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When it comes to whether a mother-in-law should take care of her children, this question will cause many daughters-in-law, especially those who need to go to work.
I remember a young daughter-in-law once posted a post on a website, "My mother-in-law won't help with the children, and I'm going to cry myself out in the toilet". In the post, the daughter-in-law explained her difficulties in detail. For example, the husband's income alone could not support the whole family, so he had to work to earn money and could not afford a nanny.
Many young couples always think it is great to take care of their children when they first get married. Children have fun, so cute.
However, no matter how cute a child is, he will not be cute if he stays up all night, crying and making noise.
What's more, there are indeed many families who can't afford the mortgage, living expenses, daily expenses and other expenses only by their husbands' income.
Therefore, many young expectant mothers will choose to continue working when they are pregnant, even if they have to bear all kinds of physical discomfort. After that, after giving birth to the baby, take a short rest for a few months and continue to work.
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It's okay to go to work, so who will take care of the children?
You know, there are very few young people in China who can afford a nanny now, and most of them still need the help of their parents.
For China's mother-in-law, it is also very important to help her son, daughter-in-law and grandson. If the mother-in-law doesn't help, it will even cause controversy and attacks from many people.
My friend Lan Lan met a very funny thing some time ago, because her relatives thought it was her mother-in-law's absolute task to help Lan Lan with her children.
Light light meets her husband at work. They support each other and work together in the provincial capital cities. They didn't have children until they were 30 years old in order to give them a good living environment in the future.
Also at the age of 30, light light blue was confirmed to be pregnant. Light light blue and her husband are very happy, waiting for the arrival of Little Cute.
Light light blue and her husband have certain presuppositions. For example, light light blue worked until delivery, and then she began to take maternity leave for three months. Three months later, she plans to find a family nanny in the community to look after the children during the day until the baby enters the private kindergarten in the community when he is 2 years old.
Although it will cost a lot of money, it is still cost-effective for two people. Lan Lan's career has not been delayed, and the children have been taken care of by special people, which has no influence on both parents.
In addition, when Lan Lan was just diagnosed as pregnant, Lan Lan's mother-in-law called Lan Lan immediately after learning about it. The key is to let Lan Lan take care of himself and let Lan Lan's bank account directly pay 50,000 yuan for nutrition.
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Lan Lan's mother-in-law said, "I won't take care of you either. You take good care of yourself and work as hard as possible. Now take some supplements first. This 50,000 yuan will buy some delicious food. I will give you 65,438+10,000 yuan when the baby is born. I stopped helping after the baby was born. Just take this money and go directly to the Confucius Center and go home after maternity leave. "
Why doesn't Lan Lan's mother-in-law help the young couple with their children?
Because Lan Lan's mother-in-law is also a professional woman, she has already reached the retirement age of 55, but out of love for her work, she applied for a job.
Mother-in-law Lan Lan showed her attitude very early and did not interfere in the lives of her son and daughter-in-law. She only pays the money, not contributes. Therefore, after light light blue got married, she never had any contradiction with her mother-in-law. On the one hand, they get along less, on the other hand, she feels really unnecessary. After all, my mother-in-law still supports the young couple financially.
But for some relatives of Lan Lan, it is very incomprehensible that Grandma doesn't help with the children.
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Lan Lan's second aunt and sister have been saying to Lan Lan: "Lan Lan, the baby will be born in a few months. Do you know who will bring it? " I'm telling you, don't let your parents take it for you, just let your grandmother take it. In short, be sure to let the mother-in-law take care of the children! "
Light light blue was very surprised. Why does grandma have to take care of the children?
The second aunt and young aunt went on to say, "When you get married, you don't want a bride price or a house. Now that you are looking for a job yourself, the house is also saved by your husband and wife. " Then the mother-in-law takes care of the children. Great. This mother-in-law and grandmother did it too easily. "
Light light blue can only answer, "Why, she gave the same financial support. She donated 50,000 yuan for nutrition and will go to the Confucius Center after the baby is born. The money promised her to pay.
Light light blue shocked the second aunt and young aunt, because other relatives in the family had never given their son and daughter-in-law so much money.
In Lan Lan's hometown, it is really the grandmother who takes care of the children, because in addition to taking care of the children, she is chatting and watching TV at home. Therefore, when they learned that Lan Lan was pregnant, they first told Lan Lan's mother never to take care of her children, and the second told Lan Lan to let her mother-in-law take care of her children.
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In fact, many times, people think in their own way of thinking, which has certain limitations.
Light blue people have irregular menstruation, but their ideas are too simple. They stubbornly believe that Lan Lan's mother-in-law is just an idle old woman who stays at home. So they encouraged light light blue to let her mother-in-law take care of the children and suffer less. However, I didn't expect her mother-in-law to have a certain economic strength, so there is no need to take care of her children alone.
For light light blue, it doesn't matter whether the mother-in-law takes care of the children. She has discussed with her husband how to take care of them.
Moreover, in order to let the children live a good life, she and her husband have saved a sum of money as a special fund-raising. Light light blue is also very grateful to her mother-in-law for her financial support. Although there is no shortage of this money, she is still very touched, which can be regarded as the respect and affirmation of her mother-in-law.
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Mother-in-law helps her son and daughter-in-law, really not just helping with the children.
The light blue mother-in-law is very realistic. She doesn't worry about the problems that money can solve, so she gives money directly.
Of course, light light blue is not a nerd. She just thinks that this is a kind of support and respect from her mother-in-law. When her mother-in-law is old, she will take care of her.
Only by mutual respect, mutual affirmation and joint efforts can the family become better. Light light blue always agrees with this truth, so she will not be influenced by one or two words from others, which is considered as the wisdom of life.