This mainly depends on the boss's way of dealing with people, that is, "three views": world outlook, outlook on life and values. Three views can't be justified, boss, but it will collapse if it becomes three views!
Generally speaking, large and small units are a team, and the team needs unity and cooperation to successfully complete the task. Team spirit is the combination of understanding, friendship, organization and division of labor, clear goals and other factors among players, and the emotional bond between employees is an important support. Therefore, bosses with patterns will not restrict them, and will also emphasize that unity is strength.
It should be noted that employees' communication cannot be organized into groups and gangs, and unprincipled buddy relationships often turn into negative energy, which the boss certainly doesn't like.
In addition, the nature of the work of the unit has the characteristics of confidentiality, independence and linearity. Employees should not get too close and must do as required.
I hope the answer can help you.
The boss wants to unite the team centered on him, but he doesn't want teammates to be too United?
I can tell you for sure, yes. No matter what kind of company, no matter how good the boss is, you don't want employees to have more relationships than colleagues. The reason for this is the following：
First, become friends with colleagues, the same small group, when the interests of the company and friends conflict, how do you choose?
The company wants employees to put the company's interests first, so the company certainly doesn't want anything to harm the company's interests, but has more relationships than colleagues, becoming friends, even lovers, couples ... these are not what the boss wants to see.
Because as a friend, when the interests of the company conflict with those of friends, you may choose to sacrifice the interests of the company. Don't tell me you won't, you have to convince others that you won't, and the company won't be willing to spend time and cost thinking about whether you will, and won't take such risks.
Second, from the company's point of view, individual groups are difficult to manage.
Whether as a department employee or a member of the company, the company wants you to be a part of that whole. When you become friends with colleagues, you will have a group outside the department and company, which is very unfavorable to the management of the company.
Imagine if there are various groups within the company, and each group wants to safeguard the interests of its own group, how can the company continue to operate? If your organization thinks that the company's rules and regulations are unreasonable, do you want to oppose the company's rules and regulations?
Third, there are more relationships than colleagues, which will affect the fairness of management.
Especially if you and your friends are in the same department, superior or subordinate, or one of them is a sensitive department.
This is also the reason why the company does not want employees to become friends, lovers and relatives. For example, if you and your friends are sensitive departments such as finance and human resources, is there any risk of revealing any important decisions of the company? And it's unfair to other employees. For another example, if you and your friends are superior to each other, will there be unfair possibilities in daily evaluation and management?
In fact, I want to say that there are really few employees who can really become friends. Most employees you regard as friends may be superficial. People who can really become friends are mostly such a group of people who work in different companies after leaving their jobs, and may become real friends.
Employees and employees can become friends, that is, they can become friends without conflicts of interest. Once there is competition for interests, sometimes friends are at their wit's end.
Therefore, there is no problem when it is calm. Everyone may be very good friends, but once something happens, many friendships will show their true colors under the test of things.
So I don't think the boss will mind being friends between employees, because there is no need to worry about being friends between employees. It's okay not to be interested. You can give it a try and come up with an interest to test these two people, and there will be an unexpected result, which will be tried and tested.
Therefore, real bosses don't care about whether employees and employees will become friends, because they all know in their hearts that such a friend relationship is unreliable. More often, the boss will like the intimacy of cooperation between employees. I think it can be called teamwork, cooperation, consistency and so on. As for you outside of work, are you friends? I don't think the boss is very concerned about this problem.
Whether the boss likes employees to be friends or not, personally, depends on which employee the boss thinks.
We must understand, as a boss, what is his goal?
The answer must be profit.
So from this perspective, it will be clearer whether the boss likes employees to be friends.
The friendship of employees may destroy the existing stock of company profits.
Assuming that several employees have a good relationship, there will definitely be some internal information exchange, and some information is not what many people want for the boss, so in this case, as the boss, there will definitely be some actions.
After all, the things produced by your friendship in the same workplace may affect others, even seriously shake the morale of the army and bring about a decline in sales performance. Naturally, the boss doesn't like your friendship.
