parents who cherish you, you really did a good thing in your last life. If you have reasonable parents, who must you have saved in your last life? I've seen worse people than Van Mei Sheng.
A classmate's classmate was adopted in a welfare home after her birth, which is her current home. The mother who adopted her is very kind to her and loves her very much. Her mother didn't tell her that she was adopted. She also has a brother, who was born to this mother. She got good grades in high school and enrolled in graduate school, but in the third year of high school, her mother died and the person who loved her most left. So I didn't say anything. Now it's time for her brother to buy a house and marry a daughter-in-law, but her brother is also incompetent and can't make money. Her father made a down payment, but her brother couldn't pay the loan. Her father thought of a way to make her stop studying and come down to work to pay her brother's mortgage. Of course, she doesn't want to. Later, her father told her that she was adopted. No way, she was grateful and came down.
This is really just one of them, and there are children who have not grown up. Because of their father's fraud, they are the kind of people who go to the village to cheat money. They say that the interest on saving money here is high, so they will give you a sweet spot first. After cheating a lot of money, they will run away with it, leaving a debt of all ages. This kind of "fan he Shi ru Jin" family has such files in every village here.
Some are miserable people, at least Fang Fan has great earning power, and there are many good friends around him who are willing to help them!
If there are people like Fan Jie around, I won't leave. Although I can't send much charcoal, at least don't refuse to be friends with them.
I don't feel normal. After all, now that society is developed, most people don't have children very much, and the traditional concept of son preference doesn't appear very much. On the contrary, most families also attach great importance to fairness, and fewer and fewer parents cheat their daughters. In modern times, many people prefer their daughters. After all, it is a sweet little cotton-padded jacket.
There is a model before, and a bright future behind. There may not be many people who have the same experience as them, but there are countless vampire parents and parents who prefer sons to daughters in rural areas.
In the play, there is such an impressive remark. In a chat with Aunt Xu, Fang formally introduced himself: I am the fourth son who didn't die in a well. This line is plain but very attentive. How many stories and grievances are behind us that we don't know?
If Fan's mother is the vampire mother in Ode to Joy, then the mother in Anjia is probably the upgraded vampire mother. At least, Fan's mother will "pretend to be polite" when asking for money: Xiaomei. However, when the mother with a good family asked her for money, she was confident and had no manners. It's like thinking: I gave birth to you, you have to give me money, and I will do whatever I say.
The Family of Birth is a true portrayal of many rural families in reality. My hometown is the countryside. Although I don't have as much experience as the two people in the play, I still live in a patriarchal environment. Although many people now say that people are very open-minded, boys and girls are the same. However, in the eyes of the older generation in rural areas, there are essential differences between men and women. Men are superior to women, and daughters are useless. After all, it was spilled water. Boys carry on the family line, only men have roots and boys have face, otherwise they will be unable to lift their heads all their lives. There are still many people who have this idea, and their ideas are deeply rooted and cannot be changed at all.
For example, if you are a girl, you have a younger brother who is a second child, you are working, and your younger brother is still studying. When it comes to marriage, parents think that their son's wedding room has not been bought yet. If you work hard, your salary will be used to help your brother pay the tuition to buy a wedding room. You shouldn't get married, but you should help his family accomplish the important task of your brother's marriage.
For another example, girls get married early, but they still have a younger brother. Parents will ask for a lot of bride price, and they will take it for granted: I have raised my daughter for more than ten years, and I have never spent a penny on her or benefited from her. What's wrong with asking for more bride price money?
Faced with such parents, girls who are treated unfairly must be strong, strive to improve themselves, bravely pursue their own happiness, polish their eyes to find a good man, establish a family with equality between men and women, and be a good mother.
Fan's experience of owning a beautiful room is not normal in society, but there are still a few such people in real life, especially in rural areas. A daughter is an outsider, not only to take care of her parents, but also to take care of her younger brother or elder brother.
The room is like brocade, better than Fan Meisheng. They are all laborers squeezed by their families. Fan's mother asked Fan for money again and again to give it to her younger brother at home.
Her brother is always in debt and always gambles and plays mahjong. Fan Meisheng works hard to make money, but he still has a hard time.
The situation in the room is more complicated. There is an elderly grandfather and a younger brother at home, and both parents are very strict with her.
She is the fourth daughter of the Fang family. She was almost drowned when she was born.
Slowly grow up and stand on her own feet, but she still can't get rid of the squeeze of her mother Pan Guiyu.
Zhang Kou wants 654.38+00,000 to like a room and publicly humiliate her daughter regardless of face. Such a mother is really hateful.
The family she comes from will really leave a shadow on her children, and no matter what, she will make herself strong and confident.
I hope I can finally reconcile with my family, and I hope my family can give them love and care.
That's not true. In China, most parents are child-centered. In order to highlight the authenticity and typicality, film and television works have added a lot of color. But once the family background becomes Fan 2.0, such a life will undoubtedly be a torment.
