Buses are the means of transportation that people take when they go out every day. Let me bring you bus psychology!
After getting on an empty bus, people generally don't choose the first row seats. They usually choose the back half of the car and sit near the door. This is because when you choose the first row seat, the people sitting behind you will make you feel a potential threat, because you can't see what they are doing behind your back; And if you sit in the middle and back of the car and see the back of most people's heads, you will feel very comfortable. People are usually willing to find someone who looks like? Fearful for the eyes? People who sit together and dress neatly are more acceptable. Some people will feel uncomfortable sitting in the seat where others have just sat and there is room temperature. Is this the reason? Waste heat? As a kind of pollution, some people even stand up and wait for their seats to get cold. The least likable people in the carriage are those who are too self-centered. They usually show themselves by stretching their legs very long, yelling at their mobile phones, or finding a seat next to their bags. Psychologists predict people's most common and comfortable seat selection order through psychological analysis to see if it conforms to your life experience.
The buses, subways and trains you usually use seem nothing new, but have you thought about it? From the moment you get on the bus and choose a seat, psychologists will spy out some potential personality characteristics. Then every move in the car shows you some of your personality invisibly.
The first line is always empty.
Jumping on an empty car, Xiaoyang always likes to go straight back. In the second half of the car, he found a seat near the door, and then he could enjoy the scenery along the way or read books and newspapers. Xiaoyang said that this position made him feel practical.
Italian non-verbal communicator Mark? Parkley has been studying people's behavior in cars for years. He believes that when people get on an empty bus, they generally don't choose the first row of seats-this row of seats is usually not occupied until the car is almost full.
In this regard, the counselor of Beijing Sunshine Huaren Psychological Counseling Institute said that this choice is caused by the unique sense of security of human beings. When you choose the first row of seats, the people sitting behind you will make you feel a potential threat because you can't see what they are doing behind your back; And if you sit in the middle and back of the car and see the back of most people's heads, you will feel very comfortable. It can be seen that Xiaoyang's seat selection method is in line with the law of public behavior.
Will people find it? Fearful for the eyes? People sit together.
This sense of self-protection is also reflected in the fact that people are usually willing to find someone who looks like? Fearful for the eyes? People sit together. A study by British psychologists Houston and Bull found that the seats next to people with physical defects are always empty. The author says that people will have a stronger sense of self-defense in a strange environment. At this time, people who are neatly dressed and good-looking are easily accepted.
At the same time, psychologists have found an interesting phenomenon ―― some people feel uncomfortable sitting in the warm seat that others have just sat in because of this? Waste heat? As a kind of pollution, some people even stand up and wait for their seats to get cold.
A talkative person falls asleep easily.
When traveling long distances by train, people also have different performances. Looking around, some people are sleeping soundly, some people instantly mingle with their neighbors, and some people hold books to kill time.
So, what can be reflected through these behaviors? The author believes that those who read books and newspapers and don't strike up a conversation with others usually have a strong sense of self-prevention and pay more attention to themselves. Do some people? Don't talk to strangers? Credo, and reading newspapers is also sending a message to people around you:? Leave me alone and leave me alone. ? But at the same time, they may keep silent and think deeply about the people around them.
And those who chat with a person as soon as they get on the bus and shake off all the private words in a few minutes are mostly warm-blooded. They are cheerful and like to make friends, but they are also very sensitive and easily excited. Of course, getting acquainted with people around them has another special advantage-it can make them fall asleep as soon as possible, because psychologically, they feel more secure than others.
People who stretch their legs compare themselves.
The least likable people in the carriage are those who are too self-centered. They usually show themselves by stretching their legs very long, yelling at their mobile phones, or finding a seat next to their bags.
The space in the car is limited, and most people are worried that their actions will affect others, and these? Don't like people? Some people are used to indulging in their own world in ordinary life, and seldom take into account the feelings of others. In this regard, the author reminds that in such a closed and relatively narrow environment, we should be considerate of the people around us, such as speaking softly on the phone and not stretching our legs too long.
I believe everyone has had the experience of crowding buses, but have you noticed the following two interesting situations:
Direct case attack
Scene 1: A bus just leaving the station is crowded with people. The aisle in front of the back door, especially near the front door, has almost become a sardine can. On the contrary, the place behind the back door can be crowded. In order to meet the passengers at the next stop, the driver is playing the radio over and over again? It's rush hour now. Would you please take a walk inside? . However, the passengers in the carriage didn't seem to hear, and no one wanted to move.
Situation 2: It is also a crowded bus, and the driver keeps order on the bus. The difference is that the driver didn't play the radio repeatedly like other drivers, but picked up the microphone? Passengers near the back door, please go inside again, and the passengers behind will follow? . With the driver's greeting, everyone moved in the direction of the back door, and the congestion of the carriage was immediately alleviated.
psychoanalysis
Same scene, different effects; What is the difference between the solutions of the two scenarios?
After careful observation, it is not difficult to find that the broadcast object of the first act is aimed at all passengers; In the second scene, the driver gives instructions to some relatively specific passengers? so this is it？ Concrete? Make the effect completely different. This phenomenon has a special term in psychology: depersonalization.
The so-called depersonalization means that when an individual is in a group or engaged in certain activities with a group, the individual has a sense of identity with the group, or pretends to be a member of the group, so that the individual's personality is integrated into the group, thus losing his sexiness. Associated with this depersonalization, individuals seem to lose their binding force as personalities, and under the protection of groups, they do things that violate the social norms that they often abide by in social situations, showing abnormal behavioral tendencies.
To put it simply, depersonalization means that in some cases, individuals lose their individuality and integrate into the group. At this time, people lose self-control, and their behavior is atypical and irregular. What is the typical case? One monk carries water to eat, two monks carry water to eat and three monks have no water to eat? .
Although the broadcast in the scene 1 in this case is played repeatedly, it is aimed at all passengers, so the passengers' sense of responsibility is scattered, and no one feels that they should squeeze in; Even if a passenger realizes that there is no public pressure, or thinks that since other passengers don't take action, he or she doesn't need to squeeze in. Scene 2, the driver shifts the responsibility to others and gets a good result.
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