Divorced people, except for a few who are deeply hurt and don't want to touch their marriage again, most people are still full of expectations for their future feelings. I took the wrong bus in the last marriage, and I suffered some hardships in the marriage, but I also accumulated some experience and insights. If I set foot on the train of marriage again, I will be very cautious and cherish it. After all, no one wants to make the same mistake again.
Although both men and women who have remarried are alert to the last failed marriage and sincerely want to run the next marriage or relationship, it is a pity that many remarried couples, or couples who have not obtained a license, can be said to be congenial at first, glad that they finally found the right person, but after getting along for several years or years, they finally parted ways.
Is there no love? No, when I got married, I was looking for love. Without love, two people can't be together. No money? No, two divorced people want to mix and show others, so they will desperately want to live together, so it won't be because of lack of money. So, what is the biggest reason for the breakdown of the reorganized family?
In fact, many remarried families were stable at first, and finally broke up because of children's problems.
Father's money can't be distributed to outsiders. After the divorce, she took two children to make a living by opening a vegetable shop. She is optimistic about poor and down-and-out Liu Shu, because he is kind and indomitable.
Liu Shu's family was very rich in his early years. Later, his wife fell ill and spent a lot of money. It can be said that he spent all his savings in order to treat his wife, but in the end he didn't save her life. After the family had no money, Liu Shu did everything. He told Ma Yi that he was still in a good mood and would make a comeback if he had the chance.
Ma Yi also has an indomitable spirit. She appreciates Liu Shu's indomitable attitude towards life. When they spoke, there were many languages, so they came together.
When they first started together, Liu Shu's children were fine. He has three children, two sons and a daughter, all married and have children. His father lives alone and has little money. He is accompanied and taken care of. They are actually very happy.
After more than three years together, Ma Yi and Liu Shu have the opportunity to outsource a small factory, which is exactly what Liu Shu is good at. Liu Shu came back to discuss with Ma Yi that he wanted to contract the factory, but he had no money and wanted Ma Yi to help raise it.
After several days' consideration, Ma Yi helped Liu Shu raise money despite the strong opposition of her relatives. It was a big risk at that time, but Ma Yi chose to trust Liu Shu. Liu Shu was also very grateful at that time, holding Ma Yi's hand and saying that she would double her compensation after her success. It is said that a penny is worth a penny, which is true. After Liu Shu's family declined, no one really wanted to lend him money. If Ma Yi doesn't help him, he can only do nothing.
Aunt Ma also worked with Liu Shu after he took over the factory. It can be said that she was worried and suffered a lot. Fortunately, the benefits of the factory are getting better every day. A year later, all the money raised by Ma Yi was paid back, and a surplus began to appear in the second year.
In the following years, the benefits of the factory have been good. Aunt Ma and Liu Shu bought a big house in the city, and Liu Shu changed from a penniless poor man to a rich man. But it was not until their financial situation improved that their feelings began to break down.
Children in Liu Shu began to keep in touch with their fathers frequently. Today's grandson's birthday, tomorrow's grandson's birthday. They tried their best to win over their father. Grandchildren shouted "Grandpa, Grandpa" one after another, which made Liu Shu laugh. His children asked him for money and gave him as much as they wanted.
When Liu Shu had no money, the children all stayed away. Now that he is rich, the children are all around him, as if he were extremely filial. In fact, they all have fangs and want to suck all their father's money into their pockets.
Liu Shu gave money to his children without restraint, but he was not so generous to Ma Yi's children. Ma Yi began to quarrel with him because of his partiality. Liu Shu sometimes admits his mistakes and says he will pay attention in the future. Later, Liu Shu refused several children's requests for money, and his children called Ma Yi to make trouble. Ma Yi is regarded as a thorn in the side of children in Liu Shu. They don't know that Aunt Ma's help made their father.
Aunt Ma's children are also very dissatisfied with her stepfather's quirks and complain to her mother. Because of the conflict between them on how much money to give their children, Liu Shu finally listened to the child's encouragement and divorced Ma Yi.
Liu Shu's daughter openly talked to Ma Yi, saying that her father opened the factory, and the money earned was also his father's, so she would give it to them later.
This marriage lasted for more than ten years. In fact, at first, when there was no money, two people worked together and had a good relationship. Later, when they got rich, there was no contradiction between them. The biggest contradiction is that their children, especially those in Liu Shu, kidnapped their father with affection, and Liu Shu also took them away. He finally chose to stand with the children and failed Ma Yi.
It is understandable that remarried couples who have their own children will put their children first. However, if one of them is seriously inclined, giving priority to children and the other is irrelevant, then the marriage has already begun to break up.
Your son is married. You should go to him. Sister Zhao of Dear Dad divorced her husband because he didn't support his family. After the divorce, she raised the children alone. A woman, with a son in middle school, and her sister Zhao have no stable job, life is unimaginable.
Later, she met a master Xia who worked as a plumber. Master Xia is proficient in her job, which has taught her a lot of skills and helped her find a way to make money several times better than working.
Zhao Jie and Master Xia are both single and simple-minded, so they naturally come together. From the very beginning, Sister Zhao agreed with Master Zhao to take care of the children, that is, the money they earned together needed to raise their sons. At that time, Master Xia promised very well.