A family like Fang Sijin is poor but not widowed. As long as one person gets the word, the whole family will ascend to heaven. It is necessary for brothers and sisters to help each other in ordinary assistance and communication, but what a person pays and takes is ultimately harmful to others and themselves. Among the sisters, Fang is the only one who went to college and has a stable job, and she is also the goal. Several sisters already have their own families, but the younger brother's job is not settled.
Many people say that what is more terrible than Pan Guiyu is his younger brother. He seems to be the only one who can save the house, but it was also his younger brother who finally squeezed the house out of breath. He has no basic ability to stand on his own feet, and even the love fee for making a girlfriend should be borne by Fang Rujin. Obviously, this is not the fairest choice.
Pan Guiyu is not a good mother. She is like a delivery middleman, asking for a million dollars, and at the same time looking forward to her son kindly. As an adult with the most right to speak, Pan Guiyu's position is not flattering. The blood relationship can't be broken, and the room in the middle is like brocade. I live in armor every day, and I feel sad when I rest.
The experience of harmony between Fan and the room, after refining, concentrating and amplifying, is a social normal. This extreme situation is not ruled out in life, but it is absolutely rare.
In order to attract more audiences and audiences, the case is more typical, and many personal stories in life will focus on one person.
As far as the real society is concerned, it is unlikely that a family like family of origin or Fan will exist.
Why?
First of all, in reality, many families do prefer boys to girls. They will let their daughters drop out of school early for their younger brothers to go to school, will let them subsidize their families, and will also let them give financial support to their younger brothers in the process of getting married and buying a house.
But I will do what I can, and I will estimate my daughter's endurance. Even if it exceeds, it will not be too far away.
There are few people who claim land like Fan Hefang's mother, regardless of her daughter's earning power. At least I haven't heard of them.
Secondly, in real life, if my daughter works in a first-tier city like Shanghai like Fan, it is a promising performance in their eyes, and it is too late for the whole family to curry favor with her.
Even if you ask, you will play the emotional card, take the warm route, and will not be unscrupulous in exploitation.
Third, in the social atmosphere of pursuing independence and self, Fan Hefang in real life will not be so weak, giving everything to his family and letting them kill him.
Finally, it is difficult for Fan Hefang to make a successful counterattack in reality. Most of them leave school early to make a living without their parents' support, and are trapped by family environment and realistic conditions, and most of them will accept their fate early.
Based on the above reasons, I think that Fan's experiences in Ode to Joy and Anton are only images after artistic processing, and what happened to them may be scattered into many fragments, which will happen to the audience bit by bit and arouse their feelings.
However, their case itself, in today's world where food and clothing are carefree and parent-child relationship is paid more and more attention, cannot become the normal state of society.
At least around our lives, it is still a normal state. It's just that the degree is different. People like Fan He, whose rooms are like brocade, are less bad.
But most families with children and girls are basically the same: parenting is similar, but parents will especially favor their sons after their children get married. For grandchildren, it is much more important than grandchildren.
There is also the state that the son is desperately cultivating and the daughter tries not to go to so many schools.
Different degrees, but similar in nature!
For example, neighbors, three children and two sisters go to technical secondary schools and have jobs to help their families early. What about my son? Try to be a college student. Parents still keep asking their daughters to help their younger brothers. Let the daughter support the elderly, and all the property belongs to the son.
So, very annoying!
These two extreme cases belong to the enlarged version, but the reduced version of "Fan Meisheng, beautiful house" is too common in society.
Part of China's son preference thought can be said to be in his genes, because in ancient times, men have always been an important labor force and pillar of the family.
This idea does not mean that "boys and girls are the same" in family planning propaganda, but it is really the same. "Raising children for old age" is still an important reason why many daughter-in-law are forced to have boys by their mother-in-law.
Independent women in the new era have risen ideologically, but the ideas of their parents are basically difficult to change.
My sister works for my brother to go to school; Boys at home get married, and sisters have to leave the house and pay a lot of money; The bride price of my sister's wedding is left to the boy by both parents, and such cases abound.
There are also some families, although on the surface, their parents have not done so much, but they can still smell the "eccentricity" of their parents from some incidents. Some daughters grow up, thinking that it is not easy for their parents to raise them and they are unwilling to care about them.
Being born in a family like "Fan" not only made her daughter have an unhappy childhood, but also affected her happiness as an adult and was dragged down by the whole family for life. At present, there are many family therapy systems, which analyze the environment in family of origin and help these people reconcile with their family of origin and get cured.
As we gradually become the parents of the new era, I think this social phenomenon will gradually ease.
So is there a preference for boys in your family?
She gave us something better within her power.
What are your parents like? Welcome to express your opinion in the comments section.
Fan Hefang's experience is to ask whether it is the normal state of society, and the answer is definitely not the normal state of society, but these people exist in real life, accounting for a very small number.
Even in the 265,438+0 century, the concept of son preference still existed in the last century. Such families prefer their sons and hope that their daughters can help their sons, but what parents of such families didn't expect was that if their sons were really in trouble, as daughters, their brothers would try their best to help him.
I also hope that there will never be Fan Meisheng and a beautiful house in reality!
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Television has exaggerated elements, but the source of creation is life. In real life, there are selfish parents and unkind children, but this is definitely not the norm, and it should not be the norm!