Every mother wants her baby to grow up healthily, including height, weight, large amount of exercise, fine movements, language development and social behavior. I don't want to hear the parenting doctor say that there is no qualification here and there, and so do I, so that the results of early education make me nervous every time. I used to wonder if there was something wrong with my body, and breast milk could not provide rich nutrition for my baby ... I didn't settle down until I kept learning and updating my knowledge of pediatrics and contacted the concept of evidence-based medical care. In fact, every baby has its own rules. Don't compare your baby with other children, pay attention to your baby's own growth rhythm, and don't be an anxious mother ~ Here are some views on "growth retardation" based on your own experience.
How to judge developmental delay
Only a professional pediatrician can give a professional answer to this proposition. The baby's development is different, but there are boundaries in a large range, that is, stable development within a certain range. If it exceeds the limit for a long time, it is necessary to see a child care doctor for developmental assessment so as to carry out targeted intervention and treatment.
Big sports: for example, the baby can't look up for more than three months, can't stand at the age of one, and can't walk at the age of one and a half ... These big sports abilities beyond the lower limit are obviously backward or can't be completed. You can consult a doctor to check whether there is any growth retardation.
Fine movements: you can't catch things for more than three months, you can't use your fingers at the age of one, and you can't play with small objects at the age of two ... Many hand movements can't be completed, which is considered to be a slow development of fine movements.
Language: I can't speak words at the age of two, and I can't speak sentences or even speak after the age of three ... I don't just comfort myself that "the nobles speak late". I need to check the possibility of my baby's autism and hearing.
Social behavior: I don't like people around me for more than seven months, and I'm not interested in toys and other children at the age of two ... This requires more companionship and guidance from my parents. What causes the baby to be reluctant to socialize too much? After excluding non-pathological reasons such as baby's personality, symptomatic treatment should be given under the guidance of a doctor.
I used to be anxious.
Bao Tong weighed 7 kg when she was born, and the newborn's health assessment results were good, but I didn't have milk for three days after delivery. When I was in the hospital, I only relied on 30ml of formula milk every day. Later, I was discharged from the hospital and took milk home in various ways, barely eating. After 42 days of physical examination, Bao Tong actually gained only 1.3 kg, which is the lowest compared with other babies born in the same period. So I began to be anxious, and tried to catch up with milk and mixed feeding at the doctor's suggestion, but my weight and height were still behind. The growth and development of Bao Tong once plunged me into the pain of self-denial, which was thought to be caused by my poor feeding conditions.
I will calm down after learning knowledge.
The growth curve is a dynamic record of the baby's height and weight development. Since I came into contact with evidence-based medicine, I have learned to read materials. Later, under the observation of child care doctors, I found that Bao Tong has been developing steadily along its own growth curve, which is a relatively good healthy growth state. Although the curve level is around 3%, every baby has his own rhythm. Bao Tong is a typical genetic curve style, influenced by the slow development rhythm of Bao Tong's father and me when we were young, so she is also a slow-paced baby whose height and weight are relatively backward. After learning about feeding and sleeping, my heart became gentle and calm. Regular child care and high-frequency communication with doctors also gave me the ability to solve problems. I never think it's easy to be a parent. There are many things to learn and master. The more you learn, the more transparent you are, and the more you know about your baby's growth and development.
The conclusion of stunting needs professional doctors to evaluate the diagnosis and treatment. As parents, we need to get rid of anxiety, blind comparison and partial listening. If you unfortunately encounter problems related to developmental retardation, you can refer to the following points, adjust your mentality, and receive professional treatment under the guidance of a doctor.
1. Great sports development
Increase exercise appropriately under the baby's emotional and physical conditions, such as looking up and turning over, to help the baby know his body and encourage him to exercise; Give your baby a sense of security and tell him that it is controllable and safe to do actions, such as walking; Exercise your baby's use of body movements through parent-child games, such as squatting, sitting down, etc ... In addition to pathological problems, you need professional doctors to evaluate and treat them.
2. Language development
Continuous output and guidance is particularly important. Many parents talk very little, and their babies receive less information, which leads to slow language development. Talk to your baby more, ask more questions, introduce more things around you, encourage your baby to express emotions and opinions, guide your baby to answer questions, and strengthen the frequency of parent-child dialogue, which can stimulate your baby's language development to some extent. Pathology needs to pay attention to exclude the baby's autism tendency and other issues.
3. Fine motor development
You also need to exercise more, pick up soybeans, twist your hair, and play beading games. You can use local materials or buy teaching AIDS. More fingers are naturally more flexible. Usually, you can take your baby out to touch more things to increase the sensitivity of your hands, but don't excessively prevent your baby from exploring things, even if the baby makes the room very bad.
4. Social behavior development
Nature is the best friend. Take your baby out for a walk in your spare time, get to know the beautiful world, and let your baby adapt to the environment with strangers around. When the baby's mood is stable, teach the baby basic social etiquette and rules, be lively and polite, and don't make noise.
5. Parents insist on studying
Learning and updating pediatric knowledge in time is a very important ability of contemporary parents, and it is also our guide to action when facing developmental problems, and it is also our confidence that we are not anxious. Believe in your baby and cooperate with the doctor's advice, we can certainly improve the relatively backward situation through hard work and persistence, and at the same time, we must respect the baby's own development law scientifically.
Every baby is an angel and our guardian is us.