How to address colleagues?

■ Case Analysis Case 1: On the first day when the newcomer met Xiaoling, an old employee, the leader took her to meet her new colleagues in the department. She respectfully called each other a teacher, and many colleagues accepted it with pleasure. When the leader took her to see a lesbian in advance and told Xiaoling that she would try it with that lesbian in advance, Xiaoling called her teacher more respectful. The female colleague immediately shook her head: "Colleague, don't call me teacher, just call me by name." Xiaoling feels that calling people by their first names is disrespectful, and calling teachers may make them feel strange. Zhang Libo, chief consultant of Beijing Long Yin Consulting Co., Ltd. commented: We disapprove of calling talented people teachers. The other party asks you to use your first name. As a newcomer, you'd better not call yourself that. It is not surprising to be polite to many people, even if you are a little unfamiliar, it is better than not respecting each other's "self-invited familiarity", because it is entirely possible for you to call them by their first names. Moreover, in the workplace, excessive intimacy is not worth promoting. Intimacy can be informal after work. Case 2: sudden demotion or job change of the leader. Xiao Gang and Luo, the general manager of this department, have been working together for three years. Recently, however, due to the negligence of general manager Luo, which caused great economic losses to the company, the company's top management decided to revoke the position of general manager of this department. The specific arrangement of the new position still needs to be decided by the company's top management after research. During this period, the new general manager of the department arrived. Xiao Gang, as a veteran of General Manager Luo, feels that the new manager will be unhappy if he is called the original position of General Manager Luo. Call manager Luo's name directly. Manager Luo has just entered a career low tide, and he is not happy. Everyone thinks you are too snobbish to re-export so quickly. Xiao Gang is in a dilemma, especially when the old and new managers are present at the same time. Kou Jialun, a human resources expert, commented: I don't think it's appropriate to "change my mouth" immediately, but it's better to continue the previous title. Because in general, there is a certain inertia in addressing. Just as we say that many retired old leaders have their previous posts, new leaders generally don't care. If the other person keeps saying, "No, no, don't call me that. I'm not a manager anymore. It's really inappropriate to call me manager Luo! " At this time, the other party will usually tell you a new name. Of course, it depends on the psychological orientation of the parties. If the demoted old leader has a high self-orientation and cares about other people's address, or the new manager is particularly jealous, that is to say, the new manager is not allowed to call the original manager. In this case, you should try not to "foul" in the presence of others, which is tantamount to openly challenging the new manager. Case 3: How do senior employees speak? Master Liu is nearly sixty years old and has rich work experience. He has a good reputation among his colleagues, but his position is still average. Manager Hu in the unit has been in business for many years, and his age is not big. I was also an apprentice to Master Liu. Every time two people meet, they are a little uncomfortable. Sometimes Master Liu adds the title "General Hu" to his address, which always makes people feel that he is sarcastic and sarcastic. Later, Master Liu thought that he was not young and was about to retire. He simply called Manager Hu "Xiao Hu". Zhang Libo, chief consultant of Beijing Long Yin Consulting Co., Ltd. comments: I think that in the unit, you must never rely on the old to sell the old, and you must never call the boss "Xiao Wang" or "Xiao Zhang". If so, your boss will have no prestige in front of other employees. If you call me that, your boss may think that you are deliberately putting your qualifications in front of your colleagues, as if to announce to other colleagues: "I am an old veteran. Although you always talk about Manager Wang, in my eyes, you are all young people!" This is undoubtedly disturbing. No wonder the position is so old and low. It's time to reflect on yourself. In the enterprise, the old and low-ranking people are called bosses Mr. Zhang and Mr. Li, which may be awkward at first, but they soon get used to it. In the workplace, the boss is the boss and the employees are employees. Assigning work inspection is a professional division of labor. Try to forget your age. ■ Career advice: On the first day of Yang Jie's employment in Daocheng Software Company, after getting to know my colleagues in this department, the department leader took me to meet my colleagues in other departments, which felt like "traveling". How can you remember the names and positions of hundreds of people at once with your head alone, and how can you address others correctly? If you meet each other in the future and blurt out the correct address of the other party, the other party will definitely think that you respect him very much. So I wrote down the names of some colleagues with a notebook I carried with me, followed by comments, such as appearance characteristics and work I was responsible for. Because they are older than me, I called them teachers at first, but many people asked me to call them by their English names or simply "Xiao Zhang" and "Xiao Wang", so I listened carefully to what everyone said. Some people in the company are westernized, so they like to be called by their English names. If you call them with their Chinese names, you will feel very corny, so you must use English names. Some people like to be called young. If you can call it miss, you must never call it miss, or her face will be stretched immediately. There is a convention in the company to address colleagues. We newcomers had better consult the old employees more, so as not to be disgusted by improper names. If there are many people in the company, it will definitely help to write it down in the notebook. The address must be emotional. How does Liu Canxu Daokang Market Consulting Co., Ltd. accurately address others? I think it is also very important to know how to use emotion in addressing, except according to the position, nature of work unit, occasion, age and gender of the other party. For example, when addressing people with higher social status in public, eyes, expressions, voice level and tone are all very important. If your voice is low and your tone is calm, the other party and others present will think that you are either rude and disrespectful, or others will think that you are introverted, reserved and not generous enough. If we shout too enthusiastically, we will find you very powerful and likable. Therefore, when addressing anyone, you should pay attention to using your own expression and voice to make people present feel that you are warm and generous. ■ The workplace suggests that the government, state-owned enterprises, Japanese and Korean enterprises should embody the concept of hierarchy. In the view of human resources expert Kou Jialun, in state-owned enterprises and Korean-funded and Japanese-funded enterprises with heavy hierarchy, it is best to address colleagues and leaders with surnames and ranks, such as Manager Wang and General Manager Yu, to show respect for each other. Kou Lun Jia specially suggested that the name of the deputy leader must be determined according to the occasion. If only the deputy and colleagues below him are present, the word "deputy" must be omitted. For example, Deputy Director Li directly called Director Li to show respect for each other. When introducing deputy leaders to others, if the principal is not present, it is necessary to clearly indicate the position and show respect. It may be called "Yang Moumou, Deputy Director of SASAC". If the principal is present, all deputies must pay attention to adding the word "deputy", otherwise they will ask for it. Private enterprises can be called nicknames appropriately. In some new enterprises, the relationship between colleagues is relatively loose, so you can call them by their first names. Between familiar colleagues, using some nicknames in private can lubricate the tense interpersonal relationship. However, in the workplace outside the company, you must be careful not to call each other by nicknames or "buddies" or "younger brothers" casually, but to call each other's surnames and positions with great respect, so as to convey your position in this unit, your responsibilities and other information to each other.