It has never been easy to understand a person since ancient times.
Especially in this realistic society, real people are hard to find and hard to prevent.
Make friends with gentlemen, and you will get real mutual affection; If you associate with a villain, you will learn a bloody lesson.
"A gentleman chooses to make friends". People who are not good at making friends and are reckless will do harm but no good.
The abyss has a bottom, and people are unpredictable.
Therefore, communication with people depends on his attitude towards others. Be sure to choose your friends carefully and try to stay away from them.
If a person doesn't even love his relatives, then his kindness to you is mostly false.
Such people have no kindness, only interests, and will not be sincere to anyone.
At the class reunion many years ago. Brother Kun is already the best among people. During the dinner, he pushed a cup for a change, and his manners and words all reflected his elegance and carefulness.
Even after the banquet, she took the initiative to contact the driver to send several female students home one by one.
However, no one had a good impression on Brother Kun afterwards, and some even thought such a person was hypocritical.
The reason is that at the party, Brother Kun's daughter-in-law called him and said that the child wanted to eat the roast chicken next to the Drum Tower and brought one back at night.
Brother Kun just "hmm" and hung up.
After a while, the phone rang again. Brother Kun heard that it was roast chicken again.
Immediately screamed: "I am drinking, how can I buy you a roast chicken?" Buy it yourself if you want to eat. I have no time today. "
After that, he dropped his mobile phone on the dining table. Turning around, I started drinking with my classmates again, with a smile on my face.
We often hear people do good deeds, one of which is to love others' homes instead of their own, and to save others but hurt their loved ones.
At first glance, it's touching, but when you think about it, you're terrified. Such a person who is unfriendly to his relatives is debatable in character.
Be kind to your family, that is, don't look at your family, respect the old and love the young, and cherish the time spent together.
A person's greatest success is not how much money he has, nor what kind of fame and fortune he has, but that his family has a home, love and happiness.
The greatest happiness in this life is the happiness of family; The most important understanding is understanding between family members.
If a person can treat his family with harsh words, then he can't be sincere in respecting others.
On the other hand, if a person can take good care of his family anytime and anywhere, then his character will not be bad, because people who are good to their families will also be good to their friends.
I deeply believe that people come and go, outsiders are passers-by, and only family members are long-term partners.
Don't leave your worst side to your family, be kind to your family, and leave your love, tolerance, respect and patience to your family. This is your wisest way of life.
Therefore, remember to stay away from those who don't treat their families well in life.
People who attach too much importance to their own interests are often not kind enough to others, so be careful when dealing with others.
A person's character depends on whether he has empathy or not. Especially when there is a conflict of interest, his reaction can best reflect his character.
Empathy is a way of thinking that puts yourself in others' shoes. When others make mistakes or encounter difficulties, they can think of each other as much as possible.
This is not only a sign of kindness, but also represents whether a person is selfish or not.
At the annual meeting of the company last year, the company asked Xiaolin and Sister Ping to write an activity plan together.
Because Xiao Lin was busy dating her boyfriend, she put off the plan again and again. Sister Ping docked the equipment by herself. From the scheme to the annual meeting, one person worked overtime and finally finished it.
Due to the tight time and pressure, Sister Ping was tired from her busy work and took two days off. And give the plan to Kobayashi. If the boss wants to see it, show it to him.
Who knows, on the first day of Pingjie's vacation, Xiaolin took the initiative to hand over the plan to the boss for inspection. The boss was very satisfied after reading it, and praised Xiaolin for taking the initiative.
Get such praise, Kobayashi didn't say that the plan was completed by Sister Ping.
Half a month later, at the moment when the annual meeting ended successfully, the boss gave a red envelope to thank the organization department of the annual meeting for its encouragement.
And gave more emphasis to Kobayashi 500 yuan. The reason is that it is difficult for her to dock from the early preparation to the late docking.
Sister Ping did not expose Kobayashi's tricks afterwards, but chose not to get involved with such people as much as possible.
In life, one of the conditions is to communicate with people and help each other.
People who lack empathy don't even understand the basics, let alone really help their friends. So for such a person, it is not worth our heart-to-heart talk at all.
People's hearts are as fragile as paper, and things are as changeable as chess. People's hearts are unpredictable, especially those little people, who are capricious and unreliable.
To get along with others, I would rather find some honest people than those who are full of calculations. You are very kind to each other and have no idea that they are calculating you step by step. On the surface, he is a brother, but in fact he is slandering you.
In this world, some people do whatever it takes for their own interests. Those who seem to have a good relationship with you may be the people who come to you.
Especially at work, conflicts of interest often lead to many bad things, so we must take necessary precautions.
At the same time, once you find such duplicitous people around you, you must stay away. You never know what they will do behind your back.
"Don't talk about peaches and plums, learn from others." Kind and charitable people are not bad in character!
I remember going on a business trip with my leader. After the driver arranged by the customer came to pick us up, the taxi in front occupied the private lane because of the traffic jam at the exit.
The driver rolled down the window and said, "Don't you have long eyes? You stop here to earn some money, and I'll complain to you ... "
The leader sitting in the car winked at me, as if to say, "This cooperation should not succeed."
Because he saw the customer's driver so arrogant and unreasonable.
Sure enough, the cooperation between the two sides was finally not reached.
The kindness that really permeates into a person's bones is his nature and his upbringing.
Some people have received higher education, but they have no education; Although some people are not well educated, they know how to respect the weak and the working people at the bottom.
Culture shows only the level of education, and humility and courtesy to the people at the bottom is the most real education for a person.
In his later years, Qian Zhongshu hired a nanny to take care of his life.
On one occasion, Qian Zhongshu overheard that the nanny was short of money to build a house, so he asked Jiang Yang to bring 3000 yuan to the nanny.
Nanny is from the countryside and can't speak Mandarin well, but Qian Zhongshu respects her very much.
Later, when Qian Zhongshu died, the nanny said sadly, "I will never meet such a good person as Mr. Wang again." Never put on airs and respect me everywhere. "
People often show their true side in front of the weak. The more cultured people are, the more willing they are to respect the weak. The lower the level, the better.
Therefore, a person's education depends on how he treats the weak.
The ancients said, "Virtue is the king of talents, and it is the slave of virtue."
Whether a person can make friends depends on his personality.
If a person is kind to his family and helps others, his character will naturally not be bad;
If a person is what he looks like and is not selfish, his character will naturally not be bad;
If a person is kind to the weak and does not bully the weak, self-cultivation is naturally good.
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