In the eyes of the boss, employees have always been a tool to make money.
Some people may not accept this, but on the whole, most bosses think so. The boss gave us 1000, hoping that we could create 10,000 or even 100,000 benefits.
In this way, it is good for the boss that every employee is respectful and conscientious to create profits for the company. The friendship of employees may be considered as a matter of cliques, which will affect a person's making money, and no one will like it.
From the perspective of high probability, the boss really doesn't like the good relationship between employees, so don't forget to block the leader and even the boss when you go out to eat, drink and have fun with several colleagues. It is possible that a photo will ruin your promotion in this company.
The real workplace is walking on thin ice.
Colleagues don't become friends because employees have problems; The boss doesn't like to be friends between employees, because the boss has problems; If the boss cares about the friendship between employees, it is mostly a small company and a small boss.
There are two important factors to measure the success of a manager: first, whether the organization can achieve excellent performance; The second is whether you can establish a good relationship with your subordinates.
What kind of boss (leader) doesn't like to be a small company among friends and a small boss among employees; Department heads of large companies and small structures.
Limited by the size of employees, it is usually said that bosses care about employee friendship, which generally appears in small companies or small departments of large companies.
I would like to share with you some working experiences of white people in the workplace:
Experience one
Xiao Li: After graduating from college, I entered a state-owned enterprise to engage in auditing. There are three people in the department, one leader and two subordinates, and Xiao Li is one of them. Because of their similar age, Xiao Li quickly became good friends with another colleague in the department. They talked about everything and often went to work, got off work and ate together. This just caused the dissatisfaction of the leaders, who criticized one and praised the other at every regular meeting; When arranging work, one arrangement is more than one arrangement, and so on. Gradually lead to the relationship between them drifting away.
Experience 2
Xiao Zhang: After working for one year, Xiao Zhang entered a start-up headhunting company. The boss of the company is a post-90 s woman. There are five people in the company. In Xiao Zhang's words, "there are intrigues every day." What she told me is that leaders can't accept employees fighting together, eating together, talking about their parents' shortcomings and so on. Be sure to have dinner with her after work. It is important to try your best to have a small meeting to alienate each other.
Then why do some bosses (leaders) don't like to be friends with employees, their wages are in a weak position in the industry, and they are afraid of employees leaving their jobs collectively?
There is a law in the workplace: one person leaves, three people hang their resumes, and nine people have the idea of leaving.
Why don't small company bosses like employees to be friends? The main reason is that the company platform and salary are weak. The boss can only brainwash his employees by drawing cakes, leaving only a few employees. If employees are harmonious and interdependent, then one person leaving means several people leaving.
Some department leaders don't like to be friends between employees. The most important reason is that they are paranoid about being killed and can't see the good relationship between subordinates.
Why do employees need to be friends?
Harmonious employee relations are conducive to unity and cooperation with each other, and they can cheer each other up and tide over difficulties when encountering problems. But one thing needs to be eliminated, that is, small groups. Leaders don't like employees to have their own small groups and don't communicate with each other, which is not conducive to departmental unity and cooperation.
Author | Li Xiaoying: HR of Top 500, senior headhunting consultant, partner of consulting company now, once worked and now works. Focus on sharing dry goods and promote the evolution of your workplace. @ Li Xiaoying
Cahill said: "A person without friends can only be regarded as half a person." . In this world, it is basically 0 to live in the form of half a person. Under any conditions, the cognition of both sides is related to a certain extent, regardless of age, gender, region, race, social role and religious belief, which conforms to the psychological cognition of both sides and can be called friends when the other side needs help. Therefore, the division of friends can also be divided into many categories, such as friends, allies, friends, T? H?u, best friends, comrades-in-arms, bad friends and so on.
Allies-refers to friends who form alliances for specific purposes.
Friends-refers to friends who are frank and outspoken.
T hu-referers gave a sincere and simple friend.
