After collecting many counseling messages from psychological counselors, we found that the most exciting counseling messages are like this!
When writing a consultation message: first, anchor your own field; Then, it emphasizes the help that psychological counseling can provide to visitors and the important role and significance that oneself (psychological counselor) plays in the counseling process.
When our professionalism develops to a certain extent, we must dare to sell ourselves. I mean, believe in your own value and sell yourself on the basis of strength.
Here, I want to point out a common misunderstanding. Many teachers say what psychological counseling can do for you.
But what should be advocated is the role of consultants in consultation. Although the old lady is suspected of selling melons, it is undeniable that moderate self-promotion makes people look more confident and trustworthy.
Let's take a look at the consultation message written by Teacher A:
It's fine, no problem!
Look at the consultation message written by Teacher B again:
The front is the same, but the back will make people have more trust and expectation.
Teachers can consult and set consultation messages by themselves ~
At the end of the lesson, Xiaoxi also compiled the following dry goods quotations, which you can process to better convey the significance and role of psychological consultation and psychological counselor to visitors ~
What is the direction of children, adolescents and family counseling? Consultation news
1. A harmonious family of three should be like an equilateral triangle, and the distance between father, mother and children should be equal. In counseling, it is common that mothers and children are too close, and the marginalization of fathers leads to infidelity. Family therapy can adjust family relations and achieve the ideal state that husband and wife love each other and love their children at the same time.
2. The more you learn, the worse you get? Because children's intrinsic motivation has been replaced by external motivation. Learning is your own business. Don't let children turn learning into a matter for parents and teachers.
Parents desperately want to reform their children's "faults". In fact, it is also a "problem" for parents to persuade and educate their children in different ways, which often makes the problem more solid. Parents can stop themselves and children can learn to change themselves.
Parents' expectation is a double-edged sword. When children are full of anger, they will subconsciously "retaliate" their parents in the way that their parents care most. For example: poor grades, puppy love, running away from home.
If a child is educated by his parents at an early age, he should be obedient and sensible. When children grow up, they will only communicate with others in a "obedient" mode in order to gain the love and appreciation of others, and at the same time, they will be physically and mentally exhausted because of "obedient".
6. Achievement, personality, family, communication, verbal expression, morality, style and other factors are the pillars supporting children's self-identity. If parents only emphasize grades, it is equivalent to letting their children rely on only one pillar, and their hearts will collapse at any time.
7. For children who are "rebellious" in adolescence, parents must do three things: First, accepting "rebellion" is the normal state of adolescence. Second, stop "joking with children's lives" and correct children's thoughts and behaviors. Third, parents should learn to love themselves and pay attention to the relationship with their lover, which will help children calm down rebellion and the impulse brought by rebellion.
8. An anxious mother will say, "Everything I do is for the children. It doesn't matter what I do as long as the child is good. " For children, this is just a suffocating emotional bond. Children bear the love imposed by their mothers, and can't even have the power of "bad", because bad is unfilial to their mothers.
9.？ Suppose a child with internet addiction, you let him surf the Internet 10 hours a day, and he is not allowed to get off the plane for one minute every day, giving pocket money, while his parents sit by and guide him. Slowly, children will lose interest in surfing the internet. The terrible thing is that we are using this way to make children lose interest in learning and life.
10.？ The condition of a good parent is that he can bear the feeling of being abandoned when his child grows up. When a child grows up, it means getting farther and farther away from his parents.
1 1. As psychological counselors, what we want to treat is not the child, but the relationship around him, and the most important thing is the relationship between him and his parents. Psychological problems are actually problems of relationships.
12. Children's greatest loyalty to their parents is to inherit their parents' thoughts, words and deeds, whether good or bad. Parents don't know their children so well, but it is difficult for children to face their own shortcomings.
Emotion, interpersonal direction? Consultation news
1. A person's realistic interpersonal relationship is the result of the outward projection of his inner world, which was formed in the relationship with his parents in his early years.
Perhaps you are more afraid of meaningless powerlessness than facing the malice of others. When you can't guess and find the right way, confusion and fear will make people escape, even depression.
Fear and anxiety come from paying too much attention to the future, while regret and loss come from paying too much attention to the past. In fact, focusing on the present can make people feel calm and happy, that is, "living in the present" is the most powerful.
4.？ When a person feels fear, he might as well make himself angry, because anger is stronger than fear. When you experience anger, you won't experience fear again.
5.？ Fear of facing what you are afraid of is the reason why you are afraid. The only way to "get rid of" is to "go deep". Let's explore the unknown that seems to scare you, and we will have unexpected gains.
6. People who are particularly concerned about other people's opinions are actually anxious about what others think of themselves, but they are too concerned about themselves and have little to do with others.
7. Don't look back on your anxiety, remember and expand your good state as much as possible, and always focus on your strongest point, and a good state will become the norm.
8. Pain can cause two kinds of negative feelings, one is the feeling brought by the pain itself, and the other is the feeling brought by fighting the pain. Fighting pain is much more harmful than pain itself.
9. What is terrible is not anxiety and depression itself, but ignorance of anxiety and depression, which often makes people exaggerate the seriousness of psychological problems and enter a vicious circle.
