Zhang Ailing said in Gossip, "Houses can be destroyed, money can be turned into waste paper in a blink of an eye, people can die, and they can be even more precarious. Like "dismay, staying away from relatives and friends, ordinary people smoking" in Tang poetry, but it is not like the carefree vanity and despair here. People can't stand this and are eager to climb something practical, so they get married. "
But getting married now can't make women feel practical, but a house or a house of their own can make them more practical. As someone said, "A man's house is for marriage, and a woman's house is for divorce."
I don't know how many couples broke up because of the addition of pre-marital real estate license.
Zheng Hui and his girlfriend Kobayashi are college classmates. They both come from the same county. After graduation, they both stayed in the provincial capital to work. Zheng Hui usually works very hard, with an annual income of about 65,438+10,000 yuan and a girlfriend of less than 30,000 yuan, but her work is relatively leisure.
Xiaolin's family conditions are not good, and the money earned every month is basically subsidized. The living expenses of both of them are basically borne by Zheng Hui. Although Zheng Hui's income is not low, they still feel some pressure in the provincial capital, what's more, Kobayashi is not a thrifty person.
Zheng Hui once told Kobayashi that while she was young, she should change her job and work hard. Don't wait until the future when she is old. When she wants to work hard, she will find that she has been eliminated by society.
But Xiao Lin was not moved at all.
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Zheng Hui's father was quite dissatisfied when he learned of Kobayashi's behavior, because he went to town empty-handed and went through hardships to achieve today's results. Therefore, although the conditions were good later, the requirements for Zheng Hui were particularly strict.
However, although I don't like Xiao Lin, Zheng Hui thinks it doesn't matter and doesn't interfere too much. Xiao Lin knows that Zheng Hui's family has bought a house in the provincial capital. The conditions are good and there is no motivation to struggle.
Zheng Hui saw that repeatedly persuading Xiao Lin had no effect. Later, I simply stopped talking about her, and Kobayashi was more relieved.
However, Xiao Lin is a little uneasy. Although Zheng Hui stopped talking about her later, she also stopped talking about marriage with her. She went home with her parents, worried that she couldn't sleep, so she urged Zheng Hui's family to discuss marriage.
In fact, Zheng Hui's delay in proposing marriage also has his father's meaning, just to see if Kobayashi has made progress. However, Xiaolin's family has been urging her, and dragging it down is not the way. Finally, she decided to propose.
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The purpose of Xiaolin's family is very clear, and both the bride price and the house are indispensable, so after talking about the bride price, she came straight to the point and proposed the house.
In fact, they know that Zheng Hui's family has bought a house, and naturally they have their own small plans to buy a house, just to let Zheng Hui add Kobayashi's name to the house.
But the house was bought by Zheng Hui's father, and he didn't like Kobayashi, so he refused, telling them clearly that the house was bought in full before marriage, and the house had already been done, so the name could not be added.
To his surprise, Kobayashi said that she knew the situation, but if she really wanted to add it, it was not impossible. She sold the house first, and then bought it.
Zheng Hui's father couldn't agree, of course. He said it was meaningless except wasting money.
Kobayashi immediately retorted that, of course, it makes sense. One is to prove the sincerity of his family, and the other is that he feels safe.
Zheng Hui's father smiled meaningfully and said, Son, my family really wants to get married, but you don't really want to get married. Also, the sense of security is given by yourself, and relying on others will never feel safe.
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I especially agree with what Zheng Hui's father said. You give yourself a sense of security, and it is never safe to rely on others.
I have always felt that it is an extremely poor excuse for women to add their names to real estate licenses on the grounds of safety. Although not all marriages can have a happy ending, no one marries for divorce.
The name required by marriage, in my opinion, is a transaction in the name of marriage, or even a naked kidnapping. Once a marriage fails, there is no winner.