In an enterprise, because of the intersection of work and life, the members of the company will inevitably have the above relationship, which can be collectively called friends, but this friendship may bring powerful help to the company and may also bring a kind of collusion resistance. As the boss of the company, everyone hopes that their employees can live in harmony, help each other and create a good working atmosphere, which will bring them anticlimactic strength instead of collusion between government and business. In other words, it's not that the boss doesn't like to be friends between employees, but that he is afraid that employees will become allies against the company and harm the company's interests, such as cronyism, cronyism, mutual shielding, and small collectivism.
The boss prefers the relationship between employees to be T? H?u and friends.
An enterprise is like "a family", unity is the most precious, and taking the interests of the family company as the core is the most important mission. Even if people have different views and opinions, they should seek basic agreement in dialogue and harmony, so that enterprises can move forward. Together, people can do things that no one can do. Wisdom+hands+strength can do almost anything. However, people together can also bring you any disaster you can't imagine. Impulse+evil+strength can destroy everything.
The friendship between Marx and Engels, two revolutionary giants, is unmatched by any friendship in the world. Marx admired Engels' talent and said that he had been following in Engels' footsteps. Engels always thought that Marx's talent was stronger than his own. In their career, Marx was the first violinist and Engels was the second violinist. The writing and publication of Das Kapital is the crystallization of their great friendship. Das Kapital was published in Hamburg, Germany on September 4th, 867. This is a great event in the whole international workers' movement and the crystallization of the friendship between the two giants.
However, contrary to Marx and Engels, China once had a very famous traitor. He betrayed his teammates, colluded with the Kuomintang and killed four important leaders in China. He is Bai Xin.
Bai Xin graduated from the fourth phase of Whampoa Military Academy, participated in the Northern Expedition, and served as the instructor of the Ye Ting Independent Regiment Political Teaching Team. After Chiang Kai-shek rebelled against the revolution, Bai Xin was appointed secretary of the Central Military Commission. Although the position is not very high, but it has mastered the core secrets of * * *.
On August 24th, 1929, Peng Pai, then secretary of the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China Agriculture Committee and jiangsu provincial party committee Military Commission, prepared to hold talks with Zhou Enlai, Chairman of the Central Military Commission. Alternate member of the Political Bureau of the Central Committee, Yang Yin, then Minister of Military Affairs of the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China and jiangsu provincial party committee, Xing Shizhen, leader of mass struggle in Wusong, Shanghai, Zhang Jichun and Changyi Yan, deputy commanders of the picket team of Shanghai Federation of Trade Unions, also attended the meeting. Shortly after the meeting, a group of China spies rushed into the room, and all the five leaders attending the meeting fell into the hands of Kuomintang spies. Zhou Enlai survived because he was ill and didn't attend the meeting. The killing of Peng Pai, Yang Yin, Changyi Yan and Xing Shizhen was the result of Bai Xin's initiative to expose the Kuomintang rebellion.
For enterprises, if the members of the company can always take the interests of the company as the core, work together like Marx and Engels in Qi Xin, and move forward firmly, then the future of the company must be limitless. In the early days of Ma Yun's founding Alibaba, they took out their pocket money and squeezed into Ma Yun's small house in Hangzhou Lakeside Garden to work hard together. After many difficulties and obstacles, they have achieved the great cause of Alibaba.
However, it is not uncommon for employees to engage in small groups, cover up each other and jointly write a letter against the company. For example, I recently read a letter of criticism from the business manager on the Internet, which was to review the huge negative impact on the company because of shielding subordinates.
Therefore, in the boss's mind, the boss prefers the relationship between the employees of the company to be T? H?u and friends. As T? H?u said, their relationship is sincere and simple. They can help each other and do more things that are beneficial to the development of the company. As friends, colleagues supervise each other, remind each other of improper behaviors and correct them, and avoid doing things that harm the interests of the company.
To be the boss's favorite employee, T? H?u and his friends must follow the following points.
First, adhere to the principle of hard system and soft culture.
From an ordinary employee to a top leader, we must remember a very important principle. Respect the rules in front of the system, and the system is above everything else. Emotionally, we must close the distance with our colleagues.