10. There is no laziness in the world. A person who is too lazy to pour an oil bottle may play cards for three days and nights in a row. How diligent he is. The so-called laziness only uses diligence in other places.
1 1. How important is emotional management? Let's just say that IQ and judgment drop sharply when you are in a bad mood, and you will do a lot of impulsive things when you are angry, and you will want to hurt yourself if your mood continues to be low. Psychological counseling deals with emotions first, and then with events.
12. The feeling of inferiority comes from constantly putting yourself in comparison.
13. People who speak fast often have a nervous anxiety. Because TA was always interrupted by adults when she was a child, she was worried that if she didn't finish her words quickly, she wouldn't have a chance to express herself.
14.？ People with sensitive interpersonal relationships will show inferiority and distrust. In the process of interpersonal communication, people will constantly touch each other's bottom line and test how bad they have to be before they leave themselves. They are people trapped in fear.
15. People with depression are basically "good people". Even when the environment hurts them, they will suppress their inner anger, turn their aggression to themselves, and even have the idea of "killing" themselves.
Family background, personal growth direction? Consultation news
1. When people grow up, in order to experience the same emotions, they will unconsciously repeat the painful or happy events they experienced as children. Psychology calls it compulsive repetition, which means that we "teach" others how to treat us.
2.？ Think about it. Were you there when those painful problems happened? If so, what responsibility should you bear for the result of this matter?
3.？ Man's greatest instinct is to constantly seek familiarity, even if it is painful. For example, children who are abused as children will also use violence to establish relationships with others when they grow up.
If the trauma is not solved in time, it will get heavier and heavier like a snowball. There is nothing wrong with being traumatized. Clean up your own problems. Life is not as bad as you think.
5.？ Most people think that success is a matter of ability, but people ignore another fact-when people subconsciously think that they are not worthy of good things, good luck and love, they will be afraid of success and subconsciously punish themselves.
Intimate relationship, the trend of marriage emotion? Consultation news
1. Many times, I especially appreciate a person because I see my own shadow in the other person. Appreciating TA is just another form of narcissism.
2.？ What should I do if I feel pain when I am lovelorn? Pain is right. This is the performance of "separation anxiety", which also shows that your psychological function is sound. But if you are led by the nose by pain for a long time, you need to pay attention to your psychological state and seek help in time.
3. The motivation for people to do things lies in their sense of participation, existence and value. If a wife complains that her husband doesn't do housework, then don't do all housework. If the husband doesn't participate in housework, he can only feel ordered and complained by the woman, and he has no motivation to do anything at all.
Love and hate between husband and wife are not necessarily the interaction between two people. The interaction between husband and wife is actually the interaction between two families, and the relationship model between husband and wife will bring about the family of their respective generations. Many marital problems can be avoided through psychological counseling and clarifying the pattern of family relations.
In a big family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, parent-child relationship, all stems from the bad relationship between husband and wife. The relationship between husband and wife is always the most needed relationship. Without a good relationship between husband and wife, it is impossible to educate children and handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
6. If parents divorce, it is the most harmful thing to let children speak ill of divorced partners and let them bear the responsibility of family breakdown.
7. There is no problem of marrying the wrong person or marrying the wrong person in marriage. No matter who you marry, it is the person you subconsciously want to choose.
8. Many friends of the opposite sex have talked about a lot of love, but they lack the experience of maintaining long-term intimate relationships with fixed people. This may be a symbol of "love incompetence"!
9. Good girls like bad men, or good men like bad women, which may be a kind of resistance to authority (family, society) and make up for their weakness by establishing contact with so-called "bad".
10.？ What is healthy love? If your heart is full of love energy, the overflowing part will be unconditionally given to others. This is healthy love. If your energy is exhausted, then you may not love others, or you may not believe that others love you.
Integrate the direction of psychological counseling? Consultation news
1. The most important thing in psychological counseling is the handling of emotions. If you are anxious and depressed, you need to be understood, encouraged, full of strength and start over.
2. Psychodeterminism holds that all human activities are the result of some previous reasons, and human behavior can be predicted according to previous conditions and experiences. The so-called fatalism is actually the realization of subconscious wishes and the forced repetition of fate.
If you haven't eaten chocolate, you can't feel it with tens of thousands of words to describe its taste. If you can taste a piece, every word is redundant. The same is true of psychological counseling.
4. Counselors are faced with the second complex thing outside the universe. Facing people's hearts, I will remain curious for a long time. The closer you get to the psychological shadow, the more you cherish the light.
5. During the psychological consultation, one of you asked me, "What should I do?" Let me answer you: "before changing the problem, understanding and accepting the existence of the problem is the beginning of the change, and then the power will return."
6. Psychological counseling allows us to push others by ourselves, so knowing ourselves is the beginning of knowing the world.
7. Every year in China, 654.38+ten thousand people die from traffic accidents, 1 1000 people die from alcoholism, 287,000 people commit suicide, and 100 people die from smoking. Except for car accidents, the latter three are directly related to mental state.
8. No matter how bad you feel, the first person who can forgive and accept you is God, and the second person is a counselor.
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