Because in this process, we have been educating children not to be afraid, but to be brave. ...
Watch them walk more steadily from babbling to toddlering. Sometimes I fall, sometimes I dare not take that step.
Only his own example is the best education for him.
Once our company went to a place for outdoor training, and all the children took it.
One of my colleagues is a mother with a 3-year-old son.
Projects include wooden bridges, cable bridges and climbing. Some adults are afraid to see them. When crossing the rope bridge, the older children climbed over with trepidation, while the younger children were afraid to go forward.
The mother kept encouraging her son to take that step bravely. Mother said, "Don't be afraid, baby. Very safe. It's okay ... "
But the rope bridge is shaking when adults climb over it. I can see that my mother is actually a little afraid of heights, and her eyes have been closed.
Finally, in order to encourage his son to be brave, he had to demonstrate himself once. The mother stood up, holding the rope in one hand and her son's hand in the other, and walked slowly over.
Mom said:
"In the process of climbing the bridge, I was a little scared, but I couldn't let my son lose trust in me. At that moment, I knew that only by defeating myself and exercising myself can I become a trustworthy mother in my son's heart. It is with this belief that I bravely climbed over ... "
Because there are still many such things in the future, we should tell our children to be brave, not to back down.
This is a cultivation of being a mother, so it is not a cultivation.
Children have many bad habits, and the more bitter they are, the less effective they are.
Take my sister for example.
My sister's son is three years old. He always likes to pick his nose for a while. Once I dug out a nosebleed, cried in pain for a long time, and finally went to the hospital.
So every time a child picks his nose, my sister will criticize him very seriously. Even scared him with the last case, saying that he would bleed and have an injection. But there is still no good effect.
Later, the child said, because mother likes to pick her nose.
Shame! ! The reason is actually my sister.
Because my sister's nasal mucosa is damaged, she always itches and often can't help rubbing her nose. Sometimes in front of my son, I was inadvertently seen and learned in my heart.
The child's imitation instinct is out of control.
Later, my sister deliberately controlled herself and got rid of that bad habit. Although it is difficult to control in a short time, it is a kind of persistence for yourself.
Only by insisting on correcting yourself can we correct children's mistakes.
I often hear very young children say swearing words like "fart" and "want to die". The reason is that adults sometimes speak carelessly and are learned by children.
Such a bad habit, our earnest persuasion is ineffective, in fact, we should start from adults to put an end to such bad habits.
The bad habits seen in children are, first of all, that adults should reflect and improve themselves.
It is said that children are the best psychologists, and he can understand the state of the family at a glance.
For example, we buy a lot of nutrition for the elderly at home every holiday. Over time, children will understand psychologically that they should first be filial to the elderly.
Therefore, every time my children see the old people at home, they will take out their own snacks and send them to their grandparents: "Grandpa and grandma, you eat, it's delicious ..."
Therefore, when seeing this scene of children, adults should learn to reflect. Reflect on your usual performance in front of children and whether you are filial to the elderly.
Otherwise, the way you treat the elderly in the future is the way children treat you.
My sister used to blame her mother-in-law for being careless, the bottle was not cleaned and the water temperature was too cold. Over time, my sister also learned to see the advantages of her mother-in-law.
For example, she does all the dirty work, cares about others and leads a simple life ... Now she has got rid of those bad habits and is full of gratitude to her mother-in-law.
The reason is clear, but it is not easy to do it seriously.
For example, sometimes I am in a bad mood, my work is not smooth, and so on. I will take some emotions home, see the unclean places at home, and start criticizing my family again. I am in a hurry to find clothes. If I am late, I will criticize my family for not putting them away properly.
In fact, in the final analysis, it is not enough to cultivate yourself. So I often remind myself that how children treat us in the future is the result of how we treat our parents now.
If you want a well-educated child, you must start with self-cultivation.
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