Dong Mingzhu once had such a story. On one occasion, her department staff brought some local products from their hometown in the countryside. Just five minutes before work, he took out his local products and shared them with his colleagues. These comrades are very happy, so they all get together to share delicious local products. Dong Mingzhu just came out at this time. Seeing this, Dong Mingzhu criticized him very seriously. He hasn't left work yet. Why did he start eating at this time? Everyone was fined, and that party was also fined 100 yuan. Many employees thought it was two minutes. What's the problem? But for Dong Mingzhu, this is a very serious problem, because in the eyes of employees, the last two minutes of the system is a human time, without awe.
Afterwards, Dong Mingzhu went to see the employee with fruit and some gifts, and at the same time expressed his condolences with 100 yuan. She apologized to the employee and said that if he was not punished at that time, there would be many human feelings and problems in the future, so the system could not be implemented. Please understand! This employee was embarrassed when he saw this, and he took the initiative to admit his mistake, and resolutely refused to accept Dong Mingzhu's 100 yuan. He knew that he was really wrong.
Second: be reasonable, distinguish between right and wrong, and advance and retreat moderately.
Gentlemen and gentlemen take Tao as their friends, and villains and villains take fun as their friends. It is better to make a gentleman than to benefit a fly. Be a person with a bottom line and professional ethics, make more friends with T? H?u in the workplace, learn to distinguish what to do and what not to do, improve your keen judgment and get along well with colleagues.
Third, take more "vaccination" to improve your "immunity"
Make more friends with people who are excellent, upright, principled and deeply loved by the boss in the workplace, take more preventive shots, establish risk awareness and improve the ability to resist temptation.
Fourth, enhance the awareness and sense of belonging to the company.
Choose a company that you recognize and like to work, participate in more group activities, enhance emotional adhesion to the company, love the company and protect the company. Only when employees love the company from the bottom of their hearts can they think of the company.
Generally speaking, the number of semi-formal individuals in the workplace is basically zero, and friends in the workplace are divided into many categories, including T? H?u and Chen You, who focus on the interests of the company, and allies who help each other cover up and engage in small team cooperation.
Many bosses prefer the relationship between employees to be T? H?u and friends. The relationship between them is sincere and simple, and they can help each other and do more things that are beneficial to the development of the company. Colleagues supervise each other, and if there is any misconduct, they can remind and correct each other to avoid doing things that are harmful to the interests of the company.
Whether the boss likes employees to be friends with each other is not a fixed number or a standard.
First of all, this matter is a boss's personal behavior, which does not mean that all bosses have ideas. Now suppose a boss doesn't like being friends between employees, and let's analyze his psychology, then this enterprise is definitely not big. I'm sure the boss's idea is to be afraid that you will become friends and join forces to do things that are not conducive to the company, such as collective resignation, collective complaints, wage disputes and so on. A little better may feel that frequent private communication between employees is not conducive to management, has an impact on the company's reward and punishment system, affects the company's specific project implementation, and so on; Selfless bosses do this because they are afraid that unscrupulous employees will lead serious employees astray, and employees with chaotic private lives will lead serious people astray. There are various reasons, but it is emphasized that this cannot be a criterion for judging.
Secondly, talk about the benefits of good communication between employees to enterprises. The expansion of an enterprise requires the joint efforts and cooperation of countless teams. If employees have differences, it is difficult to cooperate to finish the work. A good employee relationship is naturally more sticky to the company. It is also conducive to the control of employees by enterprises.
In a word, a boss who doesn't like to be friends with employees is not a qualified business leader.
thank you
First, the definition of a friend:
Friends are soul mates;
Friends are soul-compatible;
Friends are in trouble together;
Friends are the best medicine to correct mistakes.
A true friend is a lifelong confidant regardless of age, status or gender!
You can meet real friends in the workplace, but not many.
Secondly, I think the topic should be about the following behaviors among employees in the workplace that the boss doesn't like:
1. Faction.
Factions within employees are small groups formed between employees because of interests or mutual relations.