They didn't get a license, but they have been together for almost ten years. Sister Zhao is resolute in her work and never loses a man. She is also very smart and always says that she can always find a job. Their income is much higher than before, and their life is much easier. Life is getting better and better, but with the growth of children, the cost is also increasing, and Master Xia's attitude has also changed. He began to think that Zhao Jie spent too much money on his son.
When Master Xia divorced, he left all his property to his ex-wife and children. He paid very little living expenses, while Zhao Jie's children's expenses became higher and higher, and his psychology began to be unbalanced. He told Zhao Jie that other children could earn money part-time when they were in college. Why does her child always spend money at home? Zhao Jie is too used to him.
Zhao Jie doesn't want to hear it. She said it was agreed at the beginning. We can be together, but we must take care of my children. Why are you picking on me?
Children are flesh and blood embedded in their mothers. Responsible mothers will do their best to bring up their children, and will not let them become victims of their families in order to maintain a so-called family.
Master Xia was unwilling to take care of Zhao Jie's son at first, but he was still very kind to Zhao Jie. He always instilled an idea in Zhao Jie that they raised their children and should be taken care of by their father in the future. For example, when a child gets married and buys a house, he wants his father to pay for it.
After Zhao Jie's ex-husband divorced, it was a pile of mud. He ate up all his salary and had no savings at all. Zhao Jie can't count on her ex-husband when it comes to her son. She was very sad to hear Master Xia say this. He knows she can't refer to her ex-husband, but he still wants to say this. Obviously, he just doesn't want to take care of her son.
Zhao Jie's son's house has been bought. Over the years, she and Master Xia have actually kept their own money. Except for family expenses and son expenses, they kept the rest of the money alone and kept it for themselves. This has reached an understanding. So Sister Zhao bought a wedding room for her son with her own money.
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, Zhao Jie's son is getting married in a month. Master Xia told Zhao Jie that it was time for her son to ask his father or his relatives for money, and it was time for them to take some responsibilities. Sister Zhao had a big fight with him for this and told him clearly that her son would take care of it in the end.
After the quarrel, Master Xia packed his luggage, said he would go to other provinces to work, and then left with his things. After that, there was no phone call. Sister Zhao finished her son's marriage alone.
After busy with his son's marriage, Zhao Jie began to think about this relationship. Master Xia has feelings for her, but the weight of this feeling is limited. He regards Zhao Jie as one of his own, but always regards her son as an outsider. He wanted Zhao Jie to get closer and closer to him, but he pushed his son farther and farther, which was unacceptable to Zhao Jie. Zhao Jie always puts her children first, which is unacceptable to him. This relationship for many years ended because of her children.
I finally have two children. Ling Jie and Lao Xie are also remarried couples. Ling Jie has a daughter and Lao Xie has a son. After they remarried, they both regarded each other's children as their own.
Ling Jie said that she forgot the scene when she didn't go to school to pick up Lao Xie's son for the first time. That day, she wore a red sweater, which was beautifully wrapped. When Lao Xie's son saw her, he ran to her and told his classmates that my mother had come to pick me up. Look how beautiful my mother is!
Ling Jie said that there were tears in his eyes. Lao Xie may be a good father, but the child still longs for his mother. His mother hardly contacts him, so the child is very close to her. She said that she would live up to her child's closeness and treat him as her own child. In the later years, she did the same.
Besides, he didn't say anything to Lingjie's daughter, who was closer than his own. They were in their thirties when they remarried, but they chose not to have the same child and regarded each other's children as their own.
Sister Ling said that someone had predicted to her before that she would give birth to both children in the future, but she still didn't believe it. She said that now she believes that she really has two children, and she is very happy.
When Ling Jie and Lao Xie remarried, the child was seven or eight years old. Now, all the children have graduated from college, joined the work and formed their own families. Children are also very filial to them. In the past, a family of four was very happy to take pictures, but now there are two more smiling faces, and the family photo has become a family of six.
Ling Jie said that no one's family is so smooth sailing, there will be friction, and her family is no exception. But because we all miss each other in our hearts and can think from each other's point of view, the contradiction can be solved satisfactorily. It can be seen that in remarried families with children, mutual tolerance and tolerance are essential factors for family happiness.
Entering marriage, we hope that our bodies and emotions have a warm harbor. However, when marriage can no longer shelter each other from the wind and rain and become a place to create storms, instead of drifting in the wind and rain, it is better to come out and meet the new world.
When divorced or widowed people choose their feelings again, in fact, the biggest knot is their children, fearing that their children will not be valued and cared for. In other words, everyone actually puts children first. At the beginning of family reorganization, everyone got along well. At this time, there are actually many treasures in it.
It is difficult for families with children to remarry, and it is okay not to care about each other. Occasionally, there is a little friction. But if you value yourself too much, treat your children as treasures and treat the other half as grass, even if you make do, you will eventually turn against each other.
There are some children who are married, but their focus is not on the happiness of their remarried parents, but on their parents' money. In order to gain more benefits for themselves, they do not hesitate to destroy their remarried parents' families.
It is not easy to get married, and it is even harder to remarry with children. However, if both husband and wife can put their minds right, learn how to get along with each other, be more tolerant and patient, and communicate in time when they encounter problems, I believe that the road to remarriage will be much smoother and they will be happy to the end.
@ Qiu Xi Hi, like spring grass after 70, groping in life and wandering around the world in words.