From love to marriage, it seems to be a good choice. Perhaps because of the handsome appearance or unique personality of the other party, we met the person who made us feel as if we had been electrocuted. Our hearts would skip a beat and then blossom gorgeous flowers, as if the church bells were ringing in our ears. It was wonderful.
The feeling of excitement and intoxication is love. I miss each other when I wake up every day, and I can't concentrate when I go to work or class. When we hold hands, it's like having the whole world. Of course, we can live in such a lingering state for a lifetime, and we don't have to quarrel and fall in love for a lifetime.
But is this really the case?
My best friend used to be the maid of honor of her colleague Xiaoyun. Xiaoyun's family conditions are good, and her boyfriend's family is rural and relatively poor. As you think, the door is wrong, and naturally Xiaoyun's parents object. However, Xiaoyun loves this man deeply. If he doesn't marry, his parents will spoil his daughter.
Concerned about the man's family, Xiaoyun proposed not to buy a house or a bride price, as long as the boyfriend is good to himself. The bride price of the man's house is only 2000 yuan, and there is no decent wedding. Only a banquet is held and a gift is received, even if you are married.
After the marriage, the two rented a humble hut, and the food, clothing, housing and transportation were tight, not to mention watching movies and traveling. And men have no idea of trying to save money at all. They think they can live every day and change jobs every three days. They even think Xiaoyun should give everything for himself.
Less than a year later, Xiaoyun became pregnant, which made Xiaoyun's parents not know whether to be happy or sad. After pregnancy, Xiaoyun resigned and stayed at home to give birth. Without income, having children makes life more difficult.
Hemingway said: "lovers should not quarrel, because there are only two of them, and the whole world is against them." As soon as they are separated, the world will conquer them. "
Xiaoyun's parents couldn't bear to give up their daughter's hard work, so they sold her a three-bedroom house in full. Life should have been better, but I didn't expect this suite to be a curse. Because of this suite, Xiaoyun, a silly girl caught in the whirlpool of love, thoroughly saw each other's true colors.
The man's family took no money as an excuse and completely ignored the decoration of furniture and home appliances. At this time, Xiaoyun is still foolishly putting in a good word for her husband's family, saying that she should be considerate of them. Xiaoyun's parents kept an eye on it. Xiao Yun's name was not written in this suite, but in their own name.
A few days before the due date, my best friend received a call from Xiaoyun, who was crying very dark at the other end of the phone. My best friend was so scared that she hurried to find her, only to know that the man's family disliked Xiaoyun's parents buying a house and didn't write Xiaoyun's name, and had a big fight with her. What about Xiaoyun's husband? Even threatened with divorce, forcing Xiaoyun to ask his parents for a house.
Xiaoyun cried sadly, but finally knew the true face of her mother-in-law's family. In this way, after less than two years of marriage, under the test of a suite, the ugly reality under the glamorous appearance was finally revealed. Xiaoyun really agreed to divorce with a big belly, and the man began to panic. Xiaoyun was completely dead, no longer the silly girl who was desperate for love.
People in love have an illusion that the person they love is perfect. ta can't see some shortcomings that parents and friends around him can see, just like expanding the advantages of each other infinitely and blinding himself, so he can't see so many shortcomings of countless stars next to him.
San Mao said: "Love will not last long if it is not implemented in the real life of dressing, eating and counting money."
No matter how rationally others persuade ta, ta feels that those bad situations will not happen to him. If you expect too much before marriage, you will be disappointed everywhere after marriage. From a romantic infatuation to marriage, it is like falling from the clouds to the ground. Marriage is divided into daily necessities and money, which is the real real life.
Once in My Daughter, Junyan Jiao and Xia Donghai talked about their views on marriage and love. Gao Yalin, the actor of "Xia Donghai" in Family with Children, broke the ambiguity in Junyan Jiao's view of marriage and love: "Love is sharing, and marriage is sharing."
Don't always feel it seems shameful to talk about money in romantic love. That is the reality. Money is not everything, but you can't do anything without it. How to test a person's sincerity? As long as you have money Food, clothing, housing and transportation, raising children to prevent old age, which one does not need money? That is the reality.
When it comes to the interests of the other party, whether the other party really wants to spend a lifetime with you and share the ups and downs of life together, or hiding a greedy face and just thinking of you as a lifeline, will be exposed to the sun.
Girl, don't be fooled by a few sweet words. Sweet words can deceive you as well as your kindness. It is most practical to really share the responsibility and burden of life with you and work hard for your future.