Joining gangs for a long time will seriously split the team spirit and affect the efficiency of the department. This is what the boss doesn't like to see.
2. mountainism.
Shantouism mostly occurs in foreign departments, "county officials are not as good as current management." In the long run, the leaders in charge will get carried away, and employees will only recognize the current management leaders. This is what the boss doesn't like to see.
Thirdly, the establishment of true friendship between employees in their work and life will promote good communication and interaction at work, and the boss will also support it. Because:
1. Team development needs a harmonious competitive atmosphere.
This department needs effective and efficient communication.
The development of the company needs a high degree of cooperation.
Therefore, friends in the workplace should look at the situation and the nature of making friends with each other.
thank you
I am honored to be invited to answer this question.
First of all, your question involves the analysis of workplace relations and workplace socialization. I don't think this is absolute. It varies from person to person.
This involves corporate culture and corporate values. In fact, this problem is nothing more than two situations.
If the boss likes to be friends between employees, what impact will it have on the development of the enterprise?
1. The advantage of this situation is that both employees in the same department and employees in different departments can become friends, which is helpful for the coordination of affairs. Many times, when a person can't finish it, it is helpful to have a colleague who has a good relationship with the company to assist him. And for employees, having a good friend in the company is also conducive to the expression of work stress. Especially in the sales department, it is more conducive to the company's business promotion. Although it seems that the same department is in a competitive relationship, the sales departments of some large companies are divided into industries and products, and there is only cross-competition between businesses. If they are good colleagues, they can also communicate with each other and penetrate customer needs. For example, Zhang San is in charge of weak electricity and Li Si is in charge of strong electricity, which are originally two different product lines. However, Zhang San's client, Yang Zong's company, is a company involving two businesses. After finalizing the weak current system with customers, Zhang San can recommend colleagues to cooperate with each other and let Li Si win the weak current business. If he is not a good colleague, Zhang San can completely ignore this matter, which is not his business scope. Just because he has a good relationship with Li Si privately and is a friend, he can help him push the product line that Li Si is responsible for to customers by the way, with a high success rate. In this respect, it is completely beneficial to the company.
2, everything has advantages and disadvantages, there are two sides, advantages and disadvantages. Making friends between employees of the same company, whether in the same department or not, will have a certain impact on the management of the enterprise, and comparing employees will produce a group thinking. When several people become friends, they form a small circle, which still has certain influence on the company's policy implementation. You know, any company can't fire a group of people at the same time. This will have a significant impact on the company's business development. In addition, batch job-hopping also happens frequently, that is, a group of people quit to a competitor company at the same time (provided that the company and employees have not signed a non-competition agreement), which is the most destructive to the company's operation.
Should the boss make employees friends?
The above analysis of the advantages and disadvantages of employees becoming friends in the company, I think each company should be based on the actual situation, what type of enterprise, trade or R&D and production, super-large companies or small and medium-sized enterprises.
In fact, there are many business friends among the employees of Fortune 500 companies, because they have a huge system, a perfect system, a legal department and a compliance department. In fact, they prefer to maintain a good colleague relationship between employees, which is conducive to their absorption of corporate culture. And they have a lot of experience in dealing with the above possible problems. Small and medium-sized companies mainly rely on simple systems and human feelings to manage companies. Many companies that jump ship collectively are of this type. Therefore, bosses generally hope that employees are ordinary colleagues and don't have too much private communication. But people are emotional animals, and it is impossible to meet each other every day in the same company. Some like-minded people will not become friends.
Personally, I have worked in several industries and companies, and my former colleagues still keep in touch and often get together. Later, after I started my own business, I hope all the employees in our company can become good friends, which is good for my management. For example, I am not satisfied with the behavior of one of the employees, but it is not convenient to tell him directly. I can ask my good colleagues in other places to remind him by innuendo. I think this is twice the result with half the effort.
So, in general, different companies have different bosses.
I hope my answer is helpful to you!