First: Don't forget your innovative spirit.
Now is the era of free love, since you get along together, you must be attracted to each other. Think back to what attracted you to each other, and then seriously think about what your original intention was to choose to be together.
Looking back on the past can help you find the key point of "being attracted twice"
Second: face the reality.
Since the fact is that you chose each other, you should accept the reality. You can't expect Wu Dalang to become Pan An or Ximen Qing to become Liu Xiahui. Some facts are predestined, and it's no use complaining blindly. Try to face and accept them, and then gradually become a habit.
When you get used to each other, you will find that they are not as bad as you think. Knowing each other clearly and stopping complaining can make it easier for you to get along.
Third: change yourself.
Changing oneself includes external image and internal image. Appearance doesn't necessarily mean cosmetic surgery, but you can make up properly or make yourself look neat and clean.
Never think that the image of the old couple is unimportant. Marriage and love need to be kept fresh at all times.
In the internal image, on the one hand, it is to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and to carry forward the advantages of being accepted by the other party and attracting the other party. On the other hand, it is to enrich your life and establish a confident and optimistic attitude. Optimism and self-confidence can not only change your internal image, but also make your external image look more temperament.
Fourth: communication.
As the saying goes: husband and wife quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed. It's no big deal to say a lot of things. Learn to listen more when communicating, and don't keep things to yourself. Listening and speaking calmly, under the premise of understanding and tolerance, it is not difficult for husband and wife to get along.